First experience with a partner..

Postby tony2 » Sun Jul 27, 2014 6:11 am

Backup your thinking a bit. First rule is be safe. That means knowing who you are going to exactly what with. Talk it over with him/her as to what you would like to try, what you might like to try and what i definitely a no no. Pick a public place, like a motel rather than you place or his. Always tell someone where you are going and with whom and if you don't call them using the correct passwords by your target time, they are to call the police because it now has become a kidnapping. Certainly for your first round keep alcohol and drugs of any kind out of the picture (since you're not 21 yet I thought I might just mention it in passing). Good you're asking here. Anyone here will be happy to help you stay safe and have fun.
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Re: First experience with a partner..

Postby FelixSH » Sun Jul 27, 2014 6:33 am

What Tony2 said is important. Be careful, so that you can enjoy being tied up.

To your question: If you get aroused by being tied up by a man, it probably just means that you enjoy being tied up. Or maybe that you are dominated. It is also possible that someone only enjoys being tied up by man. But all this has nothing to do with the person being straight or gay. There are different factors of being tied up that you might enjoy, and only one of them is 'being attracted to the other person'.

Re: First experience with a partner..

Postby tony2 » Mon Jul 28, 2014 2:55 am

Secluded place, no time commitments: "Say Susie, I'll bet you can't tie me up so I can't get out."

Follow that theme and you may get your wish.
Let us know.....
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Re: First experience with a partner..

Postby Finn4323 » Tue Jul 29, 2014 5:14 am

I have several guys who are in their 20's and 30's and actually started overpowering me in wrestling matches and tying me while they were in their teens. Most of them are straight (as am I) and they tell me that one of the reasons they tie me is that it makes the sex with their girl friend, that much better. Somehow knowing that they can wrestle me down and tie me up, then submit lovingly and willingly to their girl friend makes their cuddling and loving embraces that much more tender. Not quite sure how it would affect your love life if you were to be tied up by a guy, rather than tying a guy. But, there are a LOT of us guys on here who are straight, yet tie up other guys. Just BE CAREFUL. Make sure you are comfortable with the guy and can trust him (and have a friend available somewhere if you don't call him by a set time), and see what happens. I really don't think you'll feel "cheated" if you get tied up by a guy, before you get tied by a girl. Nor would I worry about being aroused by the fact that you are tied and helpless, by a guy rather than a girl. We all use certain stimuli to get aroused. None of that SHOULD detract from a normal, natural sexual response with your partner. Not unless you use that stimulus to the point that you are doing it so often that you are "cheating" on your partner. Go ahead and explore the fun side of bondage. And don't worry if you enjoy tying up, or being tied by guys. It might just help your sex life with your gf.