## Fetlife questions

Post by Terry » Sat Jul 28, 2012 11:20 am

I recently discovered this site called fetlife through this site while looking through posts here. What is it and what is it about?
Some of the sexual oreientations I haven't heard of. Also what's the difference between gay and queer? I thought they were the same thing..

### Re: Fetlife questions

Post by cellofello » Sun Jul 29, 2012 10:10 am

I think of it as a Facebook for people into alternative sexuality - not just bondage, but ageplay, polyamory, dominance/submission, etc. There are hundreds of discussion groups - and if you can't find one for the topic or geographical area you're interested in, you can start your own.
As for gay/queer, see:
http://thenewgay.net/2010/02/gaylesbian ... rence.html
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 348AA3VcJS

### Re: Fetlife questions

Post by Terry » Wed Aug 15, 2012 8:11 am

I just registered to Fetlife and browsing through it. I added a post on my wall there and would just like to know how do I search for certain members? Like if I wanted to search for a male dom within my age group, how would I do so?

### Re: Fetlife questions

Post by jonny86 » Wed Aug 15, 2012 9:19 am

> Terry wrote:I just registered to Fetlife and browsing through it. I added a post on my wall there and would just like to know how do I search for certain members? Like if I wanted to search for a male dom within my age group, how would I do so?

You can't. It's more like facebook than a dating site (in the sense that you can't search for people based on any type of criteria).

### Re: Fetlife questions

Post by Terry » Thu Aug 16, 2012 11:01 am

What's the difference between orgasm control and orgasm denial? I am into this but some appear to be too long-term. I prefer to not have an orgasm too quickly while in bondage and kept from orgasming for at least 3-5 hours at most while being masturbated but not for weeks or months like some of those fetlife pages talk about.