Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby KingMush » Tue Mar 07, 2017 1:11 pm

In the general bondage community I mean. I'd say there are more subs, from what I've seen, but I could be wrong (then again I'm a dom so I'm not complaining :big: ).
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Tue Mar 07, 2017 1:38 pm

KingMush wrote:In the general bondage community I mean. I'd say there are more subs, from what I've seen, but I could be wrong (then again I'm a dom so I'm not complaining :big: ).


WAY more subs. I am complaining, because that means fewer Doms out there to tie me up. :P

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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Vector5227 » Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:09 pm

Agreed. Too many subs, not enough Doms/Dommes.

Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby MisterBones » Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:29 pm

Yeah, lots of subs. It's irritating, to be honest.
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:31 pm

MisterBones wrote:Yeah, lots of subs. It's irritating, to be honest.


It is. But it's nice to make friends with other subs, too :)
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby BoundJana » Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:34 pm

I agree, here are way more subs than doms, not to forget the switchs
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:37 pm

BoundJana wrote:I agree, here are way more subs than doms, not to forget the switchs


I try my best to "switch", you know, because some people want "bondage back in return" so I try to make the other person happy.
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:39 pm

But, as for 100% Doms...Sadly they are very few of them. We need more kidnappers like Bondagefreak. ;)
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Tue Mar 07, 2017 4:39 pm

KidnapME wrote:But, as for 100% Doms...Sadly there are very few of them. We need more kidnappers like Bondagefreak. ;)
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Tue Mar 07, 2017 6:51 pm

tapeandrope666 wrote:Really I love to Dom I always thought that most people would rather be in control lol


I guess that depends on the sub and situation. Me, I love to be kidnapped, which is a form of control.. There are other forms of control though.

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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby ravish » Wed Mar 08, 2017 4:35 pm

There's overall more people with submissive tendencies. Why that is, I'm sure many psychologists have dissected. Personally I'm a switch and simply get different things out of either role, but I understand that for some people, one is just really far more appealing or natural than the other.

However, I suggest to everyone to at least try to take on the other role a couple of times, as it gives you a better understanding of what the experience gives or should give to everyone involved and what aspects you truly do enjoy about it.

Generally speaking, being dominant is also the more active role, you have to think of what to do with someone, stay in charge, actually be creative and secure enough to be sure that the other party is enjoying themselves, make sure that they are safe, etc., so in purely the sense of having to make decisions, make plans and so on, it's definitely the more challenging role. However, the submissive role also comes with things that might not come easy to people and a lot of trust that you have to put into the dominant.

Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Wed Mar 08, 2017 4:39 pm

I have switched, but it's just not for me. But I did give it a chance, and/or return the favor since they spent time with me in the scene.

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ravish wrote:There's overall more people with submissive tendencies. Why that is, I'm sure many psychologists have dissected. Personally I'm a switch and simply get different things out of either role, but I understand that for some people, one is just really far more appealing or natural than the other.

However, I suggest to everyone to at least try to take on the other role a couple of times, as it gives you a better understanding of what the experience gives or should give to everyone involved and what aspects you truly do enjoy about it.

Generally speaking, being dominant is also the more active role, you have to think of what to do with someone, stay in charge, actually be creative and secure enough to be sure that the other party is enjoying themselves, make sure that they are safe, etc., so in purely the sense of having to make decisions, make plans and so on, it's definitely the more challenging role. However, the submissive role also comes with things that might not come easy to people and a lot of trust that you have to put into the dominant.
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby ravish » Wed Mar 08, 2017 5:47 pm

Yeah, as I said, there are many people with leanings toward one or the other. I just think that regardless of that, everyone should try to experience the other side some time, because it will ultimately give you a better understanding.

Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Gawkingbird » Wed Mar 08, 2017 9:17 pm

Absolutely more people with submissive tendencies, which is a bummer when those with more dominant attributes are something I seek out just in general XD

Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Reidy » Wed Mar 08, 2017 10:59 pm

Without doubt more subs. Even less domme females around.

Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby Kidnapable82 » Wed Mar 08, 2017 11:03 pm

Reidy wrote:Without doubt more subs. Even less domme females around.


I was going to mention that earlier, so I am glad you did. I am m/m only, BUT it's the same deal for m/f as well, there are fewer females that want to do the tying. But, there seem to be PLENTY of guys that want to tie up the women! That's been *very* evident on this forum since day one of joining. lol
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby BoundJana » Thu Mar 09, 2017 1:00 am

Well, especially in my early days on the site I got tons of messages from guys who asked if I could tie them up and I still get them, even through my profile makes it quite clear that I'm a sub
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Re: Would you say there are more doms or subs?

Postby ravish » Thu Mar 09, 2017 4:46 am

I'm so used to getting that with submissive guys though, who also don't take no for an answer and insist on sending more and more messages, asking me to dominate them.

How about, step one to being a submissive, actually respect what someone tells you? x)