Postby markusthe1st » Fri Feb 24, 2012 12:54 pm
Ever since TUGs became a part of my life, throughout the years with different partners, I've experienced some of all of the above. Luckily, thanks to learning from small incidents, none of them because serious, but I've met others with long-term disabilities created from TUGS/bondage-games gone wrong.
An example, way back when, was how tight is too tight? I learned pretty quickly never to gag someone before their hands were tied, because it makes it hard to complain - and adds extra time to fix the problem, because you have to take time to figure out she wants you to take the gag off - and do it - before you can begin fixing anything. If their having serious circulation or nerve-issues, that time is really precious.
When you tie, ask them. Sounds weird, but I use the Three Bears approach when I'm tying/cinching the final knot. Mama bear too loose, Papa bear too tight, and Baby bear - you guessed it - juuussst right! I think it makes the tie-ups more fun too, obviously depending on the scenario.
After they're tied, I learned to pinch the tips of the fingers to see if there's circulation.
I know that suspension is an obvious progression, but I've never needed to go that far to set a mood for some roleplay - hell for me, it's all foreplay and rigging someone up is a lot of work!
As for gags, I've never really used stuffing at all, and only tape on a few occasions. Duct tape hurts like hell when you take it off the face, and I never wanted (after my initial experimentation) to put my ladies through that. This helps the safety factor a TON.
If you have to use a serious gag, then put a small ball or a tissue in their hands and keep an eye on it. If they drop it, it's time to check on them very quickly.
Hope this helps - every time someone gets hurt, it makes the whole world frown on our fun.
Walk the mile first... then have the fun!