Postby Jason Toddman » Sat Mar 22, 2014 8:21 am
Not necessarily but, considering how abrasive she seems to be to males in general, I have to agree that is most likely the case. Hence my putting the term into quotation marks when i used the term and asking her to clarify her position about males.
It also occurs to me to ask how many of these people have made repeated requests to her. Seems to me there's nothing wrong with getting one or maybe two requests from the same person. I get requests for such contacts myself. Just do as i do and tell them "No thanks" in a reasonably polite manner. They say 'okay' if anything at all and that's usually the end of it.
If you're getting uptight because of one-time requests though Vantran, that seems unreasonable to me if you don't tell people you don't want being contacted. This is after all a social site and meant for everyone; not just people with overly-specific tastes. It's fine for instance for a member to be a lesbian who wants to chat only with other lesbians; it's NOT fine to insult non-lesbians simply for asking to chat with you - especially if they don't know beforehand that only lesbians need apply.
If on the other hand the same people are bugging you over and over again for whatever reason, then that's probable harassment - and that's something I want to know about so I can address the issue. But I can't unless i know the details and won't unless you tell me you want the help.
If you have a problem getting such requests at all (or at least from 'biological males'), just simply say so in a post or, better yet, in your signature where no one can possibly miss it. Otherwise, just ignore such requests. Spreading bile indiscriminately is NOT an option here. Nor do I have to apologize to you or anyone for being male.
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