What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby jaykayjay » Sat Apr 22, 2017 12:39 pm

Is it all sexual, or is there something else that gets you?

For me bondage always involves being tied up with someone else, and its the intimacy that really gets me. More so than the sexual nature of the situation (though my only experience and fantasies are always with girls...)

What about you guys?

Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby That-animeguy » Sat Apr 22, 2017 12:44 pm

Heh, well for my, it's only fantasies, that aside I can't tell really. :)

I can't describe it either, for me, I have to experience it, to really get a feeling of it, part of my so, delightful disorder lol..

But I think the thought of being tied together, or by another girl, is strongly arousing, as said, not sure what part.
The part of being so helpless.. at her mercy, or with her, I couldn't tell, but it is most arousing no less though. :)
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby KingMush » Sat Apr 22, 2017 2:33 pm

I'm mostly a dom, just so you know. I used to love tie ups and stuff ever since i was young, so it's almost like in my genes. Lol, a bondage gene, get that? I guess you could say it was dominant.. Get it? Alleles? Moving on. Over time it evolved of course, and got more sexual as I've grown up (I'm 16 now) so I prefer at least hints of sex. But I do still enjoy casual TUGs.
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby soyoutie » Sat Apr 22, 2017 11:41 pm

95% sexual as for me

Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby Kyle » Sun Apr 23, 2017 12:06 pm

I've been interested in it for a long time, so my primary interest isn't sexual. For me, the primary interest is the thrill of it. Someone gets tied up, and tries to escape, or get someone's attention to come free them. Maybe they're in a death trap of some sort, or maybe they've just been left in a place they'll have to wait a long time for someone to find them if they don't get free. When I was younger, it was just one particular aspect I liked about stories because it almost always meant there was a sense of danger involved, but as time went on it did develop into an interest in the bondage itself. I'm at an age now where I do have a little bit of sexual interest, which is probably why even my thoughts about "innocent" tie ups usually focus on women, either being tied up or doing the tying (although I could do M/M tie ups in certain situations), but that's not usually the main thing I focus on.

Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby Stef » Sun Apr 23, 2017 3:52 pm

I'd say that for me it's not entirely sexual, but it depends on the mood... Most of the times it's not at all though!

It's the thrill of being helpless, the feeling that you're at someone's hands, unable to do anything about it. Unable to talk or see adds up to the thrill of course... The feeling of cold metal or rope tied around your body feels right, like hugging you... The feeling of being dominated...

Or when you're bound and gagged, and you somehow feel... safe!

I also love when the captor is teasing you, either by doing or by saying things in a playful manner, and at some point starts ignoring you for a while minding his own business is also a turn-on!

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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby Kidnapable82 » Sun Apr 23, 2017 10:13 pm

For me, it can be both. I am 34 and have been doing this since I was 19 for real and online fantasies. My first bondage/kidnap scene happened when I was 19 and I've been kidnapped close to a dozen and a half times (working to get to two dozen lol). However, geographically, it can be impossible, so I go to fantasy role play (nothing wrong with that either).

It's the thrill for me, hand over the mouth, tied up, gagged.
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby soyoutie » Mon Apr 24, 2017 1:30 am

Well, when I said 95% sexual means that 5% is not. Like many others, I also started having interest in very young age, surely before it could have any actual sexual shade. As others said, it's about the feeling of helplessness and control. I do switch, so I both like controlling and being controlled, giving the trust in someone else's hands and taking this trust into mine. Overall I think for me it's all about to wish to trust and be trusted, to dominate and feel dominated.

Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby fratboydanny » Mon Apr 24, 2017 1:03 pm

I would put myself in Kyle's position. From an early age it was about the struggle and the danger and the need to get free. My interest in the sexual nature turned some when a high school gf first tied me up (before I understood I was into guys). But I would say I am still more about the role play and the scene...if it leads to sex great but I do just love the struggle in rope.

Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby SolidSnickerdoodle » Fri Apr 28, 2017 10:56 pm

For me, bondage (like any kink) adds a layer of depth that I imagine you just can't get with vanilla interests.

Even if you just analyze the restraint aspect, there's still a large degree of variety involved. What sort of gag do you prefer? What's your favorite tie position? Do you like the restraints tight and restrictive or loose and comfortable? What material are the restraints made of?... Rope? Tape? Leather? Metal? Do you prefer to be the one tied up or doing the tying? Or both?

As you can see, a bondage fetish has a lot of angles to it, making it a highly customizable and highly personalized fetish. Everyone has their own interests within the scope of bondage and everyone can craft their own experience with it. From silk scares tied and bedposts to days-long sensory deprivation.

Not to say that vanilla people can't mix it up too, but I imagine there's only so much variety you can pull off with missionary style bedroom play.
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby BoundJana » Sat Apr 29, 2017 10:38 pm

Well for me Bondage is sexual, aslong as there's trust between the dom and the sub. I've experienced bondage in both a sexual and not-sexual way, both is nice, but I prefer it being sexual.
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby soyoutie » Sun Apr 30, 2017 2:54 am

BoundJana wrote:Well for me Bondage is sexual, aslong as there's trust between the dom and the sub. I've experienced bondage in both a sexual and not-sexual way, both is nice, but I prefer it being sexual.


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As for me there so no point in keeping not sexual something that sexually arouses me. And bondage does.

Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby HushedPuppy » Sat May 13, 2017 8:58 am

Hard for me to pinpoint it. I got excited about it when I was young, before I knew what sexuality really was. I think it's the psychological intensity of it. The attention of someone tying u up or submitting. I can stay bound for hours it's very relaxing
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby Zero » Fri Aug 25, 2017 1:01 am

Me too is sexaul but to be honest also nice not sexaul, even if it's not easy be excited in that situation.

Btw, I think it's a way to feel free and bound in the same time! life it's really hard and I feel constricted, suffocated by everything! never a time that I can scream to the world how I really feel! so, bondage is a way to reduce stress and scream without be heard (if the gag works well :P eheheh)

for me it's something to feel free and bound in the same time! and ok,.... I find it really exciting for the same roles! it's something that let me show my deep secrets with no fear to be judge
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby RKOJason03 » Thu Sep 28, 2017 11:58 am

It’s just the feeling of not being able to go anywhere and not letting anyone hear you. That really excites me.
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby freyjaceleste862 » Thu Sep 28, 2017 7:22 pm

It wasnt sexual when I started young but during puberty it became so.
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Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby GeekGirlGagged » Fri Sep 29, 2017 2:52 pm

For me it is,not sexual primarily. It is a state of mind. Subspace I have heard it called. I love the feeling of restriction tiight ropes or straps round my arms,and legs have. The slightly unnatural feeling of my hands pulled behind me. A thrill and heart race of not being able to move freely. Not being able to see or speak. And mostly not being able to do anything about it when my captor begins to tease nd torment me.

Now I'm not saying there in nothing sexual. I have tied my ankles, gagged myself and masturbated. I love being stroked teased, nipples pinched when there is nothing I can do BUT. If a guy gets his tool out with me tied up and thinks he putting it in me forget it.

Re: What is it about bondage (for you)

Postby BandG » Sat Sep 30, 2017 7:37 am

I love the humiliation/powerlessness of it.

trussed up in lots of rope, dirty panties taped in my mouth and my captor teasing me and ridiculing me as I muffle and squirm. Nothing better.