Experiences

Postby chloroformmeplease » Sat Jan 16, 2010 11:41 pm

The other day I briefy browsed the members list here just to see how many people were members. There are far more than I expected there to be. It was quite impressive to me.
I also noticed that the majority of people do not post much if at all. This is a great place and I can only imagine how much greater it would be if more people posted their true life experiences or even their fantasies in story form in the fiction section. As a fellow member I am asking you to come out from behind your comfort zone and share with the rest of us here. No one knows who you are so you shouldn't be afraid to share with all of us. We are in this fetish together and there a few people here that I have grown fond of. One new friend here has told me of their true life experiences in TUG's. I can honestly say when I visit the forum and this friend has PM'd me with yet another experience it makes clicking on to the forum all the better. It also reminds me that I am not in this fetish alone and others have had similar experiences as I have had.
Call this a challenge or a call to arms or whatever you wish to label it but in a friendly way I am calling you out to share your experiences with the rest of us.
Having said this I hope this encourages other members to reach out and share with us.
Be well :D
Treat others as you wish to be treated. Having said that I will not sit idly by while someone is disrespecting another just because they think they are better than everyone else.

Re: Experiences

Postby haloguy » Sun Jan 17, 2010 5:49 am

Yes, It sadly seems that much of the posting comes from me, you, nuke, boundgirl, and only about 5 or 6 others that post on a regular basis. I wish that more would post. Maybe some stories from zanev or some others

Re: Experiences

Postby Boundgal08 » Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:36 am

Nuclearo, Me, FF and Chloro... are the people that have posted the most on this board, with many people following behind us!

Its a real shame that, so many people sign up to the site, but still are lurkers on the board!
I think what chloro is saying is right though, more people need to post more often pushing there comfort zones, but many may not have enough experiences or hardly any, to post such stories in the true tug section!
Many members I have noticed, usually only post to certain sections like, TUGS talk, and TUGS buddies of all sorts, not many post to true TUGS section or more intimate TUGS, Im not saying that all members have lack of experience, some may feel they cannot write the story as they do not know, how to approach such a manner, then again, some may have poor English language skills, and therefore cannot post in English, not everyone on this board, has a first language of English, and so many may feel put off, from posting on the board!

Secondly, most of all some people will probably just stay in the comfort zone, wont post and will just enjoy reading topics, that other members have posted, there is no rule to say, that you have to post on the board, it is here for all reasons, just because you are a member does not mean you have to post something!

Many people will remain that way, and that is their choice, if they want to come out and start posting, then thats their own personal choice!

Some people like myself, are more into posting on the board, sharing stories, commenting stories, replying to all kinds of topics!
No one forced me to do it, I do it on my own free will, Im not saying that this is what you are doing, Im just putting my point across, that posting is not for everyones purpose on this board, and so many will remain lurkers!

As long as they are enjoying the board, thats all that matters!

Cheers,
BG
BOUNDGIRL!
Probably the kinkiest woman you will ever meet!
I am a switch, I like to put a man in ropes and also have a man put me in ropes!
I am the 'Queen of bondage'

Re: Experiences

Postby chloroformmeplease » Sun Jan 17, 2010 10:31 am

Well said boundgal. Please not that my attempt here was to try and encourage people and make this forum more interactive then it already is.
I was throwing something positive out not the negative side. I do understand that posting is not for everyone and that is fine by me.

If your English is not so good there are sites on the web that translate from almost every language to every other language. I know this I have used such sites to translate Russian and also Spanish. The sites are out there that can help people. They are easy to use. Off hand I don't remember the names of them but you can search for them. Language Translator or something to that affect. The tools are out there for you to write your stories in your language and then trnaslate it to English then you can simply copy and paste it to the forum section of your choice.

Again I do hope this encourages more people to post if it does not then no harm done either way.
Be well my fellow TUG friends.
Treat others as you wish to be treated. Having said that I will not sit idly by while someone is disrespecting another just because they think they are better than everyone else.

Re: Experiences

Postby Kyle » Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:01 am

It would be nice if more people posted, but no one is obligated to do so. I definitely can't say anything, I started coming to this site all the way back in 2003 when the old format you see in the archives was the active site, and I just started posting maybe a year ago now.

