## advice with a girl ..

Post by duct tape12 » Sat Apr 09, 2011 2:54 pm

Well ive being speaking to this girl and hanging around with her for a while. Shes at my workplace and we get on really quite well. We always make jokes etc. She thinks I fancy her mate but I dont, its her that I like. Im scared to tell her I dont want to kill the friendship he have now. what should i do :S

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Post by capturedsuperhero » Sat Apr 09, 2011 3:48 pm

as this is a TUG website i would say kidnap her lol
Sorry can't help i'm in a similar situation, girl i like but we sit too close to each other so i don't want to make things awkward. when i leave (hopefully when i get a new job) i will definitely go for it but right now its too risky.
That's the problem with office romances, can be all fun at first, but whatever happens make sure you don't react badly or cause friction, otherwise your job could be at risk.
good luck anyways
Arrogant Superhero here, Looking for a Nasty Villain!!!!

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Post by Reidy » Sun Apr 10, 2011 10:13 am

Man up and ask her out. You get nowhere without trying.

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Post by SamanthaBoundx » Mon Apr 11, 2011 1:10 am

I think you should go for it - you'll never know unless you don't try, right?
The important thing is not to make a big deal of it. Suggest to her that the two of you spend some time together outside of work and just let her know what a great person you think she is. If she seems glad of the extra attention you're giving her then try to move it on. Don't go over the top with it - just tell her that you think that you would be good together and ask her if she wants to see how things go for a little while. The more casual you make it seem, the less likely it is to make her uncomfortable and damage the friendship if she does happen to say no.
And hey, if she does say no then there are plenty more fish in the sea. If you really value her friendship and she values yours then the fact that you've suggested taking things a bit further really shouldn't ruin that. Just act normally around her and you'll both soon be back to how you were.
Hope you can pluck up the courage! Good luck with it

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Post by Reidy » Mon Apr 11, 2011 3:06 am

> SamanthaBoundx wrote:I think you should go for it - you'll never know unless you don't try, right?
> The important thing is not to make a big deal of it. Suggest to her that the two of you spend some time together outside of work and just let her know what a great person you think she is. If she seems glad of the extra attention you're giving her then try to move it on. Don't go over the top with it - just tell her that you think that you would be good together and ask her if she wants to see how things go for a little while. The more casual you make it seem, the less likely it is to make her uncomfortable and damage the friendship if she does happen to say no.
> And hey, if she does say no then there are plenty more fish in the sea. If you really value her friendship and she values yours then the fact that you've suggested taking things a bit further really shouldn't ruin that. Just act normally around her and you'll both soon be back to how you were.
> Hope you can pluck up the courage! Good luck with it

As someone who is forever in the friend zone, I agree with the second part.