First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby oZombiex5 » Sat Dec 26, 2015 2:21 pm

Hi everyone, so I am currently 17 and male. I have loved bondage for years, I'm sure some of you will be able to relate. ;)

I have only really done self bondage before but I met a guy on here before with my old account. We talked for months and although I didn't meet him personally I felt I could trust him for various reasons. Eventually we got the chance to meet up in a hotel and I was thrilled at this. Before I continue any further I just want to state I am heterosexual so obviously he would not be my first choice.

Anyway we agreed that I would go in to hotel with him and then he would make me wear football socks (still don't know why) handcuff me, tie my legs, place me into a hogtie, gag and then blindfold me. I was then going to be given a small break then told to strip down to underwear where I would then be tied to a chair for the remainder of the time. Throughout he would be taking pictures of Me for us both.

The day came and I was waiting in my hotel room nervous to say the least so I went to meet him at the train station. When I met him there we got on like best friends talking about video games and the like. Even when we got into the hotel we were still chatting. He then took out the equipment such as leg straps, blindfold, ballgag, handcuffs and I started feeling chills. He noticed I was slightly nervous and just said baby steps and I was the one that would ask to have things moved forward. Anyway I continued and put on socks as he wanted and at this point I still I didn't feel too bad. Then he ordered me to stand up and he slapped the handcuffs onto me. This point everything changed.

I immediately felt awkward and turned on. From here on in conversation basically seized and I didn't know where to look, what to say and stared at the TV the whole time. We both knew ourselves we found it awkward on each other. Then I wanted to pull things along so I asked him to tie my legs which he did. I was like this a few minutes and like I said I don't know what it was but I felt awkward I think it might of been the fact I was being made horny by a guy.

I ended up not being able to do it anymore and asked him to stop. He was alright about it and I talked with him recently to get closure on what happened which is something I'd been wanting to do for a while.

I just want to know if anyone went through anything similar. I keep re-running everything in my head and feel I took things too slow and this was what was wrong but I don't know if this is really the case. I know if it was a Girl I would of managed fine and got on with it. That was my one and only bondage experience with a partner and I think it couldn't of gone any worse really. I just wanted your thoughts and to see if you think we could of taken things differently and although I was tied up I oddly didn't feel like I was restrained which was especially weird.
Thanks for reading and taking time to answer sorry for any bad Grammer haven't had change to proof read.

P. S. Was thinking of posting two self bondage stories on here and possibly a story about this experience that went wrong but a fictional one that would of played out how I wanted it to. If interested say so.

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby xtc » Sat Dec 26, 2015 2:42 pm

By all means post away.
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but little speedos rule!

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Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby 31acujoker » Sat Dec 26, 2015 4:09 pm

Mate you practically described my first tie-up experience, so trust me your experience is more normal than you might think :)
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Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby Kauron » Sat Dec 26, 2015 9:17 pm

I think you were probably turned on by the experience itself rather than the guy. Maybe you've considered this already but I think everything that had built up in you leading up to that moment for years just came out like that. So I think it wasn't necesarily the guy but the feeling of being tied up itself, expiriencing it for the first time. So I don't think it's something to be feel akward about if it's strictly just bondage. That said I think it's easy to understand why you felt the way you did in that moment.

Considering how you describe your partner in this experience I don't think it could've gone differently. You just weren't ready for what happened. I wouldn't feel too badly about if I were you. I think there aren't short cuts to dealing with your emotions like that. So you needed to feel what you did and have the time to deal with it. I think that if you kept going and had the full session you wouldn't have enjoyed it the way it should be enjoyed.

Maybe you didn't consider that you might feel that way during the session? I'm gonna guess you didn't. So considering it was your first time there's no way you could've been prepared to deal with it when it happened.

Of course you should post your stories!

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby havok978 » Sat Dec 26, 2015 10:46 pm

AidenST wrote:I think you were probably turned on by the experience itself rather than the guy. Maybe you've considered this already but I think everything that had built up in you leading up to that moment for years just came out like that. So I think it wasn't necesarily the guy but the feeling of being tied up itself, expiriencing it for the first time. So I don't think it's something to be feel akward about if it's strictly just bondage. That said I think it's easy to understand why you felt the way you did in that moment.

Considering how you describe your partner in this experience I don't think it could've gone differently. You just weren't ready for what happened. I wouldn't feel too badly about if I were you. I think there aren't short cuts to dealing with your emotions like that. So you needed to feel what you did and have the time to deal with it. I think that if you kept going and had the full session you wouldn't have enjoyed it the way it should be enjoyed.

Maybe you didn't consider that you might feel that way during the session? I'm gonna guess you didn't. So considering it was your first time there's no way you could've been prepared to deal with it when it happened.

Of course you should post your stories!


