Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby tapegaglover! » Sun Mar 13, 2011 10:02 pm

I think I have discovered why girls like jerks. Because jerks are the most dominant ones. Maybe their dominance just turns girls on.
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby zanev » Mon Mar 14, 2011 4:04 am

i prefer to be dominated, but I can do both. Personally i think girls chose jerks because they are insecure in some way
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Mon Mar 14, 2011 6:06 am

Actually, it's mainly to do with the gain of approval. The leading supporting theory at the momet is that people are most attracted to (in terms of friendships and relationships), people who initially have a poor reaction to them as if the person then changes their mind, it suggests that you've gained their approval. If you feel that you've had to gain someone's approval after being initially disliked, it makes you feel worthy of their attention which makes people feel that the relationship is valuable and makes them feel better. So, in essence, Zanev was probably right with the idea that it's to do with insecurities.

I'd also like to point out that this is applicable to ALL people - NOT just girls. Guys, similarly, can be just as stupid when it comes to mean girls.

Also, despite everything I've just said, I want to add that the idea that people are attracted to people how are mean to them is actually pretty disputable and in the majority of cases isn't true at all. People are generally attracted to people who are friendly, reciprocal and similar to them. It tends to be young, teenage girls who go for idiots - and it's not because they like them at all, it's because they want to impress people xD

I apologise for my psycho-babble - but I've just done a massive section of my final year project at university on the topic of attraction. So when I saw this topic, I just couldn't help myself :P

x

Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby anjell » Mon Mar 14, 2011 6:21 am

I loathe jerks. last time i had the displeasure of spending time with one i tried to find out if i can get him to spit-up his jewels.
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Fesselfan » Mon Mar 14, 2011 6:30 am

Let's just not forget...often enough, the guys who get the girls are simply called "jerks" by the ones who don't have success. Regardless if they are really annyoing idiots or not.
Pure envy :-)

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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Mon Mar 14, 2011 6:54 am

Fesselfan wrote:Let's just not forget...often enough, the guys who get the girls are simply called "jerks" by the ones who don't have success. Regardless if they are really annyoing idiots or not.
Pure envy :-)


Haha, that's certainly an interesting way of looking at it xD

Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby tapegaglover! » Mon Mar 14, 2011 7:39 am

Oops, I didn't mean ALL girls. And FF, where I'm from, girls go after beer guzzling morons. who can barely read.
I love a woman bound and gagged in tape.

Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Mon Mar 14, 2011 8:15 am

tapegaglover! wrote:Oops, I didn't mean ALL girls. And FF, where I'm from, girls go after beer guzzling morons. who can barely read.


Maybe you know the wrong kinda girls then? :)

Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Jason Toddman » Mon Mar 14, 2011 11:07 am

If so many girls like jerks, why haven't *I* found any who like ME?!? :shock:
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby tapegaglover! » Mon Mar 14, 2011 9:21 pm

Jason Toddman wrote:If so many girls like jerks, why haven't *I* found any who like ME?!? :shock:

Aww you're not a jerk.
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Jason Toddman » Mon Mar 14, 2011 9:27 pm

tapegaglover! wrote:
Jason Toddman wrote:If so many girls like jerks, why haven't *I* found any who like ME?!? :shock:

Aww you're not a jerk.

*Shhhh-hhh!* The girls might hear you!!!! :D
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Fesselfan » Tue Mar 15, 2011 12:23 am

tapegaglover! wrote:Oops, I didn't mean ALL girls. And FF, where I'm from, girls go after beer guzzling morons. who can barely read.

I suggest you re-think your "target parameters" then :)
Or to put it another way..do you *really* think you want to have a girl which wants a "beer guzzling morons. who can barely read"?

Honestly guys...from my experience (and I have had a lot with girls in the past)...the one thing which can really kill your success is if you let go any demands. Imagine you are in the girls situation..would you want someone who will take anyone?

I won't discuss this in this thread...but from what I have experienced, there are only a handfull of "mistakes" especially the guys looking for a tie-up partner make. And most of them repeat them over and over again while whining that they "don't find someone"
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Tue Mar 15, 2011 12:28 am

Fesselfan wrote:Honestly guys...from my experience (and I have had a lot with girls in the past)...the one thing which can really kill your success is if you let go any demands. Imagine you are in the girls situation..would you want someone who will take anyone?


That's a pretty good point xD

Be wary of taking that to the extreme though - rejecting everyone and anyone because they aren't "perfect" tends to make people think that they think way too highly of themselves. . .

Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Fesselfan » Tue Mar 22, 2011 2:38 am

True Sam...however, I think this is another topic and not the issue here ;)

As I have said...90% (Made up figure, but I think it's pretty high) of the males looking for a female tie up partner (or anything fetish/BDSM related) make the same basic two to three mistakes.
Just keep in mind...identifying an error may be easy, changing it may not. So I don't claim that I can "make you tie up any girl in two lessons". It's just that I have seen too many people whining about it without even thinking about what *they* could improve. After all- you can't change the outside world's behaviour, but you can change your *own*.
More in pm if anyone is really interested.

