Preamble: In my relationship I have to "top from the bottom". In short, I like to be tied up but my TUG buddy doesn't particularly like to do it. But, she knows it is a need I must have satisfied from time to time and she is willing to do it. The biggest problem is she doesn't feel confident with her skills so I generally have to tie myself up and then she'll come in later. Hey, I'll take it. Heck because she didn't do the tie, sometimes she forgets to check on me for a very long time… Which can be very nice.
Also, for me, being tied up is about being used as a sexual tool. So, be warned: Thar be sex ahead..
Description: Me: 5'9", 150 lean fit pounds (crossfitter, triathlete), shaved legs. Kay: 5'9", 170 lbs, half-marathoner.
2 Aug 2014:
I had only recently realized that I seem to link my needs and sexual arousal in general to some level of embarrassment and shame. Even with my wife of 11 years. Weird. But, I've been trying to release that issue and, frankly, we've had more sex in the last 8 weeks than we have in the past couple of years.
So, when I felt my imagination running wild again I just let her know, that same day. This time she remembered! After we got the kids to bed, but they still weren't sleeping, she said, "Well, you going to go do your thing?"
Yes, yes I was.
I had decided I wanted to be chair tied and sensory deprived, so I got everything together and headed into the bedroom.
The biggest problem with a self tie is making it inescapable, especially if you are into rope, like me. It needs to be inescapable AND comfortable. Anyone can bind themselves with some variation of a slipknot, but I like to be tied up for hours, so it can't be crushing my blood vessels.
I told her before I went in that I didn't think I could finish it all without her, so if she could check on me in a bit, I'd appreciate it.
At first I tried to come up with some sort of locking slip knot that I could pull with my teeth to secure my hands finally to the chair legs, but my quick experiments went nowhere so I said to hell with it.
First a confession: originally I wanted to tie myself to the chair and pre-rope my wrists with a lot slack. Then I wanted Kay to let me touch myself until I got REAL excited and then pull my hands back and tie them off. Then I wanted her to blindfold me, put headphones on, play some music I didn't like, and leave me. But I never told her all of that, so I guess I'm still a bit embarrassed after all.
Anyway, I quickly stripped naked and lashed my ankles to the chair legs. I really like to lash my knees to the chair too, so I can't close my legs at all. But, experience has shown me that it is difficult for Kay to get me inside of her if I can't slouch down a bit. So, I left my knees untied.
Then I pre-roped my wrists just like I had initially envisioned. I quickly tied my left wrist to the chair leg (Ikea Henriksdal chairs, red slipcover, BTW). I tied the free ends to the front leg, so I couldn't reach them to untie myself. Then I grabbed my phone and texted Kay: "Coulnt finish on my own can you comr help?"
I'm not sure where auto-correct went on that one.
I sat there for a moment. No response from Kay. Shit, she may not be looking at her phone and which case she might make me wait for a long time and I won't even be tied up the whole time. Unnacceptable.
So, I contrived to swing a free end under the chair again and again until I caught it with my bound left hand. Then I could tie some simple overhand knots to secure my right wrist to the chair leg pretty securely. Of course the knots were within reach, but if I added enough of them it would at least take some time to escape. I'll take it.
Experiment completed, I reset everything, blindfolded myself by wrapping a silk handkerchief around Kay's stretchy athletic-style headband and pulling it over my eyes (SUPER effective BTW, and comfy). I put on my headphones, started iHeartRadio with L.A. 98.7, and executed the self tie on my right wrist. I must have put 4, tight, overhandish knots on that thing. Then I settled in.
I liked it. I had the radio pretty loud so I couldn't hear the door. The A/C would cycle and blow cool air caresses over my skin and groin from time to time. I shave my legs and trim my genital hair, so I could feel every waft.
Every now and then I would think I heard her stealthy approach and I would get aroused for basically no reason. Of course it wasn't her and the wait went on. Longer than usual. I was digging it.
Then I heard the door open, "BANG" and her voice like a Schultz "Waa Waa" drifting across the room. I decided I would ignore it to see if she realized I was basically deaf. Nope. She said something again. Eventually I relented, "I can't hear you very well! [hint hint]."
Hint not received. She said, "I said, what did you need help with?"
"Uh, I'm fine now." Man was I glad I committed to the self-tie!
"Oh, okay." Door closes.
She left me! Didn't even come in really! At first I thought maybe she was trying to make me THINK she left. I steeled myself for a surprise touch. I got a little aroused. But it became clear that she didn't come in. But that's awesome too, because I love waiting to be being used when it's convenient for her. So I sat.
Eventually the door opened again and she came in. She never got the hint though because she walked right up to me and started talking. I don't know what she said because she ran a light finger across my freshly trimmed genitals and then she disappeared into the bathroom. I heard the door shut.
My cock pulsed with my pounding heart for a good few minutes after she left. Then I felt it finally subside wetly onto my inner thigh.
I heard the shower door and eventually smelled her shampoo.
She came out of the bathroom and removed my headphones. Her fingers ran along my skin, circling ground zero, but not touching it. Arousal was complete and instant, and immensely satisfying.
Kay started by lightly running her fingers over my legs and flanks, occasionally "accidentally" brushing my erect cock. Then, without warning her fingers drifted to my balls, giving them a terribly light tickle with her fingernails. That drives me crazy. I gasped.
When I gasped she pushed one of her breasts into my mouth. She held the back of my head, holding me in place while I licked and sucked and circled and nibbled. All the while she stroked my cock and balls with light fingers. She worked those fingers down to the base of my balls, in that oh so sensitive spot that makes my cock stiffen and pulse, no matter how hard it already it was.
She switched breasts, pushing the other one into my mouth until I gave it the same level of attention.
She took her delicious fingers away from my cock and she moved away. But I could hear the wet sounds and her own moans and I knew she was pleasuring herself. I leaned down with my mouth but couldn't get close to help. I felt her foot next to my thigh and she grabbed my cock and used it to play with her clitoris. I could feel how hot and wet she was. I leaned in to kiss her chest and she said, "Not yet..", and moved out of reach. I love that.
We've had sex standing up before and I know her legs get weak when she gets close to an orgasm. Sure enough, as her breathing got louder, she straddled me and sat on my lap, pushing my cock inside of her. As predicted, I needed to slouch a bit to help get the angle right. Even so it was a strange angle, with a mild pull to it that wasn't 100% comfortable. For me anyway. She seemed to really like that extra vector and she climaxed fairly rapidly.
As much as she doesn't seem to want to initiate these games, she sure seems to get off pretty vigorously every time we play them.
But, I digress. She rested on me a bit, riding the last waves of her pleasure out. I think she intended to get off me before I finished, but it didn't happen that way. I'd been tied up for over two hours, played with, and screwed. I started lifting up my hips a bit, and she let me. I pushed and pushed the best I could, sliding lower and lower into the chair until I felt my head lean against the back of the chair and then I climaxed.
Strange groans and squeaks left my throat as I abandoned myself to the feeling, free of any shame or embarrassment, just ecstatic at the release.
All in all, a fantastic session.