It's possible, even probable, many people don't have any experiences. It wasn't until I posted my first couple of stories I started thinking and realized there were other occasions where I'd been involved in tie-ups or had seen it happen in my life but just didn't think about it before. I was actually reminded of one instance just a few months ago when I was reading a story on here that triggered a memory, an instance that I'd forgotten about. That might help people, if they start writing about it they could remember things that happened they'd just forgotten about.
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Re: Experiences

Postby haloguy » Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:01 am

Well, on my old account, (I had to delete it for personal reasons) jboycub7, I had a couple hundred posts, but now I am back to 45 =(

Re: Experiences

Postby Kyle » Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:09 am

Not sure this is really the spot for it but since we're talking about people writing and becoming more involved in posting on here I figured I'd mention it here.

I had 2 or 3 stories of instances where I was neither the one tying or being tied that I wrote on a section that used to be in the True Stories forum on a subsection specifically for times you observed someone being tied up but weren't directly involved in the story. That whole section seems to have disappeared. Does anyone know what happened to those stories?

Re: Experiences

Postby Scottstud94 » Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:57 am

I agree... with all. More people should post, and share their experiences. Then just sitting back and letting us do all the work. After all isn't that the point here?

Re: Experiences

Postby chloroformmeplease » Sun Jan 17, 2010 12:34 pm

If you are content to read stories and not post that's fine. Yes there is no obligation of course. I am merely trying to get people to post their real life experiences or in the fiction section share your fantasy with us. I love reading stories whether they are true or fictional.
Seriously I love posting stories,real ones or fictional it gives me a certain rush and the only thing that beats that rush is being tied up and gagged.
Just post and have a great time doing it. We have two active stories going on. One is in the general section called "My Hill" and the other is in fiction it is a role play game with many pages. Join in on the fun and introduce new charaxters to the story. Join the crowd what have you go to lose.
Treat others as you wish to be treated. Having said that I will not sit idly by while someone is disrespecting another just because they think they are better than everyone else.

Re: Experiences

Postby Plueschbabycd » Sun Jan 17, 2010 1:18 pm

Hallo
I think automatic translate not best, you would see if I post story without Editor. I know that I nee one.
viewtopic.php?f=7&t=4795
Andrew
"Don´t dream it, be it." Dr. Frank N. Furter in Rocky Horror Picture Show

Re: Experiences

Postby Nuclearo » Sun Jan 17, 2010 3:14 pm

The problem, Chloro, is choice.

I just had to do that XD
But yeah, some people don't have what to tell, not everybody is a fiction writer and some just don't really like writing stuff :P
It's not a local problem. Pretty much every forum has a majority of non-posters. There are hundreds of reasons not to post stuff, including laziness, shyness and just plainly not knowing english (translator sites don't work in most cases. Too many ambiguous words and grammatical errors). At least we have a decent amount of posters.
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Re: Experiences

Postby JakeJakeson » Sun Jan 17, 2010 3:21 pm

I've had a fun recent experience that happened within the last few months or so, but the reason why I don't share it is that it happened over the course of one weekend, and it was m/m (the 2nd m was me) the first day, and mm/m (the 2nd m was still me) the second and third days, and people don't like to read dude(s) tying dude stories. They usually like m/f or f/m or f/f, you rarely find people who get into m/m stories.

Re: Experiences

Postby haloguy » Sun Jan 17, 2010 3:26 pm

Jake, I wouldent mind reading it! it seems like we only get a new story evert couple days! a couple of years ago, it was like, 2 per day! we need some new blood into the mix

Re: Experiences

Postby Scottstud94 » Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:03 pm

I like m/m's, I also like all the others as well. A lot of people share that opinion

Re: Experiences

Postby Nuclearo » Sun Jan 17, 2010 7:54 pm

Actually a fair ammount of the stories here are m/m. Sure, I prefer a female tier, but I like m/m stories too if they're good.
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Re: Experiences

Postby npdtguy » Sun Jan 17, 2010 8:21 pm

Just a comment on the people not posting, as I am definitely one of those people, I don't post any stories as unfortunately any actual tie-ups have been very very very rare for me and most pretty much consist of me trying to talk one of my friends into tying me up however only once or twice has it actually happened and it is usually just them doing the least they can, getting uncomfortable and then undoing it which really doesn't make a good story. So I can't speak for others but I know that the main reason I come here to read the stories is because I don't have any of my own. I really wish I did and if any significant tie-ups ever do happen to me i'll be sure to post them

Re: Experiences

Postby Plueschbabycd » Mon Jan 18, 2010 3:14 am

Like more f/f or female bond male. :)
That I´m not native English speaking and English was one of my worst subject in school. My English teachers would not believe that I have try write a story in English.
Andrew
"Don´t dream it, be it." Dr. Frank N. Furter in Rocky Horror Picture Show

Re: Experiences

Postby chloroformmeplease » Mon Jan 18, 2010 3:58 am

Personally speaking m/m stories are not my thing but that is just me. I know for a fact that there are others that like m/m stories and would like to read some. If your experiences are not that great or are very few then you must have some fantasies that you would either like to see happen or just enjoy having them as fantasies. So having said that if you took those fantasies and either wrote a fictional story or post a story reques outlining the story I am sure someone could take a stab at writing it out for you.

