Ecstasy wrote:Okay.. It is really nice to be all tied and gagged for the moment. But does anyone really feel weird? I've been feeling weird and I don't know what to do.. Help.
BinderUK wrote:Truthfully? Sometimes yes, I do feel weird about it. I have a certain amount of self-loathing when it comes to bondage though. I accept that it's something I like but a lot of the time I wish I didn't. It may be becoming more socially acceptable but it still seems like a pretty messed up fetish to me. That said, I guess most fetishes are pretty messed up!
BinderUK wrote:Truthfully? Sometimes yes, I do feel weird about it. I have a certain amount of self-loathing when it comes to bondage though. I accept that it's something I like but a lot of the time I wish I didn't. It may be becoming more socially acceptable but it still seems like a pretty messed up fetish to me. That said, I guess most fetishes are pretty messed up!
BinderUK wrote:Also, apologies to Ecstasy. I feel like I've hijacked your thread a bit, and that wasn't my intention!
SteveLuis wrote:Sadly for me I think I need the idea of bondage or the act itself to engage in sexual activity; my girlfriend has been fine about it all but I can't help but think she thinks it's wierd on some level.
She tied me up to a chair for the first time a few days ago and I was really enjoying it but then sometimes I just think wow this is really strange. I keep finding myself wanting to ask her to tie me tighter than she does but then I fear that would sound really wierd.
I really do love bondage but like the author of this thread I'd probably choose not to have it as a preference if I could because normal sex isn't really a possibility for me or requires a lot of effort/fantasising about bondage whilst engaging in it.
BinderUK wrote:Ron - seriously, your first port of call for a quote relating to psychology/science is a faith based site? Even wikipedia would have been better. Fwiw, fetishes are not always required for 'normal sexual function', they can just be an enhancement. Also, thanks for deciding without ever having spoken to me before that I'm potentially weird and need counselling. Nice touch.
Ecstasy wrote:Haha, well yeah. I really don't know what to say now. It's weird to some and not weird to some. Maybe it's just becoming a trend like pointed out before.
Well, even I'd like to permanently quite it if I can.
Thanks guys. For replying
Ecstasy wrote:That sounded quite like an encouragement. Thanks! It's just that, I was new to it and I really don't remember how it startedbut anyways. I don't think I would give up on it.
No more guilt.
Since when are you into TUGs, if I can ask?
Ecstasy wrote:Wow! That sounds like a long!
A true fetish when lived out is self destructive and does harm others whether you believe it or not.
Fesselfan wrote:A true fetish when lived out is self destructive and does harm others whether you believe it or not.
Sorry, but this is one of the more stupid statements in this thread. Just because *you* feel that your fetish is harming your life, don't assume that everyone thinks that way.
In fact, I see my fetish as an enrichement.
Cheers
FF
Fesselfan wrote:Just one Question:
Whom do I hurt by living out my true fetish?
To the rest.-.. you already answer yourself with all your "IF"s. I agree with you- a fetish *can* be destructive and unhealthy. However, your original statemt was it *always* is.
A sexual fetish may be regarded as an enhancing element to a romantic/sexual relationship "achieved in ordinary ways (e.g. having the partner wear a particular garment)" or as a mental disorder/disorder of sexual preference if it causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life
If a sexual fetish causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life, it is diagnosable as a paraphilia in the DSM and the ICD.[2] Many people embrace their fetish rather than attempting treatment to rid themselves of it.