As we age

Postby Jay Feely » Wed Feb 19, 2014 9:58 pm

Is tug the same feeling when you age?
For instance, as kid, its about fun
For older though, an element of control is added but its still fun
What about you?
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.

Re: As we age

Postby Jason Toddman » Fri Feb 21, 2014 3:10 pm

Although i'd still enjoy TUGs under the same circumstances as I enjoyed them before, I find little appeal in doing them with people my own current age. Partly because i know of no one who either knows anything about TUGs or is interested in them, whereas as an adolescent i had my cousins (who in turn had several friends) who were all interested and skilled in TUGs. Also, there's just something about being an adolescent playing TUGs with other adolescents that just can't be duplicated in people my own age. At least, that's my experience... and in fact i haven't been active in TUGs for nearly fifteen years.
Also, i'm not as tough or as limber as i used to be, and being tied up would be more difficult for me now then it used to be.
If I could go back in time and do it all over again with the same friends as before though, I'd do so in a flash.
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Re: As we age

Postby Kyle » Fri Feb 21, 2014 5:39 pm

To be blunt, I think most people who get older* only see the sexual side of things, and while sexual bondage can cause people to react negatively, I honestly think you'd be looked at even more funny if you said you just liked to get tied up for fun.

*Should probably clarify, "older" here means adults.

Re: As we age

Postby Jason Toddman » Fri Feb 21, 2014 11:15 pm

Kyle wrote:To be blunt, I think most people who get older* only see the sexual side of things, and while sexual bondage can cause people to react negatively, I honestly think you'd be looked at even more funny if you said you just liked to get tied up for fun.

*Should probably clarify, "older" here means adults.

Maybe sometimes, but not always. Though some of my older stories might give some people who read them the idea that i'm some kind of sex addict, the truth is i'm pretty well asexual. I prefer to be tied up by people I think look good however; and that means younger people. But my desire to have sex with anyone of any age is non-existent. I DO like bodily contact; just not the sexual intimate kind.
In any case, at my age, i'd be certain to be mistaken for a freak and most likely a pedophile if I tried to find TUGs partners that would appeal to me. So all MY TUGs experiences are far in my past.
However, being an Aspie (a person with Asperger's Syndrome), I never was particularly normal about how i think about or react to things, and i could simply be the exception that disproves the rule.
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Re: As we age

Postby Kyle » Sat Feb 22, 2014 1:07 pm

I don't mean people on here Jason. I was talking about the average person on the street who doesn't come around sites like this.

Re: As we age

Postby Jason Toddman » Sat Feb 22, 2014 2:59 pm

Oh. I thought you meant specifically among the Tugger population; not the reverse. My bad.
In which case, yeah I fully agree with you. That is precisely how older non-Tuggers see it... as kink; pure and simple.
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Re: As we age

Postby Kyle » Sat Feb 22, 2014 3:40 pm

I probably should have explained that better. Although I do think a lot of people who are interested in tie-up games when they're kids probably move on to the more sexual bondage when they become adults. There are people who still do appreciate a good tie-up just for the sake of it as adults though.

Re: As we age

Postby Plueschbabycd » Sat Feb 22, 2014 4:18 pm

Hallo Kyle, this point unsure if say not Cowboy and Indian play is only for children, that become than soft BDSMer with fluffy furry handcuffs and Co.
I would love play as old adult tied up like child, because had no much as child miss now a little.
Andrew
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Re: As we age

Postby truly_trussed » Sun Feb 23, 2014 8:02 am

Jase, maybe I'm naive (I tell my friends look up the work naive in the dictionary and you'll see my picture) but I think there are quite a few of us old fogies who never outgrew playing Cowboys and Indians or Cops and Robbers. Maybe instead call it today "Tie Ya Up and Gag Ya." :tied: :gag:

If you found a trustworthy play partner or playmate (It does take a lot of trust if you wanna get trussed) and take safety precautions you might feel like you're 18 again. Those precautions would include having surgical scissors nearby and your partner always nearby. Having a bound and gagged partner is like having an infant in your custody,

Of your cousins and childhood friends still with us do you remember the one most "into it". I know of "Gaydar" but is there "Tugdar?" Maybe you could have a reunion lo, these many years. If you asked there's a chance he or she might take you up for some fun. Our "hobby" is slowly becoming more mainstream. If you're healthy enough to work at your age I think it might be possible.

How about some of us 40+ tuggers chiming in. I know they're out there. T.T.

Re: As we age

Postby Jason Toddman » Sun Feb 23, 2014 8:33 am

Even if any of them were, it just wouldn't be the same. At least not to me. It's difficult to explain without coming across sounding like a pedophile or something, but it's just not something that appeals to me coming from people as old i as currently am now, even though sex does not enter into the equation at all. It's more a matter of... I dunno what the proper word is... enthusiasms? Joie de vivre? Am i making any sense here?
In any case, most of my TUGsmates from those days - including my cousins - live far away from me now, and i only get fleeting bits of news as to where they are and what they are doing. I've seen my cousins a few times in recent years, but talking about those days seems to feel awkward for them now so i never pursued the matter. I've heard from one or two others, and that's about it. I've not seen any of the others since i left to join the military.
Had we grown up in later times, i suppose we could have kept in touch by email or something, but we never did. We'd already all been too far apart for too long.
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