Postby SamanthaBoundx » Thu Jul 12, 2012 12:51 pm
I think gags can be quite disconcerting to some people. I used to have a boyfriend who was happy enough to tie me up but refused to use gags even when I asked him to. He told me that he found it weird and a bit too "hardcore" - because even though a bit of tying up and light bondage was fun, he felt like gagging crossed a line.
But it's worth talking to her about it to see what it is that she doesn't like about the idea. You also need to talk to her about why you like the idea so much - if she understand what makes it sexy for you, she might start to find it a little sexy herself. You just need to sit down and be really open about it. Don't bring up the topic whilst in the middle of a TUG, make the effort to talk it through as a seperate issue so you can discuss it properly and work out what you both think about it - and be completely honest. It might be a little embarassing at first to talk about it so frankly, but just dropping hints here and there will never get you what you want.
At the end of the day, you also have to accept that it might be something that she just isn't into - and if she really doesn't want to gag you, you shouldn't try to force her to. I think that it's easy to forget in bondage situations that the dom/domme might actually be the more uncomfortable one.