ravish wrote:You explained it pretty well! A couple of times when having nightmares that upset me, I've kind of "righted" things so they are not scary any more, lucid dreaming and all, but that ultimately led to me waking up and it being more of a daydream than anything else. Exactly as you said, as long as I'm detached, I can do what I want while dreaming, otherwise I'm going to wake up.
I wonder if that's generally a thing with lucid dreamers.
I don't know, but maybe. That's not to say I can't interact with people in my dreams; i can and often do in a moderately enjoyable fashion. But if the interaction becomes emotionally charged, that ends it. I remember more than once having an argument turn into a fight in my dreams and i literally woke up swinging (rapped my knuckles against a bureau doing that one time)! Fortunately it's pretty rare that i get upset like that in my dreams. More often i just simply remember I can become invincible in my dream and settle the other person's hash before i get too angry to stay in the dream.
Thing is, though I can lucid dream, it's important for me to [b]not [/b remember it's only a dream, or that screws up everything.
I think the last time I lost it, I was witnessing a nuclear explosion destroying the downtown area of Portland Maine (where I live) from the outskirts. As the shock wave approached me, i actually found myself wondering if i was really dreaming. I was actually doubting it for a moment. Then the shock wave hit and i found myself unscathed while everything around me got flattened, and I too suddenly realized it was a dream after all. Unfortunately that same realization coming too suddenly woke me up even when though I didn't freak out at all witnessing a nuclear explosion from all too close a distance! The shock of the sudden realization I was dreaming ruined the detachment the explosion itself failed to cause, and i woke up.
That's why i can't lucid dream about sex or bondage; they get me too excited. even more so than witnessing a nuclear explosion, apparently!

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