## Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by Nervousshakedown » Tue Dec 24, 2013 9:31 pm

To start with, not that I have any prejudice towards it, but I am in no way gay, bi or curious. I'm in a great relationship with a girl, and I physically couldn't bring myself to do anything with a guy. But recently certain thoughts have been exciting me and I'm not sure how I feel about them. Whereas my fantasies usually involve me tying and gagging pretty girls in various manners, I've started to think the other way. As much as my sexuality is completely unflexible , the idea of being tied by a guy is really exciting me lately. Wether the guy is attractive or not it wouldn't bother me cos I'm not looking at it sexually, tho, even though I could never be intimate with a guy, if I was helpless about it I think if enjoy something intimate happening to me, or being made to do something intimate. This post seriously isn't a wind up of any sort. I can promise that I never have or never will want to swing that way, but in the terms of TUG's, it really is becoming something in my head.
Is there anyone else that has been in a similar situation to thos? Did it pass, did it grow? Btw, I don't need anyone telling me about coming to terms with my sexuality etc, I am 100% that I am fully hetro. There's no question in it, despite the contrast of my post lol

### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by MHW » Tue Dec 24, 2013 11:44 pm

Haven't been in your situation, but just from a simple reading it sure seems like your saying one thing, and your subconscious is saying another. Unless you mean literally tied up, and then left to struggle. If the second is true, then it might very well either pass or mean next to nothing. But if your talking about intimacy at all, then you might have to think hard about what it is that your mind is coming up with, because then it is obviously affecting you in some way. Or not, it's your choice ultimately.

### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by NemesisPrime » Wed Dec 25, 2013 4:24 am

From your post you seem to like the idea of being tied up and helpless by another guy. This is normal for most people to like the idea of being tied by a member of the same sex but it does not mean your gay. I'm gay but I have friends like Scottstud who likes being tied up by other guys but won't play TUGs with women and Writer wherever he is now.
I myself would not mind being tied up by women but nothing sexual as I prefer guys.
tl;dr It's normal man, don't sweat over it and it's normal for your mind to explore being tied up and gagged by the same sex.
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### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by Soul_Rebel » Wed Dec 25, 2013 6:37 am

I agree with the above post, what you want is to be dominated by someone who is actually more physically powerful than you. Most women are not able to truly convince you of your helplessness.
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### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by havok978 » Wed Dec 25, 2013 9:34 am

As a straight guy myself, who does prefer to be tied by guys, trust me, you're perfectly fine. I'll agree with Nemesis; those feelings are totally normal, and if it is something you do choose to explore, then don't worry about it. My attitude has always been that as long as I'm enjoying myself, I really don't care what other people think lol.
I guess to answer your other question though, did it grow or pass? Well, I guess in my case it hasn't, but I think every guy in this situation is different. I feel like the same thought process applies. If you decide to explore being tied by a guy, and you enjoy it, don't worry about it. If you don't like it, or those feelings pass, that's fine too. Do what you feel comfortable with.

### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by Jason Toddman » Wed Dec 25, 2013 10:48 am

As for me, I much prefer being tied by guys but am open to either gender, and though I have had some sexual intimacy with guys in my youth I am pretty much asexual now, with no particular desire for (at abhorrence at) sex with either gender or any age level. So yes, tastes can and do change.
Sounds to me like you're trying to convince yourself as well as us that you're 100% hetero. You may think 100% hetero is normal (and the only percentage that IS normal). it's not; in fact 100% is quite rare regardless of what most people believe. Most people may be predominantly hetero (or homo), but there's always a yin to the yang and vice versa and everyone is a certain percentage of each. Maybe most people average closer to 90% hetero than 100%, but won't admit to the other 10% even to themselves. That (including the denial) IS not only more normal but is actually likely far more common. Gender preference (and, for the matter, strength of sexual desire) is NOT an either/or but for most mentally healthy people a spectrum. So perhaps you fall close to the hetero extreme, but you're probably not AT it, and i think most people who ARE at it probably have serious mental health issues anyway. A slight yin mixed with the yang is by far more common - and also probably by far the most mentally healthy as well.
In any case, even if you discover that maybe you are a little bit gay, no one here is going to criticize you, or excommunicate you, or anything like that. Just figure out what's most true of you, and accept it. Being a little bit gay is NOT a crime or a sin (and anyone who says otherwise is probably not your friend); it's perfectly normal!!!
In any case, TUGs and sex are NOT synonymous. Many - maybe even most - people may prefer the same kind of partners for TUGs as they would for sex. But not all. Just as a 100% hetero guy may still prefer to go to a bar or to a sports event with other guys than he would with gals. TUGs in that sense is just another social activity... nothing more. At least with many of us. Sex CAN enter the picture; but it's NOT the same thing. Not at all.
So relax. You're just a normal person. Live with it!
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### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by lockedup » Wed Dec 25, 2013 12:24 pm

i prefer to be tied by guys too because they're usually stronger then girls (sorry if i sound sexist), and im straight. so yes you can prefer to be tied by guys and be straight, as long as you don't have sex or anything else thats gay, then you're still straight.
i'm 17, male, a bit of a computer geek, and love to be tied up

### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by Jason Toddman » Wed Dec 25, 2013 2:09 pm

Yeah... boys wrestling with boys aren't considered gay, are they? Well, it's really no different with tugs!
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### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by Nervousshakedown » Thu Dec 26, 2013 1:52 am

Thanks for the feedback everyone. And all positive too which wasn't something i wAsnt expecting lol. I think the general thought of wanting to be at the will of someone stronger is probably the right idea. I want to once again reiterate (without sounding like an idiot) that I really am 100% hetro. If any of you knew me irl you would understand how I can say this. The only reason I mentioned any intimacy is because I believe that my desire to play the submissive overwhelms everything, and I think the thought of being helpless to probably the thing I really want the least is exciting in itself. I don't even know if I could tho thro with it tbh it's just something in my head.

### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by NemesisPrime » Thu Dec 26, 2013 3:56 am

> Jason Toddman wrote:Yeah... boys wrestling with boys aren't considered gay, are they? Well, it's really no different with tugs!

Ehhh I don't know...The skintight smooth Lycra one-piece singlets and the sweating thrusting guys can raise an eyebrow xD
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### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by Jason Toddman » Thu Dec 26, 2013 7:51 am

> NemesisPrime wrote:

> > Jason Toddman wrote:Yeah... boys wrestling with boys aren't considered gay, are they? Well, it's really no different with tugs!

> Ehhh I don't know...The skintight smooth Lycra one-piece singlets and the sweating thrusting guys can raise an eyebrow xD

Uhhhh.... maybe, but i was thinking of kids among privately among themselves in regular clothes; not public school sports events and tights.
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### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by cloud » Thu Dec 26, 2013 1:58 pm

> Jason Toddman wrote:

> > NemesisPrime wrote:

> > > Jason Toddman wrote:Yeah... boys wrestling with boys aren't considered gay, are they? Well, it's really no different with tugs!

> > Ehhh I don't know...The skintight smooth Lycra one-piece singlets and the sweating thrusting guys can raise an eyebrow xD

> Uhhhh.... maybe, but i was thinking of kids among privately among themselves in regular clothes; not public school sports events and tights.

Dont worry, i think NemesisPrime just let his imagenation go running of for a bit their.....
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### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by NoMeansYes » Mon Dec 30, 2013 11:58 am

I actually find this a very interesting topic as it's something I've definitely spent time thinking about. I'm a straight guy, and have no real preference as to who I play tugs with, be they male or female.
All in all, I agree with the sentiment that it's not to do with a direct physical attraction to men, more just a true desire to feel dominated and as though you've genuinely been overpowered. It would obviously be hard to achieve the same result while engaging in bondage with a girl, that's just biology, You're not being turned on by th guy, but the feeling of being dominated and being helpless.
One thing that is going to make me sound quite shallow is that, in the spirit of the honesty and openness on show in this thread, it DOES matter to me what the guy looks like if I were being tied be him (or indeed vice versa), even though there'd be no engaging in sexual acts. I guess it's just better to be in the company of someone more easy on the eye.

### Re: Something that's been in my head for a while

Post by Jason Toddman » Mon Dec 30, 2013 12:20 pm

> NoMeansYes wrote: One thing that is going to make me sound quite shallow is that, in the spirit of the honesty and openness on show in this thread, it DOES matter to me what the guy looks like if I were being tied be him (or indeed vice versa), even though there'd be no engaging in sexual acts. I guess it's just better to be in the company of someone more easy on the eye.

No, not shallow. Sensible. It's not only normal, but I think most of us have strong preferences in that regard. Few people are going to prefer someone who looks unappealing to them over someone who they find attractive - whether sexuality enters the picture or not. of course, what a person finds appealing will vary from person to person, but (if you'll pardon references to the movie the Hobbit) I'll bet you'd prefer someone who looks like either Legolas or Tauriel

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to someone who looks like Gandalf, Gollum, or the pale Orc!

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