Postby Jason Toddman » Sun Apr 08, 2012 1:36 pm
Was this actually discussed with your friend when you visited your friend before, so that there is no chance of you having misunderstood something? For instance, does your friend have a roommate who may be the actual owner of the ball gag and your friend knows nothing about it (not very likely but not 100% impossible, is it)? If there was no frank discussion of this before, there IS a chance that things might not go the way you hoped. If details were clearly discussed though, that's a different mater, but your initial post doesn't make this clear (at least, not to me) and implies your friend doesn't know what you know (or think you know). In which case, I think you may want to go slow with a series of emails rather than one big one to test the waters and make sure there are no tragic misunderstandings that could ruin your friendship (I've had lots of misunderstandings in my own life in various maters so I'm sensitive to that particular issue).
Assuming you already had a heart to heart with him previously, the only other objection I can think of is, are you sure your friend is the only one who has access to his email account? If he lives with others (roommates for example), it's possible your message won't be quite as private as you think and may be an embarrassment to you AND your friend.
In any case, I wish you the best of luck with all this.
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