## Should I Share my Secret?

Post by The Black Falcon » Tue Feb 07, 2012 8:46 am

So there's this girl I've known for about a year. We're both into each other, but the only problem is that she lives in Canada and I live in America. I'm visiting her for three days in March, though, and she has told me that she hopes to share a hotel room with me during those days and....well...
That being said, she asked me a simple question last night:
What turns you on?
I'm a little torn here. Obviously, bondage turns me on. But I don't know if I want to tell her that. On one hand, I might finally be able to find a completely willing bondage partner. On the other hand, I don't want to scare her away or weird her out when I'm so close to sealing the deal.
Thoughts?
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### Re: Should I Share my Secret?

Post by sarobah » Tue Feb 07, 2012 2:47 pm

Iâ€™m always a bit nervous about offering advice. However...
If a girl asks what turns you on, itâ€™s unlikely sheâ€™s expecting you to say walks in the park, old time musicals and strawberry champagne.
So my advice would be to tell her about the bondage, but in a way that shows that youâ€™re just being truthful, not expecting her to like it or anything to happen. Explain that bondage is not all about whips and chains and leather. Tell her what it is about it that turns you on (and emphasize the romantic element). She wants to know about you and this is an important part of who you are.
One other point... Bondage, as we know, is about trust in your partner. Thatâ€™s why it will be hard to bring it up later if you didnâ€™t answer truthfully in the first place. Instead, by telling her something confidential about yourself, by being willing to be open and direct about yourself, you are showing that youâ€™ve put your trust in her.
~ Sarah
Words, like Nature, half reveal and half conceal the soul within.

### Re: Should I Share my Secret?

Post by The Black Falcon » Fri Mar 16, 2012 10:54 am

So I ended up telling her about my fetish, and if you'd like to see the result of my actions, check out "Oh Canada" in the More...Intimate section...
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