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Re: Tugs friend help?

Postby ropedin » Thu Nov 28, 2013 11:40 pm

If someone's not into bondage, then they're not into it. You should be open and considerate of how she feels if you're introducing this to her, but at the end of the day if she doesn't have a fetish for it then it doesn't really matter what you do. And I think you're getting way ahead of yourself, even if she does end up enjoying TUGs there's a huge leap between that and hardcore BDSM or conventions.

Re: Tugs friend help?

Postby Drummerboy » Fri Nov 29, 2013 1:49 am

Definitely, the last thing you want to do is scare her off. Take things slow and don't seem super into it (I know, easier said then done). Make a date for a game(s) and just do some very light bondage. Don't do it super far in the future because A. she has more time to think about it and change her mind and B. It gives you more opportunities for you to bring it up in conversation, and the more you do that the creeper you sound. Make it fun, have challenges and compositions, and even switch roles now and then. Great games is seeing who can escape faster or pick up something off the ground fastest. If you have some experience with tying, don't let it show, even let her win some of the tie off compositions. The last thing that will work is having her know your a bondage god. Get her comfortable with that and then make things more spontaneous, IE less planned.Surprises her with a tug out of the blue. Suggest reenacting a Damsel in Distress flick just for fun. Once she gets more and more comfortable and then have introduce her to some more stuff gradually. Stricter ties over time, but nothing BDSM level. Also see how she reacts to what you do to her while tied, like a playful smack on the rear and a little bit of tickling. If she truly likes it, progress at her pace. At some point your going to have to make the leap from just friends to master and slave, so make sure you have a little gap to make as possible.

Re: Tugs friend help?

Postby ana-tie91 » Fri Nov 29, 2013 5:37 am

and i just add that if she accepted doing that it means she IS kinda into it, so i guess... don't worry!
take me for one, i am into it but i would be nervous if i'm doing it in real for the first time. just make sure u'r not pushing her limits and maybe try discussing different bondage items before getting to the act part ,and see what she likes and what not.

Re: Tugs friend help?

Postby bind_diane » Sat Nov 30, 2013 9:58 am

You said she's your friend, but not your girlfriend. If a male friend wanted to tie me up, the first thing I would think is he wanted to change our relationship. Now, I have in fact been tied by a couple of men who I wasn't involved with, but there was a lot of discussion first. So, you might want to keep that in mind....
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