## Insecurities...

Post by HuntressofArtemis » Thu Apr 05, 2012 8:42 am

I don't know if this thing I have for bondage is ordinary...and I feel kind of insecure about it, I've told my secret to 2 of my friends but I don't know if I should tell anyone else...My mom doesn't even know...Can someone give me some advice?Please?

### Re: Insecurities...

Post by Jack Roper » Thu Apr 05, 2012 9:28 am

Asking for advice on here is dangerous, but here goes: bondage is probably a guilty pleasure for more people than most of us realize, but talking about it too much will get you labelled weird--or worst.
If your mom or friends have an "open mind" you can probably trust them. Enter into any such revelation slowly and back off if you get negative feedback. After all, you really only need one trusted soul to have fun, as long as you do it safely.

### Re: Insecurities...

Post by cellofello » Fri Apr 06, 2012 1:12 am

> HuntressofArtemis wrote:I don't know if this thing I have for bondage is ordinary...and I feel kind of insecure about it, I've told my secret to 2 of my friends but I don't know if I should tell anyone else...My mom doesn't even know...Can someone give me some advice?Please?

If you're feeling insecure, I'm sure there are lots of people here who would be happy to secure you.
But seriously, bondage is a reasonably common interest even if it's not shared by the majority of people. People who are into bondage are just as well-adjusted psychologically as the general population. Nonetheless, it's not something I tell people without a reason to do so. I love my mother dearly, but I would never tell her the details of my sex life out of the clear blue sky - or anyone else, for that matter, with whom I don't already have an intimate relationship.

### Re: Insecurities...

Post by Jason Toddman » Fri Apr 06, 2012 1:31 pm

Bondage is one of those personal kind of things where one should not be ashamed of it yet at the same time not discussed with anyone except on a need to know basis - say, someone you want to have a TUG with or whoi had caught you having a TUG with someone else. For anyone else, no matter how close a friend/relative they are, it's really none of their business unless you are certain they'd be interested AND understanding and want to tell them. After all, most of my own friends and acquaintances (hopefully) have no idea how much I'm into TUGs either, nor do I feel any need to inform them either. After all, they don't tell ME about their personal lives either (and why should they?).
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