Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby Kidnapable82 » Tue Mar 21, 2017 8:05 am

I talked to a few people on this forum that have experienced similar issues (and a moderator on this board that agrees, because I brought this up in a private message).

When you role play or having a conversation with someone and randomly disappear and not reply, but you are writing to other people and role playing (visible to all of us), at least have the common decency to tell the person "No thanks" or "I'm no longer interested". It would be a lot better instead of leaving that person in the dark wondering what went wrong, or making them feel like crap later, or just pushing them off to the side because you found better conversation/story material.

You don't *have* to role play or talk to anyone, but how hard is it to just say "no thanks", or "I'm no longer interested"? It's just common sense, manners, and common decency. It's a whole lot better than just pushing someone to the side and shrugging them off.

I am just making this statement to make a point, because I am sure it's happened to at least a few people on this forum or elsewhere. Honestly, it can bring you down. Maybe some don't care, but at least you are being honest instead of totally ignoring someone and not saying anything and leaving them in he dust.

Moderators: I don't have a problem if you lock this thread. It's not really about a conversation, it's bringing up a valid point. I don't want it to become a heated debate. However, I am sure many will agree. Even if it's locked, people can still read it. I am just looking out for others.
This site is for fun. It is not a Spelling Bee. If you get off pointing out the smallest errors, we are not compatible for any type of fun.

Recon: www.recon.com/Kidnapable82
KIK / Skype = BoundGagged1982
Tumblr PM: denver729

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby bondagefreak » Tue Mar 21, 2017 2:18 pm

KidnapME wrote:I am just making this statement to make a point, because I am sure it's happened to at least a few people on this forum or elsewhere. Honestly, it can bring you down.


You shouldn't let that kind of stuff bring you down, Den.
And there's no way you'll convince people that have few manners and lack of decency to change.
Just look at the way people drive, or look at the comments sections on YouTube.

It's usually only people with manners and decency who care about other people's behaviour and who get ticked off about it.
People who have no manners, generally won't give a sh*t.
So this plea is gonna fall on deaf ears, since it's basically only gonna catch the attention of users who feel the same way.

This place is relatively peaceful and easy going as far as web communities go, but it's like I told you in the last pm I sent you.

Many people come onto these forums to get hard and because they're sexually aroused to talk about tugs...not because they care about one another.


Sure, there are lots of nice, cool people on here.
But you should try to distance yourself a bit from the users. That way you won't feel affected as much when somebody rubs you the wrong way. Of course, you'll probably still feel ticked off somewhat, but it won't bother or "make you feel like crap" nearly as much as it did.

Manners and decency are lacking everywhere, especially on the internet.
Image

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby KingMush » Wed Mar 22, 2017 9:45 am

I admit I do that sometimes, but that may because I'm too busy to reply at times (offline for long periods of time) and then I get hoards of messages from different people, forgetting to actually reply and closing a message (then forgetting it), etc. But to be frank, manners and decency is (unfortunately) rarer and rarer on the internet.
War, war never changes.

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby Kidnapable82 » Wed Mar 22, 2017 10:04 am

Yes, but that's different compared to shrugging off someone on purpose. At least you admit the reason. Some never will.
This site is for fun. It is not a Spelling Bee. If you get off pointing out the smallest errors, we are not compatible for any type of fun.

Recon: www.recon.com/Kidnapable82
KIK / Skype = BoundGagged1982
Tumblr PM: denver729

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby Jason Toddman » Wed Mar 22, 2017 11:54 am

KidnapME wrote:Yes, but that's different compared to shrugging off someone on purpose.

Sometimes though it may be harder than you think to tell which is actually happening.
Dare to be different... and make a difference.
To boldly go where no one in their right mind has gone before...

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby Ducttapestar » Wed Mar 22, 2017 4:30 pm

I'm gonna agree with KingMush. Sometimes, people don't have a lot of time, or get logged out of their chat apps. There are a multitude of reasons, not just lack of manners. Of course, I could go on and on about roleplay etiquette myself, but I'll spare that rant.

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby Kidnapable82 » Wed Mar 22, 2017 7:05 pm

Todd you can go ahead and lock this. It did no good and I feel the same way. ‪I am probably going to find another forum or stick with Recon. Thanks for listening though Todd!
This site is for fun. It is not a Spelling Bee. If you get off pointing out the smallest errors, we are not compatible for any type of fun.

Recon: www.recon.com/Kidnapable82
KIK / Skype = BoundGagged1982
Tumblr PM: denver729

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby That-animeguy » Thu Mar 23, 2017 12:01 pm

tapeandrope666 wrote:
KingMush wrote:I admit I do that sometimes, but that may because I'm too busy to reply at times (offline for long periods of time) and then I get hoards of messages from different people, forgetting to actually reply and closing a message (then forgetting it), etc. But to be frank, manners and decency is (unfortunately) rarer and rarer on the internet.


Manners and decency ANYWHERES getting rarer and rarer if you ask me :/


Quite true, little doubt to that really. :)

I'll admit I'm just as guilty sometimes, sometimes I feel there isn't a need for another reply.
But sometimes, it's decent enough to respond, I myself, in general do it everywhere.
But it's really something we can't change, if it's our nature, we can't defy: Or fight it, sadly.
So... gulible!

Re: Manners and Decency (lacking?)

Postby fungirlkatie » Thu Mar 23, 2017 1:12 pm

it might not always be intentional, i'm sure there have been several times I've had to leave mid conversation with someone and forgot I was mid conversation because I sometimes go a while before I get a chance to come back online. when it is intentional that's because the person I've been chatting to has lacked manners and decency.
Bound, gagged and blindfolded, all with silk scarves