MegaX1231 wrote:I feel like a complete freak [...]
... and I feel so dirty sometimes because of this.
Sealherlips wrote:You "get off" with handcuffs? Surprise! You're not asexual.
Sealherlips wrote:Then congratulations, they're not asexual. Asexual means you have no sexual drive. I've noticed most "asexual" people are just anti social attention seekers.
Jason Toddman wrote:Sealherlips wrote:Then congratulations, they're not asexual. Asexual means you have no sexual drive. I've noticed most "asexual" people are just anti social attention seekers.
I beg to differ. I may be asocial, but i am not anti-social by any means. Anti-social refers to people who actively seek to harm others. Asocial merely means one prefers to isolate themselves. I am of the latter persuasion. And in real life at least seeking attention is just about the last thing I would want to do, and even here not so much. Perhaps at one time... perhaps. But certainly not now.
MegaX1231 wrote:Not to start an argument here, but asexual simply means that you have no sexual attraction towards other people. It does not mean that you don't have a libido...
MegaX1231 wrote:Not to start an argument here, but asexual simply means that you have no sexual attraction towards other people. It does not mean that you don't have a libido. Asexuals are capable of being "turned on", because it's a physiological function that our bodies can't control. Now, as previously discussed, you can have kinks. In my case, handcuffs: The thought of doing anything sexual with someone involving bondage or handcuffs repulses me, and I have no desire to have sex. I have always thought of sex as gross and weird. It's just the object or the sensation I get from being confined in said object that gets me excited. That's how my mind works. Now, asexuals can have romantic interests in people, which I do. But The minute sex comes into the picture, I want no part of it. Cuddling in bed is my limit— fully clothed, I might add.
It's also important to note that asexuality is very much a spectrum, and how one asexual feels about sex is not necessarily the way another asexual feels. Some may feel repulsed by sex; others may simply merely lack the attraction to someone. It's a complicated concept to explain to people because, well... How do you explain a lack of something?
There are many misconceptions, so if you're confused and have questions, I'm more than happy to answer. However, I can't speak for every asexual, because it is a spectrum. But asexuals can have fetishes or kinks. They just probably go about exploring those kinks in different ways.
Sealherlips wrote:
By that logic, people into bestiality are "asexual."
A-prefix meaning not. So asexual literally means not sexual. At all. In any way.
MegaX1231 wrote:If anyone can relate or understand this, feel free to talk to me.
FelixSH wrote:MegaX1231 wrote:Also, I didn't really get masturbation until I was 25, so in case this worries you, don't mind it. There are always people who bloom later in some ways.