## kidnapped (for lack of better word)

Post by anjell » Sat Aug 14, 2010 7:25 pm

It would seem that for the next week or so im going to be kidnapped (for lack of better word) by my father and made to go camping. So yea wheels on grass and big rocks oh the fun. It not that i hate it just i find it more problematic then it is worth.
You would think after all these years i would have a say on what we do when he visits.
For the love of it, im able to live on my own but it always seems my family always thinks i cant do any thing on my own, i may be in a wheelchair but im not a kid any more. Am i the only one who has family like this? please tell me im not alone in this.
(ps: don't mind me just needed to vent)
Last edited by anjell on Sat Aug 14, 2010 9:32 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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### Re: for lack of better word

Post by anjell » Sat Aug 14, 2010 8:18 pm

On the other side of things at lest my friends don't treat me like i cant do any thing on my own. even thou they are for the most part just like brothers to me same for their girlfriends. but their parents were almost as bad as mine always thinking i needed to be protected or cared for.
i feel like i need to just give in and let them run my life if so many people think they can do better then me. i know my limits better then any one. Im reminded every time i try to go farther and my lower half decides thats as far as it well go.
i don't know if any one else here has it worst and i do apologize if my little rant upsets any one. and it may sound like im just a little kid crying about some thing but thats how im made to feel when my family is around.
any one know why people think they know better when they don't?
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### Re: for lack of better word

Post by Nuclearo » Sat Aug 14, 2010 8:30 pm

Parents always think they know better. They think they taught you everything you know so their knowledge must be bigger. Even apart from that, parents are naturally protective. That's how it goes. A shame it causes their children discomfort so often.
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### Re: for lack of better word

Post by anjell » Sat Aug 14, 2010 9:04 pm

thanks Nuclearo at lest i know some one was reading. but unlike my other post tonight it's times like this i just feel like crying, some thing i never do. take today for instance. he showed up last night and the first thing he derides to do in the morning is take me to the beach, not we should go but take. and whats worst then wheels on grass but wheels on sand. so he ends up carrying me most of the time. now im used to people looking and most of the time don't bother me. but i could see every one looking the whole time we where there. i wanted to tell him how i felt but he only just started to come back in to my life a couple years ago and i want him to be apart of my life now. i know its going to be this wall all week and i have to bite my tongue another thing i never do. i know this is things best kept off the site but some time it feels like my whole life is in bondage. i have so many fond memory's of tugs growing up but we all know tugs and bondage is different.
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### Re: kidnapped (for lack of better word)

Post by KittyReaper » Sun Aug 15, 2010 1:12 am

I really feel for you Anjell, if you want my advise prove to your parents that you are capable and then maybe they won't baby you anymore. I know it's really annoying I've dealt with it, but stick it out and show them your strong. Keep your chin up kiddo

### Re: kidnapped (for lack of better word)

Post by anjell » Sun Aug 15, 2010 5:32 am

well as it is i could not get out of it and im leaving in a couple hours. feels like im about to make the trip down the green mile. i hope when i get back ill feel better.
just seems like some times it would have been better if i never woke up, because it has been twenty years, they well always think i cant do any thing on my own. at lest it is just my father if it was the whole family (again) i think i would lose it. im going to take my sketch book and some paper see if i can get the time to draw/wright a story to post when i get back.
thanks for reading my rant and sorry if no one wanted the hear about my problems.
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### Re: kidnapped (for lack of better word)

Post by anjell » Tue Aug 17, 2010 10:29 am

well im home early and i was right i was being lead to wolfs. when we leave we meet up with his girlfriend and her adult son (people he knows i want nothing to do with) i put up with it. then they tell me i should move to where they live and move in with them, because they said and i quote "it would be easier for me". now they are down stairs trying to decide what i should do. i do apologize for this whole topic but at the moment this is this is the only place i have to rant.
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### Re: kidnapped (for lack of better word)

Post by Jason Toddman » Wed Aug 18, 2010 8:24 pm

> anjell wrote:well im home early and i was right i was being lead to wolfs. when we leave we meet up with his girlfriend and her adult son (people he knows i want nothing to do with) i put up with it. then they tell me i should move to where they live and move in with them, because they said and i quote "it would be easier for me". now they are down stairs trying to decide what i should do. i do apologize for this whole topic but at the moment this is this is the only place i have to rant.

I have a relative in much the same situation as you. His immediate family and many of his neighbors/friends assume he cannot do anything for himself because he is blind and are always trying to run his life for him. I am sure that they are honestly concerned for him and wish him only the best but it is so aggravating to him! He tries to tell them that he can handle his own affairs (and he can too, having gone to a School for the Blind located near where I live) but they won't listen to him. Still, I think it may be preferable to have people too concerned for you than to have no one to be very concerned about you at all; I woundn't mind having one or two relatives who at least gave a darn about me these days like I used to have. Then again, I never had to contend with relatives who were even remotely 'control freaks' either - except in the TuGs sense of the word.
I wish you luck with the situation you are describing. But believe me - there ARE worse things than controlling relatives. Such as NO ONE caring about you at all. I should know.
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