Found a Friend, but...

Postby Writer » Sat Aug 14, 2010 3:55 pm

Well, actually I found two friends who would be willing to try out TUGs with me. One was reluctant, but I assured him it was a game, so we're gonna try this week to have a sleepover and "play". Any suggestions for a first timer who's kinda unsure? Any specific way I should tie him up?

My other friend is openly wanting to play, and also wants to tie up another person. However, I've never tied him up before besides just his hands behind his back. Should I go all out, like even a good gag and torture (tickle/boxers only) and stuff? Or should I keep it slow?


Any suggestions to either scenario would be greatly appreciated! :D
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Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby tiedup101 » Sat Aug 14, 2010 4:48 pm

Make a bet/dare. Go light, and let the other person go farther. Good luck and have fun!!!!
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Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby ropendope » Sat Aug 14, 2010 10:23 pm

Chair tie sounds like the best option

Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby Writer » Sat Aug 14, 2010 10:40 pm

Derrville wrote:Chair tie sounds like the best option


for both of them?
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Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby Boundgal08 » Mon Aug 16, 2010 6:03 am

Well if they are first timers, you want to do something that will 'break the ice'. You don't really want to be doing anything to OTT, I think you should start with something simple, like a chair tie... they are easy to do, and simple enough for them too feel comfortable and also restricted enough to not escape, of course you have 2 people too tie I take, so I would say that maybe a hogtie would also be good.... it is simple and effective, make sure its not a real tight one, otherwise you might make them frightened, you want to break them in, in the nicest way possible don't be too harsh with them... and of course two things to remember

Safe word : Always make sure you have a safe word or action to warn you that they want out. Pre-plan this.

Not too tight: Make sure it is comfortable and restrictive, but don't make it too tight and life threatening, I don't think they will thank you for putting them through danger.

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Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby havok978 » Mon Aug 16, 2010 7:20 am

I'll third tieup101 and boundgal here and say keep it pretty light and simple for your first timer friend. Something like a chairtie or hogtie sounds good. Nothing will probably scare him off more than you going all out when he may not even be into it. Sounds like your other friend is a little more open to it and you've already done some basic stuff with him. I like John's approach of start slow and let them lead the way. If they're having fun and feel comfortable enough to want to kick things up a bit, you can do that. Boundgal is right too; safety is key.

Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby Jason Toddman » Mon Aug 16, 2010 7:22 am

I may be biased because it is my own personal preference, but one way to break the ice might be to let them tie you up first. If they do a poor job (indicating their TuGs experience is not too great), offer to show them how to do it better. If they happen to do a good job (a psoitive sign that they may be into TuGs themselves), ask to see if you can do as well as they did. Either way, I think they're more likely to let you tie them up if they get first shot because you showed them trust; hopefully they will reciprocate.
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Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby Writer » Mon Aug 16, 2010 6:56 pm

Thanks for the input, you guys. So, my first tie-up experience officially was today (i think). My friend and I met up today at his house. He also invited another friend from his dance crew to hang out with, but I learned that he was also experienced in bondage as well (haha). So it was funny, becuz I first just tied my friend's (the one who' s more into it) hands together, using a kind of ropecuff method. He couldn't get out, so I just loosened it for him.

Then, a while later, I told him I wasn't done and to let me tie his ankles. I did so using the same technique. Shortly after, I finished off by hogtying him (his other friend helped me with the knots). In that position, he was feeling pretty helpless and knew he could never get out by himself. So we let him out... gradually.

It turns out that he had wanted to know HOW to tie someone up so I was in a way his mentor. He has ANOTHER friend into bondage who is moving into our area- actually, HAS MOVED - and he is anxiously waiting to tie him up. I can't wait to hear how THAT goes; actually, he asked if I wanted to help! X)

Well, that's one friend down. Another friend to go, hopefully at a sleepover, in the cover of the nighte... :tied:
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Re: Found a Friend, but...

Postby Jason Toddman » Mon Aug 16, 2010 9:21 pm

Good luck. I rather envy you your opportunty. :big:
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