It might help more if when posting here to find someone to play TUG's with that you include whether you are male or female. Sorry but it cracks me up to read posts here and I wondering if the person is male or female. So I might go to their profile to see and it says next to nothing about them.
As for myself I only play with females as there is no way I would want to be tied by another male or tie up another male. I am the guy who gets tied up by women. If they like to switch and will tie me up I will tie them up if they really want me to.
So anyway it's just a suggestion so the person(s) reading your post will know if you are male or female. It might make your response time a bit on the quick side of things.

Treat others as you wish to be treated. Having said that I will not sit idly by while someone is disrespecting another just because they think they are better than everyone else.