How do u introduce your intrest of tugs to someone

Postby ctguitarkid » Fri Jun 17, 2011 2:07 am

Hi I'm Chris and I have a friend that I really want to know if they like tugs or not and have no idea how to do it. Cause if she dosen't I don't want her to see that I like tug's. If u understand some tips would be helpful cause Im a lone bondage particapint in a small country( new Zealand ) and I'm in desprite need of a partner. This person is female if u wanted to know.

Re: How do u introduce your intrest of tugs to someone

Postby Chris12 » Fri Jun 17, 2011 6:52 am

Well you don't have to tell her your interested in tugs just pretend its a one-time joke to see her reaction. If her reaction is good its probably something you can do again if not then at least you know she's not interested

Re: How do u introduce your intrest of tugs to someone

Postby Nexus » Fri Jun 17, 2011 10:46 am

Heh, I swear this thread pops up every week or two, there should just be one thread giving the answer that is normally given:

Watch a TUG scene in a movie/tv show with her, and make a comment. Depending on whether you want to do the tying, or want to be tied, say something like "that looks so fake, I bet I (or you) could get out of that!" and judge her reaction.

Re: How do u introduce your intrest of tugs to someone

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Sat Jun 18, 2011 10:51 am

I agree with Nexus, there are SO many of these threads xD

Never mind, eh? :)

You have two main routes that you can go down.

The first is what Nexus and Chris12 have suggested - which is to bring it up in a light hearted manner. Watch a movie with a tie up in, jokingly mention kidnapping her, make a joke about it sounding fun if its mentioned in conversation etc etc. Make sure that you do it with caution though - if you really don't want her to know, then you want to make sure that it doesn;t seem like you're dropping hints that you're into it. Then it's up to you to judge her reaction as to whether she seems up for it - if she goes along with your jokes and is happy to talk about it, maybe start being a bit more obvious about it. If she shudders and goes bright red, it's probably best to avoid it.

And the second option? Just go for it! It works a lot better if you have the balls to tell someone outright.

Good luck :)

Sam

x

Re: How do u introduce your intrest of tugs to someone

Postby sarwrductan » Sun Jun 19, 2011 6:41 am

Coming straight out with it I frightened off would be friends. Some friends went along and tied me up and when I'd be so its all I thought about and wanted then I'd lose friends who'd leave angry or have no more to do with me and there were times I was punished by some authority for being so occupied with it. I asked one person "if they'd ever tied anybody up before"and when they said" no" I said "would you like to try"....They said "no...what?... are you nuts?" Another person laughed and said "no" as if (what kind of a question was that...laughing some more) and we dropped it right there. A few months later I was tied up several times by them. It varies it seems with the individuals
Those who walk forward always looking back, don't see that which makes them stumble

Re: How do u introduce your intrest of tugs to someone

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Sun Jun 19, 2011 7:13 am

I think the thing is, if you're gonna ask straight out, you really need to know and trust the person well enough for them to handle that kind of revelation. If you ask someone who you vaguely know or have chatted to a few times, of COURSE they're going to say no. They'd be idiotic not to xD

And hey, if you asked people who you thought were good friends if they were interested and they then ditched you completely, it kinda suggests that their friendship wasn't worth that much in the first place. I'm not saying that a good friend will always agree to go along with that kinda thing because it's entirely up to them, but they certainly won't alienate you for bringing it up.

All I know is that from my own experience and the experiences of people who are close to me, people who are open about their sexual interests are FAR more likely to get what they want :)