Thesodor wrote:When I do find the right one, what will be the best way to tell her that I'm into bdsm? It just doesn't seem like a natural 'thing' to like bondage... Help?
Given the number of people on this board, it seems to be more natural than you believe...
Me, I just tell them as soon as it appears the relationship will turn sexual and we start discussing going in that direction. It's worked reasonably well for me. Even the few with no interest whatsoever have not run screaming. Quite a few turned out to be into it themselves, and some who had never tried it before developed a real taste for it.
If you're not willing to do that, there are some other options. If you want to tie (at least part of the time), you can hold her down while making out and gauge her reaction. A suggestion that has come up repeatedly for people who want to be tied is to watch a movie with a bondage scene and say, "Oh, come on, I bet I could get out of that!" Mind you, I'm more direct and have never tried that trick myself, but other people seem to like it.