Have you met irl?

Postby Shimakaze » Mon Jul 11, 2016 4:01 pm

Have any of you met someone on here irl and tried a tug/bondage sessionwith them? I've been meaning to try that but I need to be able to trust whoever I am meeting if it happens

Re: Have you met irl?

Postby Meh » Mon Jul 11, 2016 4:26 pm

I haven't had the opportunity but I wouldn't meet anyone in private

Re: Have you met irl?

Postby Zero » Tue Jul 12, 2016 2:55 am

No never and honestly I'm a little scared even if I'll love to try a tug.
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Re: Have you met irl?

Postby Fesselfan » Tue Jul 12, 2016 2:59 am

Well, usually there is (beside all other things) the issue of location. Chances are very small you meet someone from "around the corner" over here.
However, I have met with several persons from diverse other bondage sites, and with some did the one or other tie up. It's just that these things usually don't happen at the first date...you meet for a drink, spend some time together..and see if both are willing to play with the ropes.
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Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

Re: Have you met irl?

Postby BranBTAT » Mon Jul 18, 2016 8:33 pm

I have been able to meet with several different people from this site for TUG time (and several from other sites), sometimes for an afternoon and other times for up to a week. I'd like to say they have all been wonderful but they haven't been. There's been times I've been close to being hurt or close to hurting others and times that I felt weird and left or they felt weird and left before any TUGs.

You certainly have the right idea about needing to trust the person for it to happen. Meeting a stranger ... in private ... for bondage is an extremely dangerous thing. This isn't meant to scare you into never doing it; afterall, it can be an amazing experience ... with the right person. Finding the right person is difficult though. Distance is usually the first obstacle that people encounter as mentioned already. One of the most important bits though is finding someone that you can trust. As Fesselfan has already said, when you do meet someone for TUGs, don't hop right into them. Instead, go out somewhere public to meet them, hang out for a while, have some coffee or a burger, just relax. After a while of hanging out with friends, see if you still feel comfortable with playing with them and always trust what your gut is telling you. If something irks you, back out.

I've said more on the matter in another thread on this site that is linked below but you will certainly want to spend a lot of time talking to someone and seeing how they are before you ever consider meeting them in person. And even when you do meet them, meet without TUGs and see how it goes, if it leads to ropes coming out, hopefully it's fun; if not, there's plenty more opportunities with others.

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Re: Have you met irl?

Postby TheRopeGuy » Tue Jul 19, 2016 6:10 pm

On this site I've only ever met up once but it was a great time. Even if it was a little weird to start. I much prefer women and it was a guy, but still very fun. They're right. Meet in public first. Hang out for a little bit and get to know each other. Hash out a plan and further discuss limits. Then if you're both comfortable have at it. Shame I don't get to do it more often. Just remember the ultimate advice: safe, sane, and consentual.