If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby SolidSnickerdoodle » Fri Sep 16, 2016 11:07 am

So, this question's been on my mind a lot lately, specifically how I would answer it. In my experience, and from what I've read thus far, fetishes are developed subconsciously and as a result a person "can't help" but enjoy said thing. With that being said, if you could somehow flip a magic switch and make all of your bondage interests go away, would you?

While some might answer with an enthusiastic "NO!", I for one am not sure. Assuming that one could find a steady bondage partner where both parties are comfortable with exploring the fetish and trying new things, I suppose the payoff would be substantial. But for those of us who have never had such luck, I begin to wonder if it would be easier to (hypothetically) just not have to deal with it at all.

Is all the nervousness, the fear of persecution by friends and family, the desperate attempts to create a scenario in which there is just a slight chance of a real life TUG happening; is it all worth it? Call it a shower thought, but it's stuck with me for a few days now. I am interested in hearing what you guys have to say.
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby BranBTAT » Fri Sep 16, 2016 12:14 pm

Unlike most people on this board, I have had bondage experiences with quite a few people. Possibly surprising, it's not an enthusiastic "NO!" from me. I think about the same thing pretty much every time I have a TUG with someone. I have a fair bit of regret from my play; I've pushed some people too far and hurt them or they've hurt me. I hate myself every time something like that happens and I hate being into what I am into. Those are the times that I think about maybe giving up bondage forever. Having a magic switch there certainly would be tempting. If not that, then having a magic switch to turn off my not nice side that brings me all the regret and makes TUGs not fun for me after the fact. Now, if I had a steady bondage partner that was into the same things that I was and I could do my thing without the regret, then it'd be some awesome sauce. But that whole "if it was easy to do and I loved doing it, of course I'd do!!!" thing is probably true for anything heh.

All the nervousness, the fear, the attempts; that's all worth it, to me. You'll eventually get what to experience what you want and that moment will be super amazing. Not at all what you expect it to be like and it will be full of nervousness, fear, and probably many attempts, but it will be super amazing.

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby RiaTheGaggedGirl » Fri Sep 16, 2016 12:23 pm

Probably.
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby Jay Feely » Fri Sep 16, 2016 1:32 pm

No it will take away fun
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby putasockinit2 » Fri Sep 16, 2016 3:24 pm

Id also probably choose not to like bondage if i could, i see it as a nuisance, a side to me i dont want anybody that knows me to know about.
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby RiaTheGaggedGirl » Fri Sep 16, 2016 3:28 pm

putasockinit2 wrote:Id also probably choose not to like bondage if i could, i see it as a nuisance, a side to me i dont want anybody that knows me to know about.

Same, it would just be easier. I mean I'm turned on by the usual things, its just a bit annoying.
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby TiedwithManyRopes » Fri Sep 16, 2016 3:54 pm

It would be a hard decision. I feel like there aren't many people that know about this side of me, but I don't think I could give it up.

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby Boocola » Fri Sep 16, 2016 4:58 pm

The sad thing is I've been like this since I was six, two years after A car accident and waking up from a coma, the doctors said I would never wake up from, any way I just wanted to give up on living, with a mental disability and two legs that didn't heal properly from the accident, I wanted to start over, this little desire I had for bondage kept me going, because I wasn't like everyone else, so why did I have to act like everyone else, I can switch moods if I want to, some moods have no desire for this.
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby Kyle » Fri Sep 16, 2016 5:41 pm

I'd probably choose to tone down my interest in it a little, but not give it up entirely.

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby Mmph Squad » Sat Sep 17, 2016 10:15 am

This is a very good question/hypothetical. I may have said "yes, most definitely yes," earlier in life. However, i've come to realize that it's challenges that make us who we are. Not having a "free-pass" where everything I do is considered mainstream and completely accepted has led me to see the steep climb others are making in life whether it be through a mental/physical deficit or because they just don't fit in.

