## How to tie up a friend?

Post by teachertied » Sat Oct 27, 2012 10:32 am

Hiya,
So I have this friend, I know him really well and, to be honest, I think he is quite cute
I really want to tie him up, but I don't know how he would feel about that, I don't even know if he even likes me like that, you know?
Do you have any suggestions on ways to trick him into being tied up, or ways to break it to him, or ways to get him to like it, anything that would help in this situation!!!
Thanks
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by FelixSH » Sat Oct 27, 2012 11:54 am

If you want to tie him up you have to be honest about it. Maybe you are lucky and he wants it too. If not you will have to drop the idea.
Maybe it would be easier to let him tie you up at first. The classic version were you watch a film with a tie-up scene and you talk about how easy it would be to escape from that. This might lead him to dare you to it. Afterwards you could get revenge on him.
But I have no experience with something like that, so I might be wrong.

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by teachertied » Sat Oct 27, 2012 12:38 pm

Cool idea! And also he is really good at martial arts so I could bet him that he could not pin me down and tie me up... you know
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by Infinitefacade » Sat Oct 27, 2012 2:27 pm

I think that, as it would seem is always suggested, you should bring it in as something else. Mischief is an option, but has it's difficulties, but as previously suggested the film is the best idea. If he seems comfortable tying you up, it shouldn't be too hard turning the tables.

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by handcuffed_boy » Mon Oct 29, 2012 9:08 am

Try pinning him down for fun, even just hold his arms back and see how he reacts, then ask him has he ever been tied up or seen another person tied up. Just make out you're casually curious about it and test the water with him.

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by Jay Feely » Mon Oct 29, 2012 10:02 am

Start off slowly and restrain your friend hands.
Notice his reaction- if positive, continue with a hogtie, spread eagle tie, or chair tie. If negative, drop it.
So of course, ask if you could tie your friend hands instead of just doing it as it may be viewed as creepy or weird.
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by SamanthaBoundx » Tue Oct 30, 2012 2:55 am

You really have to ask before you do anything. Try and steer the conversation on to bondage in some way and if he seems receptive then let him know that it's something that you're interested in. Again, if he's receptive after that, then maybe try and bring the conversation on to how he might feel about you tying him up.
You shouldn't jump into something without asking him or try tricking him into it - that isn't fair. I know that we're all into bondage here, but you can't make the assumption that everyone in the wider world is. How would you feel if someone tried to get you to partake in their own fetish without getting your consent first? Probably not too happy.
Good luck with it - I hope he's as keen on the idea as you are!!

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by teachertied » Tue Oct 30, 2012 7:04 am

Thanks! The problem is that although it would be great if he likes it, what if he does not, and thinks I am weird, is there a way to avoid that?
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by Games_Bond » Tue Oct 30, 2012 9:44 am

Okay, my opinion, here goes...
First of all, be clear with yourself what you're hoping to get from this. What would his ideal reaction be from your POV? What are you looking for? You talk about not knowing "if he likes you like that" - does he have to like you like that for this to be good, beause if it does, he probably needs to be agreeable to more than just being tied up by you.
Second, know yourself. Know your own experiences, what you like and dislike, what you still need to find out because I guarantee if you haven't prepared in terms of knowing that, that will cause problems later when trying to introduce it.
Ok, so now for breaking it to him. Like basically everyone else on here I say do NOT try to trick him. That would only come out well for you if he likes you in a certain way AND likes being tied up in the way you want to tie him up - the odds are against this. Maybe tell a funny story (can either be true or made up) that involves you tying someone up. At that point you could say something like: "So she struggled but she couldn't get out because I'm too good at tying" and add as a side-note "For example, if I tied you up, you would not be able to get out" - say it with a genuine friendly smile and see how he reacts. Slightly pause in your story and see if he decides to say anything. He MAY suggest you tie him up and you might really get lucky by getting into a situation where it becomes a sort of bet, where the stakes are what you're allowed to do if he can't escape. That's just one idea and this is where Point 2 comes in - it does rely on you being good at tying someone up so they can't escape.
If you come up with a situation like that, it gives HIM a chance to go for it. What you're going for is a no-risk way of introducing the idea - you bring up the topic, but the actual doing of it is suggested (or at least consented) by him. If you don't get an encouraging reaction, you can just move on (in the idea above, you'd finish the story), and he'll never know you were trying to work towards something.
Last point: I do not pretend to be an expert on this subject; just writing some advice which I hope you find helpful

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by SamanthaBoundx » Tue Oct 30, 2012 10:17 am

> teachertied wrote:Thanks! The problem is that although it would be great if he likes it, what if he does not, and thinks I am weird, is there a way to avoid that?

