hi again! first thnx for ur attention! many of u tried to help about the issue via pm and posting here, and i really appreciate it, just knowing anyone give a damn about me and my problem (honestly didn't expect this much!) and many asked about more details so i guess it's fair to tell the whole story here. but read if only u wanna help cuz i already know it's a stupid situation but here it is:
Sara is one close friend to me, she's pretty cute. kind and so sensitive. but also so fragile becuz she just passed a hard time after a disaster relationship! it took a long time for us (her friends) to help her back on her feet. and few months ago she met this new guy, seemed a nice boy, a bit older but she was happy with him...good news for us afterall, at first though!
then her paranoid got started, almost since this summer!
she's kept suspecting him for cheating behind her, and it got worse time by time, even though she asked me to help spying on him to figure it out (believe me i know it's no way ok but i had no choice!) and nothing came out bad about him. results showed he is really clean or if he's cheater he does it very good.
i thought after that Sara will let it go, but she was still crazy! and without firm evidence she just refereed to her woman-senses "i know there is someone!"
just to add it to the background i can't say she's wrong! i really don't like him, he is full of secrets and lies, and the way they got together,,,just let me say she dumped another girl to reach Sara! that easy? so yes i can't trust him either. but she knew it from the very first time and it's her fault now! in fact i tried to convince her that this one isn't the one...but she just ignored *sigh *
before u telling me..yeah i know it's her fault not mine so let it go...but pls! she's my old friend and no matter who's fault it is, i can't let her go. i have to help
ok sry for taking it long...short story ; i hardly convinced her to take some time, going for a short trip somewhere and refreshing her mind for a while....she accepted but just before it she gave me a number, asked me to check it.
it seems our guy was trying so hard to hide this num from Sara and denying it. but when she checked his phone when he was away she found it was called several times and all when he wasn't around her (she's been living in his apartment for about a month) enough for her "woman senses" to get suspicious .
i tried my best to convince her to let it go but she insisted and i accepted,but for the last time she promised. i think u can guess what...turned out it was a girl, and i'm not sure but i guess i know her voice ,say 60%. and as far as i know she is possible to be an affair .
now, i give u a hand here, i know what are quick answers:
1.tell her, don't make a big deal out of it
i was there when she broke last time in a same situation, she is really weak to take it...we killed ourselves to make her give up smoking, she got addicted in a month and only at her last of 18th. and now it's different... she's already nuts! God knows what she would do finding out. at least right now. she's not able to handle it! not easily.
2.tell him, let him know he should knock it off!
not so simple though! first of all i gave her my word i never mention it to him. but ignoring this there is possibility that i'm wrong, what happens? he gets angry aboutus spying on him and he will dump her! worse of worse! then she will hate me all along for breaking my promise...in the other hand if he's even a jackass he is also smartass! i believe if i do that he just denies and how i prove myself? then he will take advantage of Sara for ,again, spying on him and uses her for as long as he wants then dumps her...again!? and me , i become who did this to her, does she ever find out the truth? the devil bf wins X(
3. tell her what u know and help to find out the truth together.
it's not the first time, she had given me another strange number once before, it was a guy though . i just asked what if it was a girl? and she just answered "i kill myself" well i know she was exaggerating but with this start of our reasonable girl (?) how it will end up?
my guess: as far as i know her (very well) and according to her last relationship which was kinda same to this situation, i think she calls him "fu@k u i'm leaving" but she just wants him to explain it, finding some excuse not to leave, and then he explains it...lies , makes something up, whatever it takes to fool her again, and she will buy it!

the rest of the story is she remains gf but always crazy about that girl...getting worse by time and ....crap i dont know what then!
u see i really don't know what to do , and if i keep it...is it right? i don't know again....damn i hate " i don't know" part
i cut it here whatu think? yeah u probably laugh and keep walking but...what i do?