Just to piggy back on this, I'm also straight and the first time I got tied by a guy I was incredibly turned on almost from the moment it started happening. I also felt pretty awkward about it. He even asked me afterwards, "What were you thinking about that got you so hard?" and I honestly wasn't thinking about anything. I think like AidenST said, years of anticipation and build up for this thing to finally happen just led to my body having a natural reaction. There are plenty of guys out there, myself included, who get turned on merely just at the thought of bondage, regardless of the other person involved. Much like you described, simple things like just seeing the various rope or equipment, or even just the sound of duct tape coming off the roll, can get a reaction from me. You could also be one of those guys. Also, generally speaking, the first time is always kinda awkward and weird anyway. You're nervous as hell, excited, not sure what's gonna happen. Even when you talk to someone online or whatever for months, it still can feel weird meeting them in person for the first time. Hell, I still get a little nervous sometimes meeting up with friends I've played with for years, and some of them are quiet guys and I'm a quiet guy, so there can be plenty of awkward silences to be had lol. You just gotta feel it out and go with your gut. If things aren't clicking for whatever reason, don't be afraid to call it. Now that you've had this experience, you can begin to get a better idea what you're comfortable with, what you're looking for, etc.

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby oZombiex5 » Sun Dec 27, 2015 12:17 am

havok978 wrote:
AidenST wrote:I think you were probably turned on by the experience itself rather than the guy. Maybe you've considered this already but I think everything that had built up in you leading up to that moment for years just came out like that. So I think it wasn't necesarily the guy but the feeling of being tied up itself, expiriencing it for the first time. So I don't think it's something to be feel akward about if it's strictly just bondage. That said I think it's easy to understand why you felt the way you did in that moment.

Considering how you describe your partner in this experience I don't think it could've gone differently. You just weren't ready for what happened. I wouldn't feel too badly about if I were you. I think there aren't short cuts to dealing with your emotions like that. So you needed to feel what you did and have the time to deal with it. I think that if you kept going and had the full session you wouldn't have enjoyed it the way it should be enjoyed.

Maybe you didn't consider that you might feel that way during the session? I'm gonna guess you didn't. So considering it was your first time there's no way you could've been prepared to deal with it when it happened.

Of course you should post your stories!


Just to piggy back on this, I'm also straight and the first time I got tied by a guy I was incredibly turned on almost from the moment it started happening. I also felt pretty awkward about it. He even asked me afterwards, "What were you thinking about that got you so hard?" and I honestly wasn't thinking about anything. I think like AidenST said, years of anticipation and build up for this thing to finally happen just led to my body having a natural reaction. There are plenty of guys out there, myself included, who get turned on merely just at the thought of bondage, regardless of the other person involved. Much like you described, simple things like just seeing the various rope or equipment, or even just the sound of duct tape coming off the roll, can get a reaction from me. You could also be one of those guys. Also, generally speaking, the first time is always kinda awkward and weird anyway. You're nervous as hell, excited, not sure what's gonna happen. Even when you talk to someone online or whatever for months, it still can feel weird meeting them in person for the first time. Hell, I still get a little nervous sometimes meeting up with friends I've played with for years, and some of them are quiet guys and I'm a quiet guy, so there can be plenty of awkward silences to be had lol. You just gotta feel it out and go with your gut. If things aren't clicking for whatever reason, don't be afraid to call it. Now that you've had this experience, you can begin to get a better idea what you're comfortable with, what you're looking for, etc.


Thanks both of you for your suggestions you are probably bang on with what you said. I think next time I do it it should be with a girlfriend and one I've known for months. That way if it gets awkward or I end up not liking it I haven't ended up making someone spend money on a less than 10 minute experience.

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby drawscore » Sun Dec 27, 2015 12:58 am

I think I was 7 or 8 when I first got tied up, and tied someone up. It was with several other boys, all 7-10 years old, in games of "cops and robbers" or "cowboys and Indians." We never tied each other in underwear, or nude, as it didn't seem right to us. Besides, at the time, showing even a sliver of underwear often brought the derisive chant from the others, of "I see London, I see France; I see Jimmy's underpants," which was a source of temporary embarrassment, and we hurriedly pulled our jeans up, or tucked our shirts in, so no portion of the "offending tighty whities" could be seen.

Drawscore

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby SolidSnickerdoodle » Sun Dec 27, 2015 1:17 am

I've never met up with anyone before, or had any sort of bondage experience whatsoever, so feel free to take my thoughts with a grain of salt.

First off, I believe that you made the right choice when you decided to call it off. You knew that you weren't comfortable with the situation and you ended it, as you should have. So congrats on that and don't regret it.

So, where did it go wrong?