This climb is invisible to those who have lived a life of convenience. I admit that no one has avoided being the "other" in their lives entirely, however, I'd warrant that some of us have had to treat the cliffside while others rode the gondola from hilltop to hilltop. I appreciate the way nature and life experience made me, and I believe wholeheartedly that being in the out-crowd has made me the fighter I am today. The constant battle against inequality and injustice has given me a purpose far greater than amassing wealth or fame.

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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby randomboy18 » Sat Sep 17, 2016 1:10 pm

I dont want to give it up yet because i never had a real tug and i really want to experience it for myself. But maybe after my first tug it will change

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby Driverman » Sat Sep 17, 2016 1:34 pm

I echo Burlap_Mac's sentiments. It is part of what makes me "me". Everyone is unique, everyone has their own thing, and this is mine.

I also feel that if you are changing things for others approval because you have to "hide" who you are, that is the wrong reason to make a change. I don't advertise this side of me, but I am not ashamed of it either. I just don't think it's necessary to share everything about you to everyone. Just be you. So no, I would not make the choice to not like bondage. And besides, it has bought me great pleasure, even with the fact that I have very limited rl experience, it has given me pleasure reading stories on here, hearing about others experiences, and fantasizing about it. I see no reason to turn that off and if you could turn it off, it would probably just be replaced by something equally (or even more) taboo.

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby fratboydanny » Sat Sep 17, 2016 1:45 pm

It is fruitless to try and give it up. I have many times. In my teens and early college days when I would throw away my supplies of ropes, bandannas and duct tape thinking this would make it all go away. And then a few weeks or months later be back in a store buying the supplies...

This is a hard question but, it is too much of me to say turn it off.

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby Max87se » Sat Sep 17, 2016 9:53 pm

These days I am fine with it, no problems, but growing up I do wish I could have traded my bondage interest for more "normal" interests. It was quite tough to like it so much and not have anyone to actually tie me up. On top of that I understood I was alone with this interest and one felt quite odd. On the other hand... self bondage was alot of fun.

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby SolidSnickerdoodle » Sun Oct 02, 2016 2:56 am

Burlap_Mac wrote:This is a very good question/hypothetical. I may have said "yes, most definitely yes," earlier in life. However, i've come to realize that it's challenges that make us who we are. Not having a "free-pass" where everything I do is considered mainstream and completely accepted has led me to see the steep climb others are making in life whether it be through a mental/physical deficit or because they just don't fit in.

This climb is invisible to those who have lived a life of convenience. I admit that no one has avoided being the "other" in their lives entirely, however, I'd warrant that some of us have had to treat the cliffside while others rode the gondola from hilltop to hilltop. I appreciate the way nature and life experience made me, and I believe wholeheartedly that being in the out-crowd has made me the fighter I am today. The constant battle against inequality and injustice has given me a purpose far greater than amassing wealth or fame.

I wouldn't change a thing.

I realize my reply is a bit late, but you make a good point. Especially that bit about having a free pass by being 100% mainstream.

At the risk of sounding cliche here, I do sometimes take comfort in the fact that I have this "other side", so to speak, that nobody knows about. Don't get me wrong. I'm no special snowflake that preaches their detachment from social norms. But it does provide me with a sense of character in what could otherwise be considered a fairly average life.

Still, I think it's important that everyone who has the interest find someone that they can share it with. I don't think people are meant to hang around in this sort of limbo forever. If I somehow knew today that I would have absolutely no chance of finding that person, I would probably choose to not like it. But it's that connection that makes it worth it.
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby kidnapkeely987 » Mon Oct 03, 2016 5:16 pm

I think I'd choose not to be, only because there's always the fear that the people you meet won't understand or will find it strange

Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby MisterTheEdge » Tue Oct 04, 2016 3:35 pm

I'd still be into bondage if the choice were presented.
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Re: If you could choose to not like bondage, would you?

Postby Fesselfan » Wed Oct 05, 2016 12:25 am

A definite no...bondage is one of the things which makes me happy in life.

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