## Why girls?

Post by WhyTie » Wed Nov 10, 2010 11:16 pm

I've found that for some reason, I like to tie up girls. When I was a kid I used to tie up my female cousin, but as I grew up I also started to tie up guys. However, in the past few years I came to a realization: I really don't like to tie up guys at all anymore. It actually kind of disgusts me. I have also found that I really don't like to be tied up. I guess I like the dominant position. One thing, though, is that I always treat the girls that I have tied up with the highest respect and I protect them from anything that could go wrong. So it's not a bad dominion, just dominion in itself. Does that makes sense? I guess my point in writing this topic is to ask two questions (and I want viewpoints from both sexes): Why do I only like to tie up girls? And why do I only like the dominant role? I know that it is an entirely different ballgame for each person, but what do you think?

### Re: Why girls?

Post by PamelaCH » Thu Nov 11, 2010 8:53 am

Guys in general--not always, but in general--like to be the leader, to take charge. A lot of girls, and I'm in this group, like to be the follower. It's in the culture--guys ask girls out, guys pay for the date, the guy is the one driving us around.
Girls like me like to be asked out, like for the guy to take charge, drive us around, pay for the date. I'm not going to say that we're submissive, as in S&M, but we follow your lead. And we're more interested in being tied up than tying you--those of us interested in bondage.
Why do you like to tie girls, but are disgusted by the idea of tying guys? Probably becuase it's becoming sexual to you, and from what you say, you aren't interested in guys at all romantically, just girls. Girls look sexy to you bound. I don't think it's more complicated than that.
I'm not dissing same sex romance, but that's just not you.

### Re: Why girls?

Post by LoTUG » Thu Nov 11, 2010 10:26 pm

I think I can agree with Pam. I'm the same way....always have been. For me its always been about me tying and gagging the girl, never been interested in guys or being tied myself. I'm also like you in the fact I'm always respectful to my victim. Whether in real life or online rp, I will never overstep a boundary or do anything to hurt or humiliate her. For me the struggle and helplessness just turns me on. I can say right out that why only girls is because I'm straight and therefore am not too interested in guys tied since I associate a bound and gagged girl with a sexual arousal and I can't relate it to men. Those who do like men I have nothing against, just stating my answer to the question.

### Re: Why girls?

Post by cellofello » Thu Nov 11, 2010 11:32 pm

> PamelaCH wrote:Guys in general--not always, but in general--like to be the leader, to take charge.

Nevertheless, when it comes to bondage, even among males submissives are more common than dominants.

### Re: Why girls?

Post by WhyTie » Sat Nov 13, 2010 12:10 am

You guys' ideas definitely make sense. The only thing is that I seem to get excited when I see men tied up too. Whether it's a movie or a picture or a real life situation, I get an erection whether it's a guy or a girl. You're definitely right PamelaCH, I'm definitely not gay. So why would I feel that with guys and girls? Does anyone else have this same...feeling?

### Re: Why girls?

Post by viking » Sat Nov 13, 2010 6:01 am

i can at least tell you that it's completely normal. i'm a guy who prefers to be the one doing the tying. been tied up a few times myself but didn't like it and also i prefer to tie up girls. i tied a few boys but i'm not that mutch into it. been like that for as long i can remember. but a good thing that you still show respect for the ones you tie up. better not scare them off.
why your thinking like that might come out of many reasons.
let's start with why you probably don't like beeing tied up yourself. witch one that makes most sense is up to you to figure out.
1. you could simply just like to be the one in charge.
2. you might have some sort of claustrophobia.
3. if you are a dude yourself and don't like watching other guys beeing tied up then why would you like to watch yourself beeing tied up if you clearly are into only having girls tied?
4. you don't feel comfortable when restrained.
5. it could be an experience from the past that happened to you so you simply lost interest in beiing tied up.
it could be something different too, but these makes most sense.
then reasons for probably why you only like it when girls are tied up.
1. the games you had with your female cousin that you said started it all could probably be one reason, or if you as a child got used to movies or tv shows that had a girl tied up you felt like it was supposed to be that way.
in other words, it could be a thing your used to since your childhood and wont let go.
2. it might be because you only are turned on by girls and therefor only like it when they are the one tied up.
that's about the only explenations i got. once again i could be wrong but think about it and maybe you find one my theories to be the right one.
Once a scout, always a perverted pyromaniac with a fetish for knives and duct tape

### Re: Why girls?

Post by Jay Feely » Sat Nov 13, 2010 8:31 am

It is normal, and you do not need to worry about it:
1. You might find them attractive to be the ones restrained in any manner
2. You might find them pleading and begging to be more exciting
3. You might expect them to return the favor
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.

