I am a very lonely man so I am genuinely curious whether I should bite the bullet and date a woman who already has a child. Is it really that horrible? I think adoption is admirable so it seems to be similar.
if you love her then the child will be one of the best things to happen to you. figure out your level of attraction to the mother. take it day by day and week by week and seek to understand how tiring being a mother to a young child can be. staying energized with a high-raw vegan diet based around botanical fruit flesh (lots of 'veggie-fruits' with seeds in them) helps tremendously. control your adult emotions around the kid, but be as transparent as possible with the mother without being offputting. also i recommend paying attention to the color of your foods and feeding everyone their favorite colors more often. this is slightly speculative, but for me personally it has made a big difference to focus on purple and blue meals with fruiting and flowering energies. i have dated a mother for seven and a half years and it has been transformative far beyond what i had anticipated at the outset, as intense as it was in the beginning. she is married though so the situation is a bit different. polyamory is an option to perhaps consider, but it has to be done with care and it can be really awkward when one has a kid in their life. i feel kids are far less judgmental about it than adults are regarding this. mothers can be overprotective of their kids, so serving the kid's needs based on their hopes and dreams can be difficult if the mother does not yet think of you as her kid's father. be patient. this is advice for life; if you don't end up with this woman and her kid there is a good chance you will develop feelings for someone with kids at some point. i don't know what women think of me having a stepdaughter but the ones i am most attracted to seem to perceive it as a positive. it makes sense; experience raising kids helps when raising future kids. good luck with your situation and in life more generally.
i feel a white person would look like a banana or pear or something insjde, personally. or would have some sort of aesthetic obsession with it and hear it in sound and that sort of thing. calling someone white because of their creme skin or ancestry or whatever seems rather arbitrary. i don't see many people pooing white like most birds do.
>>11171 >hurr durr race is just a skin color
yep, you're white alright.
let me tell you something wigger, if you think race is inconsequential, if you think that dealing with disgusting single mothers is ever a good idea, if you think that paying out of your ass raising another man's child is ever acceptable, then you deserve everything you will get. Cuckoldry, bitchy wife, divorce. Good luck mr. Wigger.
if you were a single father would you want women dismissing you like that? can't just reduce the complexity of life to meme words. people transcend their races all the time. hang out with the people and animals you most want to hang out with and magical stuff will consistently happen. most people are traveling in different directions, so when two people's paths converge then it is important to reconsider one's values for oneself and embrace the possibility that things will turn out far better than anticipated, in myriad mystical and enchanting ways.
>>11173 >if you were a single father
the only justification for being a single father is if your wife is DEAD. Otherwise, you have a responsibility to your children and your wife, and if your wife is getting out of line, it is also your responsibility to fix that problem one way or another.
So yes, indeed, if women were discriminatory against single fathers, that would be entirely justified. It is not an issue of what sex you are, it is an issue of being a degenerate who has split up his own family. Of course, single fathers are much less likely to exist than single mothers, since your legal system is run by wiggers and subhumans, who will give the (usually degenerate) mother custody most of the time.
if one raises a child with their virtues and cultures them with the finest arts and philosophies then they tend to come to resemble oneself. it is bizarre to me how obsessed some people are with a little bit of semen, as if that will determine someone's entire life trajectory. if male semen is that powerful and you worship it that way then consider that you are not the firs nor only great man. if your waifu has great taste in men and is not promiscuous then why be bothered that she wants multiple partners in the way you want multilple partners? if two people want lifelong monogamy, that is great. a lovely pairing. there are multiple equally valid paths though and polyamory is worth considering while transcending all the other false moral axioms of this epoch.
>>11162 Well, if you really really like her, I don't see why you wouldn't. But I would add that you wouldn't have to ask a question like that, since the "true love"™ does not leave space for consciousness, or so I believe.
If you have other reasons, then I don't know. I just want to warn you that being that desperate stinks, and she will feel it. And I don't want to sound overly cautious, but she might be desperate too, meaning she might be "reeling you in" or something.
And to not sound depressing, she might give you what you want, like the comfy space of a family. But it must go both ways, like, both of you should give and take, or else there wouldn't be much reason for your union.
Also a little note on the kid, since there were comments: don't do it. Or do it, but FFS, DON'T rape and DON'T blackmail/manipulate, you don't want that shit. Or so I believe, at least. xP
consider listening to laraaji's music to get over hangups about 'non-white' people. white is probably my third fsvorite color next to indigo purple and azure. i totally understand the fascination with color but there are a lot of souls regenerating this realm coming from all the races and cultures and colors. just gotta develop the self to tap into the regenerative layers of reality and find these beings more often and more consistently.
toumani diabate is another great artist to listen to. i recommend the album 'the mande variations' most but he has put out many great solo and collaborative albums.
