So here's a question...

Postby Daniel » Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:46 am

I never literally told someone. Quite a few have found out I do one way or the other.

Postby Fesselfan » Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:54 am

A lot of people know of me...
well small wonder, considering some years ago I did some bondage tutorials for interested people here, and considering I did some bondage performances and photography ;)


Cheers

FF
There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

Postby abenial » Sun Mar 30, 2008 10:27 am

We never tell to anybody.
But really, in my country, I think people don't care. They just don't care.
Yeah maybe, a "tugs coming out" will produce some gossips, but many people have a secret life, and they know that our tastes don't make us monsters or psychotic maniac dangerous friends.

If I don't speak about it, it's also because I think it's none of their buisness. I won't talk about my secret desires without any reason to do so.
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On ne connaît pas son bonheur. On n'est jamais aussi malheureux qu'on croit.
M. Proust

Postby abenial » Tue Apr 01, 2008 3:29 am

The extremists are the people who can't understand that we are free and that if bondage is our way to happiness, it is as is it.
On ne connaît pas son bonheur. On n'est jamais aussi malheureux qu'on croit.

M. Proust

Postby Nuclearo » Tue Apr 01, 2008 10:20 am

Nicholas H. wrote:It's always amazed me how ironic our situation is: we claim to be free by being deprived of freedom or depriving other people's.


olol a brain twister
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Postby Jay_JWLH » Wed Apr 02, 2008 5:18 pm

I would never tell my family that I am into all this. The fear is how things could turn out if I was to be completely honest to them. We can't even talk about sex, so as long as that is true then any sort of fetish is out of the question.

I would be completely honest with my GF about anything and everything really. For that I am glad. I sometimes find people who are into bondage as well, and I am willing to tell them anything I know about the subject just as long as I think they are old enough, and are really into it.

I bet certain friends would know, but most of them wouldn't have any idea. Then again, I wouldn't have any idea if they were into it either.

Postby Fesselfan » Wed Apr 02, 2008 11:48 pm

I find this to be really interesting.

I don't force people to know about my "special wishes", but I don't hold them back either. So a lot of people around me know about my kink.
Perhaps it's a matter of age- looks like I am one of the oldest people around here.
But honestly, someone who shuns me because I like something 'different'...that's a person I dont want to have as a friend.
Perhaps it has to do, too, with the fact that I accepted my special kink a long time ago, and have been living it since then, most of the time with wonderfull partners... so it simply feels more "natural" to me than maybe to others.


Cheers!

FF
There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

here is the the question

Postby aussieroper » Fri Apr 04, 2008 6:36 pm

i have been into bondage for many years, telling no one untill a few years ago,since 1998 i have told about a 18 of my associates about my fetish, none have stopped talking to me or ignoring me,most never mention it, some will discuss it with me , and three have helped me in my desires.I have found it has helped me to be able to talk to others about it.

Postby Nexus » Sat Apr 12, 2008 6:57 am

I have never told any males about it. But I have told a few women, and I HAVE to tell any girl I am dating. Not right away of course (don't wanna scare them away now) but it's such a large part of my sexual drive, that if I'm at all serious with a girl, it comes up.

The girl I'm seeing now knows about it, and even loves it herself! We play many TUG's, and I consider myself to be very lucky.

Postby Gothit » Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:17 pm

My friends all know about it, we somehow got on the topic of bondage, then I found out that we ALL like it~

And my parents found out when I got stuck once, and had to squirm to their room to get help.

My dads side, well he caught me on a bondage site.

A few cousin saw my liking as I was trying to show them a funny webcomic I saved, I accidentaly opened a bondage picture!

So yeah, I ony told my friends directly, but the others just kinda found out.

Postby Hogtied Cosplayer » Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:53 pm

Only a select few know, but I don't want everyone else to find out. I kind of like it that way though, to have a deep dark secret that no one else knows about.

Postby ScoopGirl » Wed May 28, 2008 6:38 am

i think i only have possibly one friend that maybe kind of somewhat knows, after all shes read my fanfiction which includes a lot of tying up, and gagging. otherwise no one else knows. and im too shy to ask her to play tie up with me, since i cant find anyone else to do it that would be as willing as her.

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Postby haloguy » Mon Jan 25, 2010 9:58 am

I never really flat out told anyone, except a girlfriend who seemed to like it and we had a couple of experiences over the past several months.

Some who like getting tied up figured it out and are happy with it, but I have never flat out told anyone but her.

