Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby Nervousshakedown » Sat Jan 18, 2014 8:58 pm

Me and my gf have been playing with bondage for a whole now, and by playing with bondage I mean it's all been about tying her up. When I mentioned to her that I wanted to be tied up and mentioned the specifics (nothing extreme at all) she originally agreed to try it 'some time'. I let it go and patiently waited for it to happen. I asked approx 4 weeks ago and in that time I've mentioned it twice, and I was thoughtful about when I asked too. But both times I got brushed off a bit impatiently if I read the signals right. It's a bit disappointing tbh and I'm hoping that somebody could offer some suggestions on how I could approach it without it seeming like I'm pestering her. Any feedback is appreciated :)

Re: Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby MHW » Sat Jan 18, 2014 9:20 pm

Sounds like she just isn't interested in it. Does she seem to enjoy it when you tie her up?

Re: Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby Nervousshakedown » Sat Jan 18, 2014 9:36 pm

Yep she loves it. Although she's more into the bdsm side of it, I'm still (sort of) getting to tie up a pretty girl so there's no complaints. And yeh, I have to agree, she doesn't seem keen at all. I guess it must be a real issue for her cos personally indont see how it would even affect her....but I'm not one to push her into anything she's not comfortable with so I'll let it lie.

Re: Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby MHW » Sat Jan 18, 2014 10:15 pm

The best thing to do would either just let it slide, or find out why she won't. She might like it that you're interested in her feelings, even if you don't end up getting tied you at least might learn something about her.

Re: Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby Jason Toddman » Sun Jan 19, 2014 11:43 am

It should be a two-way street. You do what she likes, then she should at least try to do what you like once in a while.
Isn't that how relationships are supposed to work?
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Re: Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby tyme115 » Sun Jan 19, 2014 12:36 pm

Agree with Jason, any good relationship is give and take. My wife finds the tying laboring sometimes, So I get started, get myself 75% tied and get her to do the rest. Have you ever tried to tie yourself up completely and have her "find you"?

Good luck

Re: Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby Nervousshakedown » Sun Jan 19, 2014 8:44 pm

Scratch this, I decided to tell her it was getting me down a bit and she finally obliged. It was a really enjoyable experience, have a slight feeling that it's not gonna be a regular thing but hopefully that wasn't the last of it :D

Re: Gf doesn't seem keen :(

Postby Jason Toddman » Sun Jan 19, 2014 10:05 pm

Well... I'm glad we could help! :mrgreen:
Dare to be different... and make a difference.
To boldly go where no one in their right mind has gone before...