How to suggest doing a tug to my friend

Postby Dewey25 » Thu Nov 19, 2015 4:47 pm

Hello all,
I have done a bit of self bondage, and now I want to try it with another person. This week, a good friend of mine is staying at my house. We are not in any kind of relationship, but have been known to some times do a bit of making out. I want to suggest doing some kind of TUG with her. Nothing serious, maybe a spread eagle on bed post, or somthing like that. Nothing sexual. I'm scared of asking her to tie me up because I'm worried that she will think I'm a kinky freak. Any suggestions on how to ask her?

Re: How to suggest doing a tug to my friend

Postby OverLooker » Thu Nov 19, 2015 7:41 pm

Maybe watch a movie where someone gets bound and gagged and use that to start a conversation like "that dont look to hard i bet i could get out of that no problem" or "i bet i could tie you up better then that lol" or you could have her walk in on you looking at bondage/BDSM/TUGs on the computer and hope she is interested. Or you could always just confess it to her and see what is said. I would love to hear how it turns out. Good luck.
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Re: How to suggest doing a tug to my friend

Postby Mmph Squad » Sun Nov 22, 2015 5:52 am

OverLooker provides some good points in his post. Perhaps start out watching a movie and making casual comments. Then try to work towards a discussion where you explain how some people (yourself included) like tying / being tied up. You may want to stress the difference between friends playfully binding eachother and the stigmatized world of bondage. Like many of us you don't want to hurt or dominate anyone, you just wish to have fun. Best course is to be honest, the worst thing that can happen is you become that token person that's into it in your friend's group, and this will give you opportunities later through word-of-mouth.

I use to really fear folks "figuring me out," but the reality is that you will meet more people like you by being up-front, and while your friends might say you have this thing for "women struggling in clothesline with a handkerchief stretched across their mouth" you also are a good friend and have virtues that make that just one of your personal peculiarities.
To tie or be tied? I'm not one to care as long as there are gags!