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Postby Chris12 » Mon Jan 25, 2010 11:22 am

My friends and some cousins know because they where the ones who got me into tugs my older brother and sister also know but i keep it a secret from my parents

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Postby Blindfolded_Bynx » Mon Jan 25, 2010 3:02 pm

I've been up front with a few of my friends, and a few people I'm close with at work. Everyone just acknowledges it as something normal. My parents have seen pics through my carelessness, yet no one holds it against me or judges me for it. I was honest with all my exes as well. 2 enjoyed tying/and being tied after I suggested it, and 3 of them broke up with me, because they found me to be perverted. I don't argue, the ones who accept it were the ones who counted.

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Postby Kyle » Mon Jan 25, 2010 3:11 pm

I think at least one person probably has an idea but I have never flat-out told anyone I personally know. There isn't really much reason to tell anyone to risk the reactions I might get for it.

I have told some people I talk with on the Internet about it, and not just people on this site either.

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Postby TapeBondage88 » Thu Feb 11, 2010 2:45 pm

As far as i'm aware, no one know about it, well, within my friends and family anyway. Not sure how people would react if they found out. Although if im dating someone then I end up telling them.

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Postby Viper7 » Thu Feb 11, 2010 2:55 pm

I used to be very secretive and angsty over it. More recently though, I've become more open about it to where I'll freely admit it if someone asks me about it. Now a couple friends know and it's actually kinda liberating.

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Postby Scottstud94 » Thu Feb 11, 2010 5:37 pm

Viper7 wrote:I used to be very secretive and angsty over it. More recently though, I've become more open about it to where I'll freely admit it if someone asks me about it. Now a couple friends know and it's actually kinda liberating.


Same for me basically. I only have 2 friends who know though

Re: So here's a question...

Postby Kyle » Mon Feb 15, 2010 1:24 pm

Well now one person definitely knows for sure, since she flat-out asked me (bit of a long story) and I admitted to it. But it's fine, since she actually said she wouldn't mind tying me up, although I'm not sure she's really as into it as I am. She won't let me tie her up though.

I'm hoping to take advantage of this soon, but we have some winter weather rolling in right now and a little snow can shut down the entire town around here so I may be stuck in for a little while.

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Postby bondagefan » Tue Feb 16, 2010 3:30 pm

ScoopGirl wrote:i think i only have possibly one friend that maybe kind of somewhat knows, after all shes read my fanfiction which includes a lot of tying up, and gagging. otherwise no one else knows. and im too shy to ask her to play tie up with me, since i cant find anyone else to do it that would be as willing as her.


What kind of fanfic do you write & where can I read it?

Re: So here's a question...

Postby bondagefan » Tue Feb 16, 2010 3:35 pm

A couple of my sisters know I'm into bondage,I don't think they care
one used to let me get video & magazines delivered to her address.
I have an online friend who has a bondage site and does videos,she
is so beautiful and down to earth,not stuck up.

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Postby Scottstud94 » Tue Feb 16, 2010 9:27 pm

It's so hard to tell, we are all just normal people and the fact is anyone around us at any given time could hold that same secret. Amazing yet life goes on

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Postby Fesselfan » Wed Feb 17, 2010 12:38 am

I can just say this...once you start to openly live that lifestyle you will be amazed how many people of all kind of life-paths are into this.

Cheers

FF
There are 10 kind of people in the world.
Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

Re: So here's a question...

Postby Boundgal08 » Wed Feb 17, 2010 1:06 am

^^ Adding to FF's point! You will be shocked at how many people are actually into the whole world of bondage etc!
It is all
about faith if you are strong willed and know that whatever happens the friendship wont break down/become strange... then build the guts to ask them...
Many people will be into the kink, just are to shy like yourselves to say it... its all about timing and how to break it too em!

Leaving magazines around with bondage in them
Watching a movie where someone gets bound.. and saying a sarcastic comment like " I could tie way better than that and the victim would never escape"
or " I would escape from that no problem". Most people then take this as a challenge and will tie them up... you will be surprised by how many, will like it!
visiting a bondage site/tugs site also benefits if they catch you looking, act all surprised and downhearted and embarrassed that they found out your little secret, it might lead somewhere.

There mainly the top 3!

But if you are really confident and have the guts to do it, then just openly tell them you are into it, and want to know if they are!

Cheers,
BG

Cheers,
BOUNDGIRL!
Probably the kinkiest woman you will ever meet!
I am a switch, I like to put a man in ropes and also have a man put me in ropes!
I am the 'Queen of bondage'

Re: So here's a question...

Postby Kinkychris » Wed Feb 17, 2010 5:51 am

I use to struggle with this question as a kid. But now that I am older and have figured out that TUG’s are a part of my sexual identity it has become less of an issue. I don’t feel the need to talk about it with anyone I am not dating or otherwise involved with. Somethings are just private and are not meant to be shared around like a cookie recipe.