I went to grab a lunch and not knowing the place well followed my colleagues.The two men never minded my presence nor did the girl.When I picked my food I decided to eat alone while the trio walked away.A minute later the girl goes back to get me and gestures me to follow her.I decide to walk away and she tells me to follow.I don't want to do that so I tell her that I am going back to the building and walk away.
>>10611 I won't lie that was pretty weird of you, it was probably depending on the context rude of the others to ignore you, but if you wanted to eat alone you should have just told her. I'm an introvert and i understand that is difficult but be assertive, don't speak or behave in a vague way and don't leave situation open and it won't be ankward anymore.
>but if you wanted to eat alone you should have just told her.
This.
Also I would add it's not that weird, like, not "creeps me out" weird. It's kinda funny though.
- Hi %username%, let's go eat with us!
- …
- Follow me.
- … *walks away*
- OK LOL
It was funnier in person because I attempted to sneak away when she turned her back on me just to be invited again.
>>10617 Grug no care what Gruga and friends think.Grug his own person.Grug alone and sad.Grug go beat his rock to rock paintings of women who look like Gruga.
You joined and abandoned a social interaction without providing any context or explanation. That's unusual and potentially offensive, since you ignored an offer without having the respect to tell them why.
Just a one sentence explanation would make it much less weird.
>"I need a bit of time alone right now, I'll see you back in the office".
>"I'm a little stressed at the moment, sorry".
>[the truth] - (may possibly be weird, but will hopefully stop then trying again. Use with caution but often its the best choice)
I'll attempt to empathise with Gruga:
>let's have lunch with friends, so that we can eat while talking to each other (doing both together is a great way to build social bonds, see the etymology of 'companion')
>Grug is close by and we know him. Grug is a human and will probably see value in being socially included, plus we get the opportunity to understand more about this mysterious character. At least it would be polite of us to give Grug the option of joining us without feeling awkward.
>*give common signal to request you join them*
>*Grug sees your signal and leaves immediately*
>Why didn't Grug join us, or even say why he couldn't? Does he hate us?
(best case) maybe he is shy or was stressed
(medium case) maybe he's weird or a loner
(worse case) maybe he hates us for no reason. what a cunt.
Gruga called me on my phone when I was getting lunch for myself.She managed to obtain my number from the company as we are all required to give out contacts.She asked me to join them for a coffe but I rejected her saying "No thanks".I asked how she got my number but she didn't answer.
>>10645 You are a pathetic, limp-wristed soy bitch. Please go hang yourself immediately. Weak-fisted people like you are why white countries are suiciding themselves. Also:
>obtain my number from the company
>I asked how she got my number
>but she didn't answer
>>10645 Now it's antisocial as fuck.
I mean, it's OK if you need some time alone, but if your human interaction goes like that all the time, then you have some issues to work through. xD
>>10647 >You are a pathetic, limp-wristed soy bitch. Please go hang yourself immediately. Weak-fisted people like you are why white countries are suiciding themselves
I am 80% sure that she has a boyfriend and I am 100% sure that she is just being friendly.Majority of white men have no problem getting laid but they never produce children because most women don't want kids.That's why the west is dying.
>>10657 >I mean, it's OK if you need some time alone, but if your human interaction goes like that all the time, then you have some issues to work through. xD
I usually don't interact with people especially not women.
I don't socialize because all my hobbies and interests are considered "weird" as such I can't talk about them.But if you get close to someone you want to tell them about the things you find interesting and you can't do that.I also don't have any personal cheerful stories to tell.I don't travel or care about normalfag culture.At my age being a virgin is extremely uncommon so dating anyone carries a risk.When I am around people I feel like someone who spent 15 years in a forest just to discover how much society has changed during his isolation.
You weren't the weird one, this was just an awkward situation in general. Since you were initially with them, they expected you to stay with them and talk while eating. It would have been weirder to stay and not talk. You cut it off at the right time.
>obtained your phone number and asked you to join them for coffee
If you already declined their first attempt at including you, this was a futile gesture. Maybe she wanted your wizard card, nanon.
>>10666 >You weren't the weird one, this was just an awkward situation in general. Since you were initially with them, they expected you to stay with them and talk while eating. It would have been weirder to stay and not talk. You cut it off at the right time.
I know when to cut people off from experience.
>If you already declined their first attempt at including you, this was a futile gesture. Maybe she wanted your wizard card, nanon.
She is just friendly towards everyone.Chatty but intelligent average looking girl that is really popular with guys because she is easy to talk to.She dresses plainly and does not really wear make-up.
>>10667 >She is just friendly towards everyone.
Then it wasn't an invitation to become actual friends, but the sort of superficial acquantances normalfaggots have, like "facebook friends" - people they can say they "know" and "hang out with," living accessories, but nothing meaningful or important. You didn't miss out on anything.
>>10669 >Then it wasn't an invitation to become actual friends, but the sort of superficial acquantances normalfaggots have, like "facebook friends" - people they can say they "know" and "hang out with," living accessories, but nothing meaningful or important. You didn't miss out on anything.
It amazes me that a weirdo like me with no social experience knows this but most guys think that a girl being nice to them=sex.Social normal people go through hundreds of people like me who they forget within a year and never recognize again.
>>10676 You're wrong this is a good thread about sociology, definitely a quality thread.
>>10667 >>10669 >>10672 You should try to dedicate the least energy for this kind of superficial people cause it will be wasted, still some time you are forced to interact with them like in OP situation, you don't necessarily have to play by their rules, OP was not in the wrong he just did it in an ankward way.
I went to grab a lunch and not knowing the place well followed my colleagues.The two men never minded my presence nor did the girl.When I picked my food I decided to eat alone while the trio walked away.A minute later the girl goes back to get me and gestures me to follow her.I decide to walk away and she tells me to follow.I don't want to do that so I tell her that I am going back to the building and walk away.