### Re: Why girls?

Post by Kyle » Sat Nov 13, 2010 2:30 pm

I think most of us have preferences like this. I've always been more interested in tying up girls or being tied up by them even though my first experience involved being tied up by other boys. Today it would take a very specific scenario for me to imagine being tied up by another man. I can't really say I enjoy tying or being tied more than the other, it depends a lot on my mood and somewhat on scenario.
If you don't like being tied up as much you like dominance more than submission. I'm tempted to say there's at least some sexual aspect involved if you only want to tie up women but I've always been the same way even when I was at the age when girls still had cooties, so I don't know if that's necessarily true.
Many people like to be either the one doing the tying or the one tied more than the other. It's pretty normal. I'd venture to think most people would rather be involved with the opposite sex more than the same sex, especially men, but I don't know how true that is. Either way, it's not abnormal.

### Re: Why girls?

Post by WhyTie » Mon Nov 22, 2010 1:17 am

Thanks guys!

### Re: Why girls?

Post by duct_t@p3 » Wed Dec 01, 2010 7:46 am

Tying girls is more exciting.

### Re: Why girls?

Post by BoundTight1 » Wed Dec 01, 2010 11:38 pm

> PamelaCH wrote:Guys in general--not always, but in general--like to be the leader, to take charge. A lot of girls, and I'm in this group, like to be the follower. It's in the culture--guys ask girls out, guys pay for the date, the guy is the one driving us around.
> Girls like me like to be asked out, like for the guy to take charge, drive us around, pay for the date. I'm not going to say that we're submissive, as in S&M, but we follow your lead. And we're more interested in being tied up than tying you--those of us interested in bondage.
> Why do you like to tie girls, but are disgusted by the idea of tying guys? Probably becuase it's becoming sexual to you, and from what you say, you aren't interested in guys at all romantically, just girls. Girls look sexy to you bound. I don't think it's more complicated than that.
> I'm not dissing same sex romance, but that's just not you.

So your calling me a Female then... I have proff I'm a male... LMAO
But seriouslty I agree with Pam You don't like to tie up guys because in your mind Tie ups are sexual and your a Hetero by the way you speak....
I choose to be tied up or tie up guys more... Not saying Girls are out of the question... But she better know how to make me submit to her...

### Re: Why girls?

Post by sarobah » Mon Dec 06, 2010 2:30 pm

> aielen wrote:we girls are always the weaker sex.

Weaker... generally.
Tougher... definitely!
Words, like Nature, half reveal and half conceal the soul within.

### Re: Why girls?

Post by capturedsuperhero » Mon Dec 06, 2010 3:37 pm

I'm straight, but i've always had a fascination with bondage.
I like to be tied by men as it seems more "realisistic". When i tie up a woman, or be tied by a woman, it is aways more romantic - gentle tickling, feeding each other fruit, kissing etc.
Being tied by a guy, i don't want any romance but i am open in what they do to me be it tickling, spanking, groping or even milking.
I'm just a fan of bondage in general lol
Arrogant Superhero here, Looking for a Nasty Villain!!!!

### Re: Why girls?

Post by BoundTight1 » Mon Dec 06, 2010 4:04 pm

> matthec2 wrote:I'm straight, but i've always had a fascination with bondage.
> I like to be tied by men as it seems more "realisistic". When i tie up a woman, or be tied by a woman, it is aways more romantic - gentle tickling, feeding each other fruit, kissing etc.
> Being tied by a guy, i don't want any romance but i am open in what they do to me be it tickling, spanking, groping or even milking.
> I'm just a fan of bondage in general lol

I'm Bisexual and don't see it as Sensual or Sexual with either sex... I'm use to be tied by guys because they ussual don't take Surender... Girls on the other hand tend to untie me as soon as I start to struggle because they don't always see the RP aspect of what where doing.....
Not all girls but most of the ones who are into TUGs around here anyway....

### Re: Why girls?

Post by Jay Feely » Mon Dec 06, 2010 4:05 pm

Wow, my girlfriend always ties me up, but I never tie her up. This post is making me wonder if I should.
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.