Need advice on how to be more dominant

Postby Birkthegreat » Tue Sep 27, 2016 8:16 am

Hello,
So ummm... I'm new here and also quite new to the whole BDSM scene. My girlfriend is really into BDSM and she's a submissive. She wants me to dominate her during sex, but I really don't know how and I've tried some things like smacking her butt and tie her up and stuff, but I never really can get into that dominant mindset and I always feel a little guilty after doing it. I really love her and I would do anything for her. Does anyone have advice?

Re: Need advice on how to be more dominant

Postby Drummerboy » Thu Sep 29, 2016 1:12 pm

Sometimes being a Dom is hard for people who aren't that type of person naturally. What I would suggest is think of all the stuff that you would not (or maybe would) like to be done if the roles were reversed. Like tie her up, feel her body and tease her for a bit, then leave her alone still tied without warning. Give her some edging. Even non sexual stuff like chores in revealing clothing. Stuff like that.

Re: Need advice on how to be more dominant

Postby Fesselfan » Thu Sep 29, 2016 10:59 pm

Hmm...the best advice will most likely be...don't try to be someone you are not, even for your gf. Someone acting as dom "just to please her" will feel fake for the submissve anyway.

Cheers

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Re: Need advice on how to be more dominant

Postby MisterTheEdge » Mon Oct 03, 2016 3:56 am

Be just a little bit of a jerk. Don't be impolite or mean, but have demands you expect to be met. Be a little smug and sure of yourself. Pretend to be a confident person.
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