Crush on Boss

Postby oZombiex5 » Sat Aug 06, 2016 12:01 pm

I'm absolutely sick of myself at the moment and as the title suggests I have a crush on my boss and it disgusts me. I am an 18 year old male virgin and have never had a girlfriend and my boss is 30 and female.

I don't know why I have a crush on her like I said I've never had a girlfriend and in general have never been good with girls. She's done a lot for me at work such as got me promoted and got me a full time job and is nice to me personally as well as often listens to what I say and values it as well as helping me out with a few things in my life. I think because I've never been good with girls I'm mistaking her caring for full on affection. I can't get the picture of her and I making out, out of my head and it just disgusts me she's over 10 years older than me. I keep imaging she gives me signs such as once touching my leg but it didn't mean anything. I don't know what to do anymore. Anyone gone through anything similar?

Re: Crush on Boss

Postby Oohmynameisblue » Sat Aug 06, 2016 2:26 pm

Don't feel sick about yourself. I mean I can't say I have previous experience but if you're feeling down tell somebody about it. You'll find someone, one day. Don't be disheartened or annoyed about yourself. I suppose all I can say is ignore it or if it gets too much tell somebody you trust.

Re: Crush on Boss

Postby Driverman » Sun Aug 07, 2016 12:29 am

Relax. Crushes happen. Having the crush is not a problem. What I sense is the problem for you is that it's consuming you. Don't feel guilty about having the crush on her, but at the same time, realize that it is all it is, a crush, and you need to be able to function at your job without it intruding. As well as in your life. And whatever you do, don't act on it. FIrst off, it's inappropriate since she is your boss, secondly all it will do is create chaos and drama for you. Enjoy the fact that she is nice to you, she sounds like a fantastic boss and you are lucky to have her as your boss, but keep the relationship that way. Enjoy your crush but back it off some, don't let it consume your life. But remember, don't feel bad about it either. You have no reason to feel guilty for finding her attractive.

Good luck!

Re: Crush on Boss

Postby oZombiex5 » Sun Aug 07, 2016 12:41 pm

Driverman wrote:Relax. Crushes happen. Having the crush is not a problem. What I sense is the problem for you is that it's consuming you. Don't feel guilty about having the crush on her, but at the same time, realize that it is all it is, a crush, and you need to be able to function at your job without it intruding. As well as in your life. And whatever you do, don't act on it. FIrst off, it's inappropriate since she is your boss, secondly all it will do is create chaos and drama for you. Enjoy the fact that she is nice to you, she sounds like a fantastic boss and you are lucky to have her as your boss, but keep the relationship that way. Enjoy your crush but back it off some, don't let it consume your life. But remember, don't feel bad about it either. You have no reason to feel guilty for finding her attractive.

Good luck!


Thanks for your detailed answer. I think I'm letting the guilt get to me and that is why it seems to be eating away at me. I'm sure I will get over it soon enough. Thanks again :)

Re: Crush on Boss

Postby they_made_me_do_it » Sun Aug 28, 2016 11:08 am

I usually have a "thing" or crush on female bosses that I've had. Mostly because I LOVE strong women.

Re: Crush on Boss

Postby oZombiex5 » Mon Aug 29, 2016 5:01 am

they_made_me_do_it wrote:I usually have a "thing" or crush on female bosses that I've had. Mostly because I LOVE strong women.


I think that's exactly what's causing it! A few of my favourite times with her was asking me to do something and I know she's in charge and have to do what she says and am sure it's related to my love of bondage.