## Do you think I have chance to do TuGs with this person?

Post by Ohaithar » Sun Nov 21, 2010 4:34 pm

Recently I sadly broke up with my girlfriend, which I was pretty upset about due to her liking TuGs, however, there is another girl I got my eye on, and I really want to do TuGs again.
I am good friends with her initially, and we talk often, however I have never expressed my emotions towards her.
First I'll tell you how I got to know how she may like TuGs, in a lesson me and my friend were discussing bondage (what we do everyday) in a jokey way, and then I pointed towards this girl and whispered to my friend "I bet she likes to do it." And we started to laugh. She turned around and said "Are you talking about me." Me and my friend burst out laughing and she then continued "What are you talking about." Me and my friend turned to each other and being the coward I am, I asked him to tell her, but he fought back and got me to say it. So I said to her
"Me and my friend here were discussing whether you like Bondage." She looked at me with disbelief, and me and my friend started laughing again, then I said, "There's nothing wrong with it you know." And continued laughing.
Later at break time, she came into my tutor (where me and my friends always hang out) and started to bring up the subject, and said "You know, the only things I haven't tried is Anal and Bondage" Now, seeing as though she didn't say "That's disgusting, why would you do that." Or anything like that and instead said "I haven't tried that" I guess that'll mean she would be up for it. And I would say we have a high chance of going out with each other seeing as that we have SO much in common (including this)
What do you guys say?

### Re: Do you think I have chance to do TuGs with this person?

Post by SamanthaBoundx » Mon Nov 22, 2010 6:56 am

I think it's probably better to ask whether you have a chance at a lasting relationship based on something other than common interest with this person and if the answer to that is yes, THEN you can start to think about TUGs.
I also wouldnt base your opinion that shes into TUGs on the fact that she said she hadnt done them before. Just because she didnt say shes repulsed by the idea doesnt mean shes up for it - theres quite a large distinction between the two xD
Bu hey,if it turns out that there is a relationship in there and that she actually is into TUGs then er. . .Have fun, I guess? xD

### Re: Do you think I have chance to do TuGs with this person?

Post by IngloriousBondager » Mon Nov 22, 2010 12:20 pm

Samantha's advice is sound. It's what I would have said.

### Re: Do you think I have chance to do TuGs with this person?

Post by cellofello » Tue Nov 23, 2010 12:02 am

If I had been there to hear the tone of voice and see the body language, I might have been better able to tell you where she was coming from. I think it's safe to say she's not completely disgusted by the idea of bondage - if she were, I'd expect her either to say so, or to avoid the topic altogether. Going on just the words, it's possible that she already likes the idea but hasn't had the opportunity to try. It's also possible that she would be willing to try it, at least with the right partner, and is perhaps even actively curious, but might find out after trying it that she is neutral or even negative. I have introduced a number of women to bondage. Two of them were willing to try, but decided that they got nothing at all out of either role. So even if your friend is up for trying it out, there's no guarantee that a) she's up for trying it out with you; b) she'll like it, or c) she'll like doing the things you like doing.