Postby Antonius97 » Mon Jul 01, 2013 7:06 pm
Ashamed? Never.
Embarrassed, occasionally.
I've had awkward situations arise from my interest in bondage (getting a massive hard-on while tying up a male friend of mine, for example. He didn't notice. Nor did, to my amazement, the 2 other guys in the room), but never have I wished I didn't have said interest. Key factor in this is probably the internet, actually. From behind the anonymity of a keyboard, I can easily communicate to people with similar interests (you guys), and find that my 'weirdness' isn't actually that weird at all.
On a related note, I've noticed that almost every person I've discussed sex with (as conversation, not as education) would reveal that he/she has a unique fetish/fantasy. I theorize that everyone either has one, or hasn't found theirs yet. These desires may seem bizarre and twisted to most people, but to the person desiring it, it seems perfectly normal. So my typical response to such a question is to say that this is not a black and white issue. There is no right and wrong, normal and weird, or attractive and unattractive.
I often see people say "Oh, well I might desire X, but at least I don't desire Y!" Well, if I were to talk to the people that desire Y, they might say something like "Oh, well I might desire Y, but at least I don't desire Z!" See where this is going?
I think that the issue is too complex and subjective to waste time evaluating what is and isn't shameful. Life's too short to waste time doing that when I could instead be out actually fulfilling these desires.
(If you'll excuse my Reddit speak for a moment...)
TL,DR; Talk and judgement is boring. Sex is fun, and can be done (almost) any way you like.
I didn't choose the TUG life, the TUG life chose me.