How do you feel?

Postby Sean221 » Mon May 22, 2017 5:43 am

Hey there (or here:D) , I am interested if everybody, who is in bondage, is satisfied with this. The reason why I ask is, cause I sometimes feel wrong with it :'D thing is, it is something which doesn't suit with how I wanna be and how I wanna look in public. I want to show that I am strong and a person who tells where to go(yeah it does not fit in reality, but I more want to project this attitude). And then there is the bondage site of me, the side who wants to get tied up and teased. I know that someone has to accept who you are, and I want it, cause it is a very strong side of mine (you also know it wright? The hotter you get, the more and extremer you want it ;) ). So I cut to the chade why I ask you: do you also fell this game of tides? And if yes, do you just accept it, that it is there or do you find other solutions?
I hope I could point out what I am meaning :)

Re: How do you feel?

Postby That-animeguy » Mon May 22, 2017 10:55 am

I think it's something many of us can relate to, we all have that and I feel struggle with it. :)

I always see myself as two sides of a same coin: Tossing it all times, unsure what side to pick or flip.

To make it make sense.. It's understandable. I keep hiding this interest, keeping my USB sticks safe.. using passwords, never able to discuss it.
It's hard being not yourself, at work I often see myself picture Bondage involved, with the sweet ladies I work with all the times.
Surely we've often joked: Want me tied in the freezer.. want my body covered in butter and rope!
Yes I joke and say yes! Little do they know the reality though..

It's odd you try to be you, but can't be you, at all. :)
So... gulible!

Re: How do you feel?

Postby ducttape1234 » Mon May 22, 2017 11:38 am

I think theyre different worlds. I like to keep everything separated in my life but that doesn't mean im ashamed or questioning why i like what i like, but everyone has something weird that theyre into but that shouldnt effect how you see yourself in every day life. I know a friend of mine whos in the military shes as independent and as cut throat as it is, i respect the shit out of her and all the bad assery she does from military to school work she comes off as super independent but shes into bondage loves beeing tied and teased and all that which would be the opposite of who she is in every day life. Theres no shame in that, its what makes humans super interesting. Everyone has a quirk contradicting the overal image of how we want to project ourselves. In the wise words of the Joker, "nobody's who you think they are. Why spoil the fun?"

Re: How do you feel?

Postby Onodera » Mon May 22, 2017 11:52 am

I think there is anything wrong someone do like bondage, dosen't matter if you seems to be a dominant person or a sub guy in normal life! What you do like in your private life is something that only concerns to you and only you. It's not like you gonna say "I do like bondage! I do like being sub!" to the society that will starts to judge you by that.

There is case of really sucessful and dominant guys IRL that are usually are called the "alpha males" because lots of people depends of his comands to make the work ongoing, and those guys does like bondage! Sure, some of these alpha male guys does like to be in charge in the bed too when talking about bondage, but a lot of them likes to be tied up in those moments too because is a way of "freedom" of their responsabilities and several of them do think that really arousing! The fact that they are usually in chage, but in a small period of time, they don't have control over yourself, they cannot command because he is bound, gagged and helpless, their responsabilities and even his rights are taken from them, and he can only struggle against his bounds and be at mercy of his partner. In your case, there is a lot of womans that think that is very manly a man do submit to her, even if he is usually the dominant one in public. Also, if you do find the perfect partner for you, I am sure she will not think less of you because you do like to be bound and gagged on bed.

There is some cases that actually works on the contrary: A guy that is usually submissive and easy going in public can be very confident and dominant in the bed too XD!

You can construct your confident and dominant image for the society as you would like and keep your interests in bondage in being sub in privacy, there is nothing wrong to be like that! And the things turns out much more easy when you accept that part of yourself :3! There is no reason for you deny it, because that would only make you unhappy and probably frustated xD!
Imagine that this is you~
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That's right, now shut up and be a good boy~! <3