Some advice

Postby ropendope » Fri Mar 01, 2013 3:47 pm

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Re: Some advice

Postby cloud » Fri Mar 01, 2013 4:17 pm

Well, lets put it this way.

I have been doing self ties for over 11 years now..... only recently do i find only rope (or other restraints, and not some other element) is turning me on. It is strange after all of these years finding it as a fun and relaxing thing to do to now be feeling it is more sexual.

Personally, its my age, recently turned 18 and looking at you (profile sais 19) it might be the same, the age when you start to link things you like more to a sexual reason and not just for fun or a mess about.
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Re: Some advice

Postby ropendope » Fri Mar 01, 2013 4:27 pm

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Re: Some advice

Postby SephySJ » Fri Mar 01, 2013 6:01 pm

Very interesting, I've found bondage arousing since I hit 13 and ever since then I've never found the thought of being tied up by or tying up a relative as fun, I'd feel so uncomfortable because of the fact that it arouses me. It's a very sexual act for me and doing something like that with, say, my sister would be the worst. I guess some people just come into bondage differently?

Re: Some advice

Postby ropendope » Fri Mar 01, 2013 8:22 pm

I just talked it out with most involved.. they dont seem to think its something to worry about. It doesnt define me or anything. Anyway thanks guys.

Re: Some advice

Postby sarobah » Fri Mar 01, 2013 9:48 pm

I can only speak for myself, but... My younger brother started tying me up when I was 13. Apart from the fact that I liked to be tied up by boys (because of my damsel-in-distress fantasies) and he wanted to tie up girls, neither of us would have conceived of our games as having any sexual connotations. We didn’t even like each other very much. By the time we did start to feel there was more to TUGs, I had moved on to other guys.

My experience is similar to cloud’s. It was only at about the age of 18 that being tied up meant anything to me other than fun. That’s when my tie-up games started to evolve into actual bondage. So I have no regrets about my games with my brother except for the nostalgia I feel for a more innocent time when we didn’t have to worry about what was appropriate or acceptable.

To sum up, my personal take on the issue is that we shouldn’t second guess what we did when we were young and... I was about to say foolish, but I’m inclined to say wise instead. Kids are smarter than adults because they don’t overthink and overanalyse everything they do or did in the past. For them, fun isn’t complicated – and that’s the perspective I apply to the games of my youth.
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Re: Some advice

Postby Tieup1 » Sat Mar 02, 2013 9:39 am

Totally agree with the above poster. :)

Kids mess around, play tie up games, no sexual desire/element involved.

As they get older, some continue to enjoy tie up games, sexual feelings perhaps being more apparent, just a natural progression into adulthood. As long as they play their games with people the same age, and consent, no problem.

As for tying, or being tied up by relatives, like cousins or big sisters, etc. Ok when you are a kid, just a bit of fun. But imo when you are an adult, it could feel or appear to be a little strange and embarrassing. Just my opnion, some people might have a different view. :)