me and my girlfriend have a very close relationship. we are madly in love and have every intention of spending the rest of our lives together. i have always been into bondage and i introduced it to her a long time ago in our relationship. she had never really thought of it, but the idea was intriguing, so she gave it a whirl. conveniently, she ended up getting into it and really enjoyed it. she mainly tied me up and we both preferred it that way, but did experiment the other way around too. anyway, we had a wonderful relationship of bondage and 'vanilla' intimate encounters. recently, however, she has started associating bondage with bad things like real kidnapping and rape which causes her to feel too 'dirty' and uncomfortable to have fun with it anymore. i however still really love bondage and want to continue playing with it. this negative association is mostly due to things she has recently read, about rape and kidnapping in articles and on tv. but the biggest factor was a book she had to read for a class: The Interpretation of Murder by Jed Rubenfeld. it is about a serial murderer who ties up and gags and whips (many things we did in the bedroom) his victims and rapes then and then kills them. this really stirred her and she cant see herself doing this stuff with me anymore. i tired to convince her that it is totally different because we are consensual and we love each other and would never actually hurt the other, but she cant get the negative association out of her head.
does anyone have any helpful ideas to get my girlfriend comfortable with bondage play again?
thank you guys and girls