Here is what works for me. Just the fact that I got someone who rarely posts or never posted before to post in this thread helps me to see that people can be drawn out to post. There is a first step succeeded. Now hopefully more will step out and post. If not with stories come join our fun threads. My Hill and our role play in thr fiction section. We're just trying to have some fun around here.
Treat others as you wish to be treated. Having said that I will not sit idly by while someone is disrespecting another just because they think they are better than everyone else.

Re: Experiences

Postby Chris12 » Mon Jan 18, 2010 8:00 am

I have many good stories but im unsure about posting them since my grammar iss pretty bad.

Re: Experiences

Postby Boundgal08 » Mon Jan 18, 2010 8:12 am

Use Microsoft works then, or word pad!!!

Or failing that download open office for free!!!

Its as simple as that :D
BOUNDGIRL!
Probably the kinkiest woman you will ever meet!
I am a switch, I like to put a man in ropes and also have a man put me in ropes!
I am the 'Queen of bondage'

Re: Experiences

Postby Plueschbabycd » Mon Jan 18, 2010 9:35 am

Boundgal08 wrote:Or failing that download open office for free!!!

Its as simple as that :D

Hallo use open office. In my Version (3.1) is only a spell check. I read that gram check will come with 3.2 and wordbook is not so great as the that form word. :)
I know I use MS Word before I chance to open office, because it free. For me it not so easy I not study English Boundgal. :D
Andrew
"Don´t dream it, be it." Dr. Frank N. Furter in Rocky Horror Picture Show

Re: Experiences

Postby Boundgal08 » Mon Jan 18, 2010 10:13 am

Well ^^ Like the above comments, you should use a translator, Im aware that some people on here, do not speak English, and do not get taught English, so I suggest that you find a good site that will translate your story into English then post it on the site!

Failing that, If you ask a fellow board member to proof read it for you! Then Im sure they will be happy to help! Just pick one that first language is English!


I am willing to offer my support for those who wish to post stories but cannot do so, because you fear that no one will be able to understand them!

If you wish for me to do that then, you may PM me on the board, and I will see to it that I check it for you, and email you back the version I have proof read!

But I am warning you, do not take advantage of this... Its a first come, first serve basis, so If I get loads at one point, then it may be a while for you to get the story back!

DO NOT!! However email me stories that are in a foreign language, I am good, but Im not that good! :)

So PM me, if you wish for this service, even if you are English, but your grammar and spelling, and structure of sentences is bad! Then feel free to PM me!

If fellow members wish to offer this then so be it... :)

Cheers,
Boundgal
BOUNDGIRL!
Probably the kinkiest woman you will ever meet!
I am a switch, I like to put a man in ropes and also have a man put me in ropes!
I am the 'Queen of bondage'

Re: Experiences

Postby Plueschbabycd » Mon Jan 18, 2010 11:29 am

Thank you Boundgal for your that you want help me. Should I post it your hear PM or per Mail as doc?
Andrew
"Don´t dream it, be it." Dr. Frank N. Furter in Rocky Horror Picture Show

Re: Experiences

Postby Boundgal08 » Mon Jan 18, 2010 12:57 pm

Post it in my PM box xD
BOUNDGIRL!
Probably the kinkiest woman you will ever meet!
I am a switch, I like to put a man in ropes and also have a man put me in ropes!
I am the 'Queen of bondage'

Re: Experiences

Postby Nuclearo » Mon Jan 18, 2010 6:54 pm

That's actually somewhat like what I had in mind when I suggested the 'grammar police' last year, but without having to seek someone out (helpful for shy people). I'll admit this one is nicer and less brutal.
I wouldn't mind helping too. Though I doubt my grammar is as good as boundgal's, I could still make a story more acceptable if it's bad. Mind you, though, I'm an extremely slow worker.
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