I'm 25 now and my brother Paul is 18. I think he was 5 the first time I tied him up so I'd be 11. TUGs, swimming and karate are things we enjoy together, giving us a really close brother-sister relationship.
Much as we do love and care for each other, like any siblings, we've had our moments. One particular incident springs to mind and proves my point that TUGs should NEVER be done in anger. I was 16 and studying for my final exams at school and Paul was 9. Our parents were both working, so it was just the two of us at home this particular day. Paul was being a right ********** and really pushing my buttons - something he wouldn't do now. I snapped and frogmarched him into his room and forced him to sit on the floor with his back upright against the foot of his bed. He had a pair of metal toy handcuffs on his bed so I reach through the frame and cuffed his hands to the top of the frame to he couldn't lower them. I left him watching his TV for about 3 hours while I did my studies and then released him.
Putting the cuffs on in anger means I wasn't as careful as I would otherwise be and I fastened them VERY TIGHT - too tight! Leaving him cuffed too tight and unable to lower his hands for such a long time meant they were really digging into him and hurting him, and he was crying when I finally went back to him. Although there were no cuts or blood, he did have very deep red marks on his wrists where the cuffs had dug so cruelly into him.
Tying/chaining somebody up really tight and torture are safe harmless fun if done in a carefully controlled way and not in anger. Even though you might say Paul brought it on himself, what I did was outright sadistic cruelty - would you even say child abuse? I couldn't apologise enough and I'm ashamed of what I did, but being the wonderful person he is Paul (even at such a tender age) had the spirit to admit it was partly his fault and readily forgave me. In some ways, this incident has actually brought us even closer than we already were - if that's possible.
We still enjoy TUG even today, and we are now older and wiser so we know how they should and should not be done. As I write this positing, Paul is mummified (from the neck down) in silver insulation tape on the living room, and I am writing this posting on my netbook as I sit on him!
Gemma & Paul

