Making Bondage friends IRL?

Postby Koncrete » Thu Mar 31, 2016 8:16 pm

So I'm turning 19 soon and have loved the idea of being tied up and gagged for as long as I can remember.

What I was wondering is how have some of you that have people you are comfortable doing his stuff with get to that position n the first place? Any girlfriends I got comfortable enough to ask about didn't seem really interested in it and that's about as far as I got.

Basically I'm looking for advice on how to find people I can do this with. I'm in college now and I feel like his may be my best chance to find a tug buddy.
Just a nerd looking for a good time ;D

Re: Making Bondage friends IRL?

Postby Indianjones » Thu Mar 31, 2016 11:38 pm

Websites like this one are your best bet to find bondage loving friends. You could try fetlife. Of course even Deviantart and Facebook have a lot of bondage in it :p .

But yeah, usually our kind just hides out in public and are more open in the internet. There will have to be a bit of trust to come out in the open. I have also confided in some of my friends, but they're not into it either.

Re: Making Bondage friends IRL?

Postby OldTUGger » Fri Apr 01, 2016 2:09 am

Since you are at least 18, FetLife would be a viable option. It would help you to find like-minded kinksters in your area (there are lists), and it will let you know of any events (munches, sloshes, kink parties) in your area.

Re: Making Bondage friends IRL?

Postby havok978 » Fri Apr 01, 2016 1:49 pm

For me it was Recon, but its basically along the same lines as Fetlife and similar sites. Just starting chatting with folks until I was comfortable enough to meet. And as someone who didn't get tied for the first time until like 28-29, you really don't have to rush lol. You've got plenty of time to try things out.

Re: Making Bondage friends IRL?

Postby Mmph Squad » Sat Apr 02, 2016 8:23 am

Although it isn't always true, bondage is pretty prevalent, and you can often find people in your friends group and sometimes in those you date who are willing to tie you up, or even let you practice your knots on them. Remember to introduce newbies slowly, ask them if they are comfortable often, and make extra attempts to help them enjoy themselves. I'd much sooner trust a friend to bind me up (and gag me tightly of course) than someone I met on fetlife.

I won't tell you don't pursue online relationships, but apply extra care.
To tie or be tied? I'm not one to care as long as there are gags!