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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Jason Toddman » Wed Mar 23, 2011 12:18 pm

MattyHerich wrote:- I think Im way off topic LOL
what makes a guy a jerk?


I don't think you're opp topic at all; you're showing a non-jerk's natural puzzlement concerning the truth in the observation that girls like jerks.
As far what defines a jerk, that probably varies from person to person. IMHO a jerk is anyone who treats other people though they were inferior to his/herself... especially if they express open contempt with either taunts (open or behind a persons back) or physical violence. Other people may have different (and equally valid) definitions however.
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Kuro.Lolita » Fri Mar 25, 2011 5:41 pm

SamanthaBoundx wrote:Actually, it's mainly to do with the gain of approval. The leading supporting theory at the momet is that people are most attracted to (in terms of friendships and relationships), people who initially have a poor reaction to them as if the person then changes their mind, it suggests that you've gained their approval. If you feel that you've had to gain someone's approval after being initially disliked, it makes you feel worthy of their attention which makes people feel that the relationship is valuable and makes them feel better. So, in essence, Zanev was probably right with the idea that it's to do with insecurities.

I'd also like to point out that this is applicable to ALL people - NOT just girls. Guys, similarly, can be just as stupid when it comes to mean girls.

Also, despite everything I've just said, I want to add that the idea that people are attracted to people how are mean to them is actually pretty disputable and in the majority of cases isn't true at all. People are generally attracted to people who are friendly, reciprocal and similar to them. It tends to be young, teenage girls who go for idiots - and it's not because they like them at all, it's because they want to impress people xD

I apologise for my psycho-babble - but I've just done a massive section of my final year project at university on the topic of attraction. So when I saw this topic, I just couldn't help myself :P

x

I really liked what u wrote :3 haha i think the same as you
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Fesselfan » Mon Mar 28, 2011 3:55 am

Jason Toddman wrote:[...]IMHO a jerk is anyone who treats other people though they were inferior to his/herself... especially if they express open contempt with either taunts (open or behind a persons back)[...]

Well..if I would be nit-picky I would say you call yourself a Jerk here ;) With your definition, anybody who calls another person a jerk -which among other means he is inferior- is a jerk himself.

The world is full of jerks...I should have known it :-)

Cheers

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Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby MissTieMeUp » Tue Mar 29, 2011 11:13 am

Well for me it was a youth thing but the guy I married when I was much younger was a jerk but hid it until we were married and then it came out (he was abusive - so jerk x 1000). Now I go look for the opposite, a nice guy with a naughty streak just like me! lol

I know some guys have cringed when a girl labels them 'nice' but when I mean nice I don't mean boring - so guys take heed. I mean nice as not mean, rude, a beer drinking moron (haha that was funny), gosh the list could go on. So maybe it does come with age (at least for some) but then some guys my age can be real jerks. I don't build on my insecurities (I have them like we all do but am confident in me - most of the time haha) and if you don't like me for me then well I'll wait until I find a compatible male tugger that does :D
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Jason Toddman » Tue Mar 29, 2011 1:49 pm

Fesselfan wrote:
Jason Toddman wrote:[...]IMHO a jerk is anyone who treats other people though they were inferior to his/herself... especially if they express open contempt with either taunts (open or behind a persons back)[...]

Well..if I would be nit-picky I would say you call yourself a Jerk here ;) With your definition, anybody who calls another person a jerk -which among other means he is inferior- is a jerk himself.
FF


If you read a few posts further back, you'll notice that I'd already beat you to it and said exactly this. A jerk I may be; a hippocrite I (hopefully) am not. :D
However I migh point out that, other than myself, I have NOT specifically called anyone a jerk here. Offering a personally-held definition at someone's specific request is hardly the same thing.
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Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Fesselfan » Wed Mar 30, 2011 11:43 pm

One of the major misperceptions is that "girls go for idiots". Some do, some not...same for men. Some go for your archetypical blonde bimbo, some not.
It's only natural that we perceive the things we are missing the most- so, when you are desperately looking for a girl you are seeing all the "jerks" getting the girls. However you miss out all the "un-jerky" guys having success- and even worse, you are missing all the girls which don't go for "jerks" and may be looking for someone like *you*.

Well...in fact, looking desperatly is the first mistake...trust me, a woman can scent desperation 5 miles against the wind, and it's a real turn off for every one...

Cheers

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There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

Re: Why Girls Like Jerks

Postby Jason Toddman » Thu Mar 31, 2011 6:29 am

Not a problem for me. I gave up looking many years ago. Other than the lack of TUGs (lack of sex doesn't bother me one bit) and - occasionally - lack of company, I'm perfectly happy living by myself. :D
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To boldly go where no one in their right mind has gone before...