Postby SamanthaBoundx » Fri Oct 19, 2012 1:00 am
It's something that people should just avoid entirely. If someone is under the age of 16, they are a CHILD, meaning that they are vulnerable and are (legally) unable to provide their own informed consent in such situations. If an adult engages in any activity which could be viewed as sexual with a minor, it is classed as being abusive and explotative - regardless of whether the situation was consensual.
Of course, there are a lot of fine lines and blurry edges in this topic. What age constitutes adulthood? What counts as a sexual behaviour? And what if what you were doing wasn't meant in a sexual way? Ultimately, it's a personal decision. But I believe that there's a clear line. You know deep down if you gain sexual pleasure from the idea of bondage - and if, as most, you do (whether you are the one tying or the one being tied) it is wholly inappropriate and immoral to have "personal" conversations about it with children.
I've seen things on the forum that have made me very uncomfortable. 14 year olds posting "how would you tie me?" messages and getting responses from adults not only about how they would tie them, but the sexually explicit acts they would perform on them once they were tied. Kids posting near-nude images of themselves in some form of bondage and 30+ members telling them that they look "sexy" and asking them for more. I've been shocked on occasion that some of these threads (and users) haven't been removed - they are not only totally inappropriate, but sufficient to warrant arrest for the people involved in some cases.
I am not here to judge. If you're an older person and the idea of being in any way involved with a minor is attractive to you, then that's okay. Thought police don't exist - you can't help what you find attractive and you have the right to think about it in whatever way you will. But thought is where it has to stop. ACTING on those kind of desires is irresponsible and dangerous to all involved and should be avoided at all costs - it is (rightfully) illegal.
I appreciate that children do come to the forum, and I defend their right to do so. Most people here would say that they got into bondage at a pretty early age, and I think having the opportunity to discuss it and to know that you are completely normal is a wonderful thing. Simple discucssion about the matter can foster healthy attitudes and open mindedness. But they should be able to do this in a safe and non-threatening environment - and adults should be responsible enough to allow that.
Sorry for the essay xD
Sam
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