I sometimes think about whether I want my partner into bondage at all. Doing it with someone that is super mega cute and already into it and into the things I'm into is soooo much fun but I find that there's not many people fitting that description; plenty of cuties just not plenty into everything that I'm into. For me, sometimes I think it's better for it to be all or nothing. As some people here know, if you play with me long enough and I'm in a certain mood, things can get "intense" and that's not fun for everyone (okay, most people) and it's possible I could do something to ruin a relationship. So unless the person is already really really into that kind of stuff, I sometimes feel like I wouldn't want them into bondage just to avoid any temptation and risking going too far. Other times I feel like I'd want just the vanilla bondage, the whole tying my lover to the bed and having my sexual way with them and done; certainly not the bondage I do currently.
Saying that though, I still would totally need bondage in my life. If they were totally against bondage and really judged people for liking it then that would be a deal breaker obviously. If they were okay with it but didn't want to partake themselves then that could possibly be alright and possibly even be the most desirable. Because I still need it though, I'd need someone who was okay with me fooling around with other people in that way, like I do now. They'd need to understand that it's not a sexual/romantic/cheating type thing and that I fully am in love with them and not my friends I fool around with. I compare my interests in bondage to video games a lot. If my partner wasn't into some video game and it was my favorite, they shouldn't get pissed at me for liking the video game nor should they get jealous or anything if I go see a friend to play it with them. For me, bondage is largely just for fun and relaxation and stuff and not a sex-fueled adventure so it's similar to video games. Well similar to most people's interest in video games, if you get off to Tetris, well, that's your own business

I find that there are people who are okay with that but they always are people who are already into bondage a lot and can understand what it means to me and the separation between love and bondage which sorta goes conflicts with my sometimes desire to find someone not into bondage. Unless maybe we are both really into bondage and have that understanding of seeing other people and we both see other people for it and never each other ... hmm.
All the questions you ask I have conflicting answers for all of them

I probably won't have my brain settled on something until it happens. Good question!