You said it's possible that you went too slow, and that this was perhaps the main downfall of the scenario. I myself do not agree with this. It's important to keep in mind that this was an entirely new experience for you. In such a situation, especially when bondage is involved, one should move at a pace that they are comfortable with, even if that pace is the equivalent of butter melting down the side of a hill. You should never rush things like this, and if you were having trouble before (which it sounds like you were), speeding up the process probably wouldn't have made things better. So I doubt that this was the main problem.

You don't seem very sure as to why you were feeling so awkward, but you believe that it had something to do with you being aroused by a male. I am in no position to tell you what you are feeling, and you may very well be right, but I personally don't believe that you were aroused by him at all. You seem rather steadfast in your sexual identity, stating that you are in fact a heterosexual, this guy was by no means your first pick, and you are confident this wouldn't have happened with a girl, so I'm going to assume that their were no feelings of sexual attraction towards this guy on any level.

Nonetheless you were aroused. I'm in agreement with AidenST here when I say that I believe this arousal came from the bondage itself, rather than this guy. He was simply acting as the vector for the bondage. I myself am an 18 year old male who has only ever done self-bondage. I can only imagine the sheer level of horniness that comes with a real life tie up game. So, yes you were indeed aroused, but I believe that you have misattributed that arousal towards him. But, like i said, I can''t tell you how you feel.

I myself believe that the extreme awkwardness of the situation and the subsequent suspension of the bondage stemmed from a combination of different stimulus (Oh, science! :big:). As AidenST said, your feelings towards bondage as a whole may have been building up over the years. What most likely happened was that all of these feelings; all of your desires, fears, expectations, anxiety, and years of self-bondage came together in this one critical moment, and you just couldn't handle it all at once.

This seems to be the most likely explanation for me anyway. You initially seemed fine in the moments leading up to the bondage with both of you chatting it up like best friends. Only when he unveiled the supplies and clicked the handcuffs on you did the gravity of the situation start to sink in.

Despite all of this, I think you did quite well for your first time. Certainly better than I would have. And maybe you'll be better prepared if you decide you want to do this again in the future.

Sorry for the tangent, but I hope that helps! By the way, I think you should totally write those stories of you want to.
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Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby oZombiex5 » Sun Dec 27, 2015 1:32 am

SolidSnickerdoodle wrote:I've never met up with anyone before, or had any sort of bondage experience whatsoever, so feel free to take my thoughts with a grain of salt.

First off, I believe that you made the right choice when you decided to call it off. You knew that you weren't comfortable with the situation and you ended it, as you should have. So congrats on that and don't regret it.

So, where did it go wrong?

You said it's possible that you went too slow, and that this was perhaps the main downfall of the scenario. I myself do not agree with this. It's important to keep in mind that this was an entirely new experience for you. In such a situation, especially when bondage is involved, one should move at a pace that they are comfortable with, even if that pace is the equivalent of butter melting down the side of a hill. You should never rush things like this, and if you were having trouble before (which it sounds like you were), speeding up the process probably wouldn't have made things better. So I doubt that this was the main problem.

You don't seem very sure as to why you were feeling so awkward, but you believe that it had something to do with you being aroused by a male. I am in no position to tell you what you are feeling, and you may very well be right, but I personally don't believe that you were aroused by him at all. You seem rather steadfast in your sexual identity, stating that you are in fact a heterosexual, this guy was by no means your first pick, and you are confident this wouldn't have happened with a girl, so I'm going to assume that their were no feelings of sexual attraction towards this guy on any level.

Nonetheless you were aroused. I'm in agreement with AidenST here when I say that I believe this arousal came from the bondage itself, rather than this guy. He was simply acting as the vector for the bondage. I myself am an 18 year old male who has only ever done self-bondage. I can only imagine the sheer level of horniness that comes with a real life tie up game. So, yes you were indeed aroused, but I believe that you have misattributed that arousal towards him. But, like i said, I can''t tell you how you feel.

I myself believe that the extreme awkwardness of the situation and the subsequent suspension of the bondage stemmed from a combination of different stimulus (Oh, science! :big:). As AidenST said, your feelings towards bondage as a whole may have been building up over the years. What most likely happened was that all of these feelings; all of your desires, fears, expectations, anxiety, and years of self-bondage came together in this one critical moment, and you just couldn't handle it all at once.

This seems to be the most likely explanation for me anyway. You initially seemed fine in the moments leading up to the bondage with both of you chatting it up like best friends. Only when he unveiled the supplies and clicked the handcuffs on you did the gravity of the situation start to sink in.

Despite all of this, I think you did quite well for your first time. Certainly better than I would have. And maybe you'll be better prepared if you decide you want to do this again in the future.

Sorry for the tangent, but I hope that helps! By the way, I think you should totally write those stories of you want to.


