Handcuffs suggestions

Postby JakeWriter » Fri Feb 08, 2013 3:40 pm

Hi everyone,

I want to use handcuffs with my girlfriend. I don't know if she'll accept to do it but usually she's game with those things. Do you have any suggestions on how to approach her and how to do it. I don't really care about who's handcuffing who. Thanks and have a good day.

Re: Handcuffs suggestions

Postby SephySJ » Sat Feb 09, 2013 7:14 am

I remember the way I approached it with my ex (this was before we were going out) was I made up some bullshit about going to buy some fake handcuffs for a halloween costume but mistakenly buying real ones (I'm a convincing liar). Then when she was over one day I showed her them and it gave me the perfect excuse to put them on her. Also turned out she liked bondage so we started going out after that. I don't know how you'll fair or if your girlfriend will enjoy it but once she's in them you can start getting intimate and I'm sure she'll find it interesting if nothing else. Also when you let her out you can say something like 'you can get your revenge if you want', hinting at her putting them on you. But my advise is, if you're successful, don't keep bringing them out everytime you see her or want to be intimate, as she'll most likely get tired of them or think that you're obsessed with them (unless she loves them, in which case fill your boots).

Re: Handcuffs suggestions

Postby MissTieMeUp » Sun Feb 10, 2013 7:38 pm

don't know what kind of work setting you have but maybe you could say you lost a bet and was awarded a pair of fuzzy handcuffs (you can get them on ebay cheap) and then see if that works? they're fun and safer than the real stuff for first timers and then if she's not into it, you haven't spent too much.
Rainbow rope & a white cleeve gag are my BFF's ;)

Re: Handcuffs suggestions

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Mon Feb 11, 2013 10:04 am

If it's something that you want to do more than once, then it might be best just to be honest. Especially if she's usually cool about stuff like that. If you try and introduce it as a game or as something that just happened by chance, she may not realise that you actually enjoy it and would like to do it again. I would tell her upfront that it's something that you'd be interested in trying out - if she isn't a judgemental person, then what's the worst that can happen? In my experience, being upfront and open about your desires gets you what you want far faster and it's much less frustrating than trying to drop subtle hints over a long time.

If that seems a bit daunting, then introducing it as a game may be better for you. But make sure that you discuss it with her afterwards - find out whether she enjoyed it and make sure that she knows YOU enjoyed it and would be interested in trying it out again.

Hope it goes well for you :)

Re: Handcuffs suggestions

Postby JakeWriter » Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:46 pm

Thanks everyone for your good suggestions. I will try to introduce the subject on valentine's day. I'll let you know ;)

Re: Handcuffs suggestions

Postby SephySJ » Sun Feb 17, 2013 6:55 am

So how did it go Jake? Did you introduce her to the idea?