maybe not so unusual after all...

Postby viking » Wed Sep 02, 2015 11:12 am

i got a feeling that a lot of people on this forum has been like me at some point. having a fear that if others discovers how passionate you are about bondage then you might be consider to be out of your F***ing mind. some might even still have that fear.

as i have played a lot of TUGs over the years i have often discovered that my victims seems to enjoy it just as much, but i never really thought that it was anything more than a coincidence to be fair.
that was until i attended the Download festival in England again earlier this year.
during the Saturday this year i ended up joining a group playing the drinking game "iv'e never".
i'm assuming that most people here are familiar with it, but just in case somebody reading this are too young to drink alcohol or has chosen to live a life without partying for any reason at all i will shortly explain the rules.
everyone has some alcoholic beverage (beer, cider, vodka, whisky, some fancy party drink with an umbrella in the glass, anything really), everyone takes turn in saying something that they never have done like "iv'e never been on a TUGs forum" and everyone who has then has to drink (it's up to you if you wanna go for anything you actually have done yourself or not).

so anyway, we were about 10 people sitting together. we all sipped out of our drinks every now and then. some people turned out to have done quite a few interesting things.
but suddenly when it was my turn i got the idea to say "iv'e never experimented with bondage!"
so how many had a drink...
everyone went saying stuff like "oh yeah, been there" or "bottoms up for that one" and the result was everyone drinking. not just a tiny little sip but a lot.
so basically we all admitted to have been through something bondage related at some point. i didn't really expect it. i mean, i knew one of them would since i had tied her up a few times myself. and i expected that maybe a few more would admit it.
but i never expected everyone to admit it...
i suddenly realized at that moment that maybe this ain't such a strange thing after all.

i wanna know what you guys think!
have you ever been worried that everyone would consider you to be weird if you confessed about your bondage interests?
have you ever been in a similar situation yourself where you suddenly admitted to be 'different' and then it turned out that you weren't that different after all?
or perhaps you never found this to be any issue at all, and you have been very open about it to all your friends for as long as you can remember.

please feel free to share your own opinion and experiences :big:

cheers
Once a scout, always a perverted pyromaniac with a fetish for knives and duct tape

Re: maybe not so unusual after all...

Postby mikeybound » Wed Sep 02, 2015 10:13 pm

I worried all the time, which was validated by close family. After coming to terms with it, that shame and self loathing turned to deep seated resentment and an eternal rage that's lasted to this day.

Re: maybe not so unusual after all...

Postby Mmph Squad » Sat Sep 05, 2015 5:14 am

mikeybound wrote:I worried all the time, which was validated by close family. After coming to terms with it, that shame and self loathing turned to deep seated resentment and an eternal rage that's lasted to this day.


I'm sorry that you didn't get the proper support. It helps when someone you respect is very open about something that you figured was taboo and "to be ashamed of." Obviously when the folks you look up to denigrate behaviors you engage in, it can really hurt.

While i'd respect their' opinions, I think I would find a more supportive clique if I were you. It's not worth living this life in pseudo-loneliness.

Thanks for sharing Viking. Many of us have probably realized at some point or another that the vocal minority (zealots) have invented guilt for things which no one should feel guilty for, and they get off on it like we get off on ropes and bandannas. Never accept an argument from authority without examining closely that authority.
To tie or be tied? I'm not one to care as long as there are gags!

Re: maybe not so unusual after all...

Postby viking » Tue Sep 08, 2015 10:54 pm

mikeybound wrote:I worried all the time, which was validated by close family. After coming to terms with it, that shame and self loathing turned to deep seated resentment and an eternal rage that's lasted to this day.


that really sucks. i kinda knew my family wouldn't be able to understand, that's why i got so interested in this forum in the first place.
i finally felt like i found somebody else like me, who shared the same interest.


Burlap_Mac wrote:Thanks for sharing Viking. Many of us have probably realized at some point or another that the vocal minority (zealots) have invented guilt for things which no one should feel guilty for, and they get off on it like we get off on ropes and bandannas. Never accept an argument from authority without examining closely that authority.


your'e welcome mate :D
i was aiming for creating a wake up call sorta thing when i shared this in the first place so people could see that we might not have to be so scared about being ourself. so people could see that we aren't that unusual even though most of us probably think we are.
Once a scout, always a perverted pyromaniac with a fetish for knives and duct tape

Re: maybe not so unusual after all...

Postby viking » Fri Jul 08, 2016 12:57 pm

guess what, i did the same thing again this year :big:
same drinking game, but with a new gang, i said the exact same thing, and once again everyone was drinking :lol:
one guy even pointed it out saying "this is the first thing were absolutely everyone actually drank!"

once again, maybe we aren't that unusual after all cheers
Once a scout, always a perverted pyromaniac with a fetish for knives and duct tape