sarobah wrote:I have never met a teacher who has not, at some stage, said something like “I’d like to murder those kids.â€
I have never met a doctor who did not, at some stage, speak wistfully about administering deadly poison to an obstreperous patient.
Thoughts and words do not equal deeds.
That's true - hence why I said that the occasional thought that might pop into your head is completely acceptable. There is literally nothing you can do to stop that - it's how the mind works and it's completely innocent.
What I was saying I had a problem with is people consciously entertaining those kind of thoughts. There are a couple of things that I've read on this thread that suggest that some people aren't just having small, random, innocent thoughts like, "I'd like to murder that kid" or "Damn, my student would look good tied up" or daydreaming about it without realising. It seems as though people are ACTIVELY thinking about it - and that's what I have a problem with. Even if you aren't going to act on those thoughts directly, they are still entirely inappropriate and unprofessional. If you're in a position of authority over someone, especially kids, then it's your job to protect them - and in my head, that definitely rules out deliberately fantasising over them. . .