Thank you I can't explain how well you've done this. If I was still doing English I would copy this to show my analytical skills lol. On a serious note though I think everything you said makes sense to me such as all the different feelings coming together at once that had been built up over the years. I think as well the arousal as well being targeted towards the actual bondage rather than the guy himself. I just can't explain how helpful this was to me the detail you've gone into as well. If I ever have another question I'll male sure to ask you. Cheers

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby SolidSnickerdoodle » Sun Dec 27, 2015 1:46 am

oZombiex5 wrote:Thank you I can't explain how well you've done this. If I was still doing English I would copy this to show my analytical skills lol. On a serious note though I think everything you said makes sense to me such as all the different feelings coming together at once that had been built up over the years. I think as well the arousal as well being targeted towards the actual bondage rather than the guy himself. I just can't explain how helpful this was to me the detail you've gone into as well. If I ever have another question I'll male sure to ask you. Cheers

Well, I appreciate your appreciation. :) It took a little while to type, but I'm glad that it ultimately helped.
I'm on here fairly regularly, so I'll be available if you do decide you have questions or just wanna talk. cheers
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Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby oZombiex5 » Sun Dec 27, 2015 5:28 am

SolidSnickerdoodle wrote:
oZombiex5 wrote:Thank you I can't explain how well you've done this. If I was still doing English I would copy this to show my analytical skills lol. On a serious note though I think everything you said makes sense to me such as all the different feelings coming together at once that had been built up over the years. I think as well the arousal as well being targeted towards the actual bondage rather than the guy himself. I just can't explain how helpful this was to me the detail you've gone into as well. If I ever have another question I'll male sure to ask you. Cheers

Well, I appreciate your appreciation. :) It took a little while to type, but I'm glad that it ultimately helped.
I'm on here fairly regularly, so I'll be available if you do decide you have questions or just wanna talk. cheers


Thanks for that. I'm up for just talking.

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby cyrus6347 » Tue Dec 29, 2015 12:52 pm

I'm gonna fail epicly as attempt to throw something in which could quite easily be wrong & might just be something that only really applies to me.

At first I had a thing where I hated to be bound by a stranger.
It turned out that it was more sort of an ego thing. I couldn't stand a random person starting to bind me in a hotel room even after awkwardly chatting beforehand. It was only once there had been a scuffle or a kind of wrestling/contest beforehand where I felt like I deserved to submit before such situations could actually develop comfortably into bondage. I needed to have been overpowered in a struggle and then tied rather then slowly & coldly deliberate if that makes sense. Heck, it could even just be a video game bet but an ice-breaker contest kinda needed to occur beforehand for me until it just became more natural.

Ok, maybe I just twaddled but hopefully that might have helped.

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby oZombiex5 » Wed Dec 30, 2015 2:33 am

cyrus6347 wrote:I'm gonna fail epicly as attempt to throw something in which could quite easily be wrong & might just be something that only really applies to me.

At first I had a thing where I hated to be bound by a stranger.
It turned out that it was more sort of an ego thing. I couldn't stand a random person starting to bind me in a hotel room even after awkwardly chatting beforehand. It was only once there had been a scuffle or a kind of wrestling/contest beforehand where I felt like I deserved to submit before such situations could actually develop comfortably into bondage. I needed to have been overpowered in a struggle and then tied rather then slowly & coldly deliberate if that makes sense. Heck, it could even just be a video game bet but an ice-breaker contest kinda needed to occur beforehand for me until it just became more natural.

Ok, maybe I just twaddled but hopefully that might have helped.


Thanks for the input. There was so much going on and for all I know it could be a variety of things. What you said does make sense to me as I didn't feel restrained even though I was handcuffed because he did it slowly asked if I was OK and then made me make the choices to carry on. The excitement in bondage for me comes from not being able to control your body and being completely vulnerable to someone I think I like a sense of danger which did not come from someone taking it really slowly.

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby cyrus6347 » Wed Dec 30, 2015 7:18 am

oZombiex5 wrote:Thanks for the input. There was so much going on and for all I know it could be a variety of things. What you said does make sense to me as I didn't feel restrained even though I was handcuffed because he did it slowly asked if I was OK and then made me make the choices to carry on. The excitement in bondage for me comes from not being able to control your body and being completely vulnerable to someone I think I like a sense of danger which did not come from someone taking it really slowly.


Well, I'm kinda bored so I'm about to make a post with some pics which hopefully will look vulnerable enough for you to enjoy ;)

Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby xtc » Wed Dec 30, 2015 7:46 am

Thank you, good people for demonstrating what a constructive section "Tugs Talk" can and should be.
Makes me happy to be here.
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Re: First Ever TUG Meet - slightly awkward

Postby oZombiex5 » Wed Dec 30, 2015 2:07 pm

Thanks everyone for all the input you have made. It's giving me a lot to think about and from now on I think I may just do it with a girl that I trust where getting excited (to put it politely) will be okay and won't make me feel as awkward. I'll be keeping everything on board discussed here in my mind for future bondage.