## My bondage principles

Post by Fesselfan » Fri Oct 31, 2008 6:09 am

Hi all,
I thought about the basic principles I operate under when tying someone up. I will post them here- thoughts and comments welcome.
This is not to say that these principles are good for everyone, or even for a majority- these are just my personal point of view.
-Safety first
If I tie you up I will take every measure to ensure your safety. You will not be permanently harmed or injured (this includes not to leave a bound&gagged person without observation!!)
-Safeword/gesture
A kind of word or signal will be selected. Using this signal instantly will stop any action going on. This is for emergency use, and should not be used just because "something itched a little"!
-Before the event
Before any action, we will talk about many things. Limits, do's and don'ts, preferences. I don't play with partners unknown to me.
-You will wear the attire I choose
you want me to do something for you, so it is only fair that you wear something which pleases me (I am willing to listen to your wishes, though).
-You will be tied tightly
I am not into half-hearted things. If I tie you up, you will be tied very tightly (not just hands-in-front or other such stuff). This may lead to the bondage position not being comfy.
-You will be tied securely
I have quite some experience with tie ups. Chances are, you won't get free quickly- most likely, you won't be able to free yourself at all.
-I won't untie you quickly
Unless something concerning safety happens (as above), you will stay tied up for quite a while. I am not for quick tie-untie sessions.
-You will be gagged
To me, a gag is a major point for every tie-up. So unless absolutely necessary, you *will* be gagged.
-You will be at my mercy
When bound, you will be helpless and at my mercy. Be prepared that I could do anything to you (within the agreed upon limits, of course).
-I am in charge
I am in command of the session. Unless something bad happens (safety et al) I decide what happens. When it happens. And I decide when to untie you.
These principles may seem harsh for some people...but hey, you don't need to do a session with me
Curious about response...
cheers
FF
There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by Tony » Mon Nov 03, 2008 3:50 am

n/m
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### Re: My bondage principles

Post by Godzillaman » Mon Nov 03, 2008 5:54 pm

Now that is how I like it...
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### Re: My bondage principles

Post by Boundgal08 » Tue Nov 04, 2008 9:22 am

Yeah I like to have reassurance when it comes to people tying me, or im tying someone, that there are a set of principles, i for one have simular ones to you
BOUNDGIRL!
Probably the kinkiest woman you will ever meet!
I am a switch, I like to put a man in ropes and also have a man put me in ropes!
I am the 'Queen of bondage'

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by zzyzxrd10 » Wed Nov 05, 2008 8:15 am

Hey those are good principles to me. Where can we meet?

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by Misquamicut » Thu Nov 06, 2008 1:53 pm

Wonderful! My place, or yours?

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by Fesselfan » Tue Nov 11, 2008 2:22 am

Thanks for the offers, I feel flattered
just for the records, I live together with a girl who shares my desires, and usually we don't add a third person to our games (and in no way a male sub...sorry lads).
Your feedback is still very appreciated. I know that my principles...and the bondage I do...are somewhat harsh sometimes. I don't play child games when I do tie you up , and in my eyes, pretending something else would be pointless.
Keep on Rocking
Cheers
FF
There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by Fesselfan » Sun Dec 21, 2008 11:46 pm

Jusging from the mails I got lately, I need to add one important principle, which I will *NOT* break NO MATTER WHAT:
-you must be an adult (18+, or the legal age of your country) I will not do anything with minors. Period.
Cheers
FF
There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by boundBinder » Mon Jun 01, 2009 4:33 pm

Your principles sound exactly the same as mine, I would add two things, though:
-I will be THOROUGH.
There is no such phrase in my vocabulary as "too much rope", or tape, or whatever.
-I expect the exact same principles in return.
That one is kind of self-explanatory.

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by MissTieMeUp » Mon May 30, 2011 1:06 pm

*sigh* sounds exactly the kind of principles this sub is seeking in a dominant partner Thanks for sharing!
Rainbow rope & a white cleeve gag are my BFF's

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by boundBinder » Tue May 31, 2011 3:36 am

So, I am curious... Have any of you found a partner that matches your principles? Given that mine and FesselFan's are identical, except for me being a switch and expecting the same in return, it seems that we are all far from alone in this.

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by Fesselfan » Tue May 31, 2011 3:44 am

Well, to answer your questions...I am now married to my long-time bondage partneress. We have been engaged for over 6 years now.
Before I met her, I was doing bondage stuff with various ladies...most of the time it was no real problem to find a "victim" for my ropes.
So I can really testify...you are not alone in this, and finding a partner (at least for "just" the bondage part; finding a soul mate is a different matter) is not that difficult.
Cheers
FF
There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

### Re: My bondage principles

Post by boundBinder » Tue May 31, 2011 6:38 pm

I actually have a partner, AND a soul mate...FINALLY, after three marriages that qualify as train wrecks, I found "the one". She is my perfect match, and the one I should have been with, from the start. What about the rest of you in this thread?