Despite loving TUGs all my life, I am still constantly bothered by the why's of it all. I have attempted to understand what draws me so strongly to thoughts of tying and gagging women, or even of being tied up myself. I want to know why we like to be tied up.
Now, I believe, I have come to a mild comprehension.
It's dark, you're in a small locked room. Tied to a chair, you have no ability for escape. There is nothing to be done about the situation; your are not in control.
The most freeing things can be found in restriction. No one is truly free until they realize that they are not free whatsoever.
This behavior is repeated by others in (subtlety) different ways. Those who use large amounts of depressants or alcohol, people who suffer from self-induced depression; making them feel unable to deal with everyday life, as well as those who blame everything on others.
Originally, I thought it had to do with responsibility. However, now I see that it is textbook escapism. We need to take a break somehow, and this cannot be done unless in a no-mind set. If there is nothing which can be done, the mind is allowed to empty.
I want to hear other's interpretations as well!