would like some advice please :)

Postby Spreadeagle » Sat Sep 01, 2012 6:09 am

Hello all, first of all thankyou for reading this, and if you do have any advice Id be very grateful!

Im on Fetlife, and I recently came across someones profile who i used to go to school with. We were friends briefly after that but then we didnt so much as fall out but we didnt see each other anymore. We werent close but would hang sometimes with other friends, now if we see each other we dont speak and its a bit uncomfortable as we both try to not look at each other, anyone else been in that situation? It probably doesnt help that Im quite shy with stuff like that.

Anyway this girl wants to meet up (she doesnt reconise me as I dont have a pic of my face, and i havnt told her that i know her) we share alot of the same intrests but im worried that if she finds out who i am she might show all of her friends my pic's (mostly rude ones, not suitable for this site) or let the word out of what Im into which Iv tried very hard to keep quiet.

So what do you think I should do? I know the benefits are huge but so are the risks as about 10 years ago i was ousted as a bondage lover in quite a very mean way which hurt alot

If you reply id like to thank you for doing so

James
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Re: would like some advice please :)

Postby mcsproot » Sat Sep 01, 2012 1:27 pm

I'm sure she'd respect your privacy in the same way you should respect hers.

There's probably a fair chance she'd recognise you when you met though, probably better to tell her who you are.
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Re: would like some advice please :)

Postby jonny86 » Sat Sep 01, 2012 2:12 pm

Yes, tell her who you are. She's not going to "out" you because look where you found her! She knows you could do the same to her and people into this kind of stuff aren't the type to be outing people.

Also, you really should have been honest in the first place and just told her. If you do meet up and she sees who you are, that's going to be quite awkward and she'll probably be upset that you knew who she was and didn't say anything.

Re: would like some advice please :)

Postby Spreadeagle » Fri Sep 07, 2012 4:28 am

hello all and thanks for the advice, the bad news is that i told her that i knew her and i wussed out of telling her who i am, I said it wouldnt be fair for me to continue talking to her as i dont want to identify myself, but thanks to the both of you for the advice!
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