Unfortauntely, there isn't really much you can do if he thinks you're weird for it.
However, in my personal opinion, if someone is willing to be judgemental about you based on your hobbies or sexual preferences, then they aren't someone who is worth maintaining a good friendship with.
If you are very worried that he'll find you weird, it's best to take things slowly. Start by discussing bondage in general - with all of the hype surrounding bondage at the moment as a result of 50 Shades Of Grey and other similar books, it shouldn't be too hard to bring up. By not making the conversation too personal to begin with, you won't be posing any kind of threat to him and you shoud be able to gauge his reaction to the topic - does he seem interested in discussing it or a bit weirded out? Then you just continue to step it up little by little from there.

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by OverLooker » Tue Oct 30, 2012 11:36 am

You need to take it slow and find out what he thinks first. You could hang out with him and "find" something on the internet or a magazine and let it go from there
"Mmmmppphhhhhhh"

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by teachertied » Tue Oct 30, 2012 12:11 pm

Thanks again for your replies, and he is a good friend, and its not that he would be judgemental, but bondage is an acquired taste...
And it is a really good idea to tell a story, or bring up things like 50 shades of grey, to encourage the idea, but without me personally suggesting it
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by Rogeroo » Wed Oct 31, 2012 3:01 pm

Cancelled
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by Rogeroo » Wed Oct 31, 2012 7:41 pm

"I have a pair of handcuffs for just such an occasion." plagiarized by Foghorn Leghorn
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by teachertied » Thu Nov 01, 2012 3:06 am

That sounds interesting, however I am afraid the only handcuffs I have are cheap metal safety release ones... however you do make a good point that people like to try them on, or they are a good subject raiser
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by Rogeroo » Sun Nov 04, 2012 1:36 pm

Cancelled
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by teachertied » Mon Nov 05, 2012 10:50 am

... I am familiar with the basic principles of engineering... but thanks none the less! I really need a simple way though, not involving modding handcuffs and things, but I could use the handcuffs and just leave them out or something, I don't know.
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by GreyEminence » Mon Nov 05, 2012 11:07 am

Evenin' peeps. GreyEminence here. But you can call me Phil.
I'm a bi guy from newcastle upon tyne.
I'm struggling in strait jackets, captive in cuffs. Bound to the bed posts and revelling in rope. What I mean to say is, hi, hows it going!!
I'm looking to chat and meet peeps with similar interests. I'm in to rock/metal. Literature. Challenging people to see if they can bind me then repaying the gesture.
Come say hi!

### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by Rogeroo » Thu Nov 08, 2012 9:20 pm

I started collecting things for bondage before I had the money to spend or the knowledge as to what would work. Its surprising all the things that I have tried that don't work. I love reading all these posts and can tell that all of these started as I did: with no knowledge of what they really wanted to accomplish. Well there are still things I want to do that I haven't done yet. But when it comes to equipment - I've pretty much made my own and spent almost no money. Its odd of my huge collection you'll never believe that all of my chains and links and so forth and 50% of my rope I found beside the road (or in the middle of it).
Once I saw a long small-link chain dropping off a truck, it was a cargo chain to hold the tarps down. It started coming off and I backed off, because I have seen chains in motion, they whack you like a bull whip. Well, this kept coming and I couldn't figure how much more of it there could be. I could see sparks from it bouncing and I get getting farther and farther behind this flatbed-semi.
Then out of no-where this hot-shot in a new Toyota whips past me and swings right over the chain. In a moment he ran over the taunt part of the chain with a tire and it broke some where on the truck and whipped like a nine-headed snake. It broke every window in his car and he spun around a little and locked his brakes and then sped off after the truck. I pulled over and put 200' of chain in my car. I couldn't lift it at once - It outweighed me my triple or more. [It was a year more before I found anything to cut it with... Chain is tough]
The next morning my little sister came out and found me sweating and pulling the chain out my trunk and into the back of the garage.
I said, " Sis, help me pull this chain."
She said 'What are you pulling that chain for?"
I said to her:
Have you ever tried to push a chain ?"
With that said she went back in the house so I had it to do all by my self.
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### Re: How to tie up a friend?

Post by tie_up_friends » Sat Nov 10, 2012 7:49 pm

Im not really to sure my friend was the one to start our tugs.