>>11165 >I just met a girl who seems to like me but she already has a kid.
No sane man wants to be around a single mother and her shitty bastard child.The brat will almost always be a terrible child because his father was a low IQ thug who pump and dumped the whore.And you will be enabling the said whore while the ungrateful bastard child shits on you because you are not his/her real father.Also raising a bastard child means having one less child of your own, that is if she will want to get pregnant with you any time soon.
If you are okay with children you are better off finding someone who will give birth to your child.
No way!!! She either is extremely degenerate or she broke her marriage vows as marriage lasts forever, even into the afterlife. Both of those situations show red flags in that you would not want to pursue that person as a potential mate.
>>11203 She was actually married before so you might be right.
Dating single mothers harms society.NanonymousNo.11230[D]>>11231
Supporting single mothers damages society by encouraging abandonment of fathers or having a child without a committed father. Dating them also damages society by reducing the negative consequences. If you date a single woman, you are harming your society.
>>11230 Note that if you're white, society is already harmed to the point of unsalvageability, so you should just date single mothers. Wiggers are inferior to hapas and always will be.
>>11232 >you alt right idiots
I bet you're white. Watch as this wigger makes it clear that his race is trash and cucked.
Find me a single single mother who is a hapa and I can find you 1,000 white single mothers. That more than makes up for the population disparity doesn't it?
>>11232 >Why did you alt right idiots bring race into this? It has nothing to do with single motherhood.
Wrong.Single parenthood is much more common among children who have black fathers.Even more common if the mother is white in which case between 80-90% of them end up being single mothers.
It sounds to me that the child is half black and you are avoiding the questions about it because you are ashamed of it.
>>11250 Would she go for it? Well, she would, but there are "simpler" emails that don't require you to go to clearnet version to create account. I might be paranoid but so is hapase - don't take any chances!
>>11251 >here are "simpler" emails that don't require you to go to clearnet version to create account
I don't know any. In fact, all my pseudonymous accounts are at cock.li, since it's the only fairly private email I know of.
>>11162 Only if she's a widow. If she's not, one of the following things is the case:
1. She fucked Chad, and Chad left her. Now she's looking for a simp to raise Chad's kids. Don't think that will inspire any loyalty on her part: when Chad II comes around, she WILL lust for his seed, and you'll end up raising his kids, too. You don't want to be around that.
2. She divorced/got rid of an abusive husband/boyfriend. This means she got with and got inseminated by an abusive guy. She makes poor life decisions. You don't want to be around that.
3. She divorced/got rid of a perfectly fine husband/boyfriend. She's scum. She destroyed her family to play the field. You don't want to be around that.
4. She was divorced/gotten rid of by her husband/boyfriend. This means:
4.a. She picked a shitty husband/boyfriend to breed with. She makes poor life decisions. You don't want to be around that.
4.b. She was so insane/abusive/intolerable that a perfectly decent guy had no alternative to leaving her. You don't want to be around that.
Do you see a pattern, here?
Remember that in $CURRENT_YEAR womyn are stronk and independent and don't need no man. When it comes to sexual and romantic relationships, men propose, and women dispose. *They choose.* That means that single mothers, unless they are among the rare few who were widowed while their children were still young, are SCUM. Without exception.
So, assuming the woman you're interested in isn't a widow, the question isn't whether you should date a single mother, it's whether you should date scum. The terms are interchangeable.
>>11261 >5. her husband/boyfriend was taken in an unfortunate accident.
That's her side of the story and everyone has one.Every fat lady has a sad tale to tell on why she gained so much weight.And every single mother has a similar sad story which is greatly exaggerated to fit her narrative.
If you don't want to be helped then we can't help you.You are free to date a single mother and be miserable like most men who do.Only because you are desperate for sex and female attention.Just remember when sex dries up you will be stuck taking care of another man's child not your own.
Honestly, if I were you, why not.
Single moms tend to be selective as pretty much majority of them were left alone by someone, so they want someone with, hm, blinkers, ie conventionally manly and moral; if that's your thing and can financially secure her and her child, you are a-okay. They also, given that we are speaking about intelligent, sentinent women who had long relationship, learned from their mistakes. Aside the child I'd say they are better choice than without-child women. If you think that adoption is admirable and you love the woman, there's hardly any downside but the usual one that comes with women who were in relationships and gave life; they are loose.
>>11280 >given that we are speaking about intelligent, sentinent women
>tfw too intelligent to not become a single mother
I bet it was their plan all along to raise a child on their own so that they can become mature and attract a better man.Truly a genius move on the single mother's part.
coming next:
The single mother's strategy of bringing a sex offender to her house so he can rape her daughter and make her a better person.
I am a very lonely man so I am genuinely curious whether I should bite the bullet and date a woman who already has a child. Is it really that horrible? I think adoption is admirable so it seems to be similar.