Why?

Postby tyme115 » Mon Sep 12, 2011 3:54 pm

Just curious as to why people don't use their real first names, like my name is Derek and I'm from Canada, please I dare someone to try and find me, lol. So, I'm just wondering why people are scared to use their real names?

Re: Why?

Postby TUfriend » Mon Sep 12, 2011 5:43 pm

What if someone in the story happens to find the story and remembers the incident and doesn't want others knowing?
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Re: Why?

Postby cellofello » Mon Sep 12, 2011 9:53 pm

tyme115 wrote:Just curious as to why people don't use their real first names, like my name is Derek and I'm from Canada, please I dare someone to try and find me, lol. So, I'm just wondering why people are scared to use their real names?


I'm not afraid - I'm not at all ashamed of my interests, nor am I particularly worried (as I completely understand some women may be) that someone might hunt me down, tie me up, and rape me. (Oh, noes! :))

But there are undoubtedly a number of Mikes/Michaels here, and only one of us could have the username Mike. Sure, I suppose I could have been mike_cello or something like that, but I just thought cellofello was more stylish. (There are at least two different people who are not me using the handle cellofello on other sites.)

Re: Why?

Postby xtc » Tue Sep 13, 2011 1:43 am

TUfriend wrote:What if someone in the story happens to find the story and remembers the incident and doesn't want others knowing?

As TUfriend says.
I don'tuse my given name in real life. Only my two remaining aunties would call me by it.
Anyone else uses it on the phone or face to face immediately becomes suspect.
In that light, why should I not use a nom de plume here?
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Re: Why?

Postby Chase Ricks » Tue Sep 13, 2011 3:14 am

There was a time long ago I didn't like using my real name here and other sites but instead used as an alias many times cricks5 or names of my rp characters. However due to my own crazyness lots of trouble descended. However I will not go into details except to say I will never write and post stories here again for an extremely long period of time.
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Re: Why?

Postby Chris12 » Tue Sep 13, 2011 4:13 am

Mostly for privacy reason. Both for me and the ones involved in the story's

Re: Why?

Postby glorfindel » Tue Sep 13, 2011 6:04 am

privacy, in all of the stories i am going to tell are much people who knew about it, and i don't want anybody to find out my interests unless i tell them myself

Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Tue Sep 13, 2011 1:48 pm

That's what I mean, unless you have friends or family that go on this site and see what you are saying, who is going to know that I Derek tied up my wife Rosanne last night while making love? What am I protecting us from and does anyone know how many Derek's there are in the world? I'm guessing more than 1. Maybe if people use their real names and friends see it, odds are, they are into bondage, they might even find a real life TUG partner.

Re: Why?

Postby davyuk » Tue Sep 13, 2011 2:25 pm

my real name is david and im fron the uk but everyone who i know calls me davy, so im must be one of a small few who doe use there real name

Re: Why?

Postby Ducttapestar » Tue Sep 13, 2011 4:51 pm

IIt's true, we're afraid of somebody who was a part of the story finding it. But what are the odds of that actually happening? Slim, but they exist. So, it's a precaution. Then again, if somebody who was a part of the story were to find this site, the only reason they should be upset, is the gfact that they can't write that story now. So basicly, we're all unnecesarily paranoid.

Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Tue Sep 13, 2011 5:05 pm

Exactly!

Re: Why?

Postby TUfriend » Tue Sep 13, 2011 7:47 pm

tyme115 wrote:That's what I mean, unless you have friends or family that go on this site and see what you are saying, who is going to know that I Derek tied up my wife Rosanne last night while making love? What am I protecting us from and does anyone know how many Derek's there are in the world? I'm guessing more than 1. Maybe if people use their real names and friends see it, odds are, they are into bondage, they might even find a real life TUG partner.


Google works by bringing up web pages that the search term most often appears, if someone googles you, they could find you or a story about themselves on here.
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Re: Why?

Postby Jason Toddman » Tue Sep 13, 2011 9:00 pm

Privacy, plain and simple. Considering how flamboyant many of my stories are, I don't want them to be traced to me - ever.
Though I am not exactly a national celebrity, I am somewhat well known in my own area and don't want the kind of publicity using my real name on a site like this might cause.
Anyone who is a minor (like Chris12) shouldn't use their real name here either, since some over-aged flake might use the information to get contact with someone they think might abet them in their own kinks. Unlikely sure... but NOT impossible! Equally valid and more likely is so they won't be recognized by anyone else who knows them and who spots their posts - especially if they use their parents' or sibling's computer and these people find the site with a simple user history check and spot a familiar name!
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Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Wed Sep 14, 2011 2:23 am

I understand your point Jason, but unless you have a really unique name or use your first name and last together, the odds of being singled out are very slim. Even if someone does use the history and finds this site, they are going to wonder who was on it reading all the stories any why and still get singled out. I agree though, if you use a name like chris12 and that's also an e-mail account, then yes, I wouldn't use it. Otherwise, Chris is a very popular name.

Re: Why?

Postby Jason Toddman » Wed Sep 14, 2011 8:41 am

tyme115 wrote:I understand your point Jason, but unless you have a really unique name or use your first name and last together, the odds of being singled out are very slim. Even if someone does use the history and finds this site, they are going to wonder who was on it reading all the stories any why and still get singled out. I agree though, if you use a name like chris12 and that's also an e-mail account, then yes, I wouldn't use it. Otherwise, Chris is a very popular name.

You may have missed a key point I was making concerning minors using their names on this site. You said parents might wonder who was reading all the stories anyway. A kid caught at that could probably explain this with a glib lie, especially since merely reading stories in a site doesn't indicateany involvement; the kid could've stumbled on the site by googling it (which is how *I* found this site!) and left again immediately. But having some of those stories with his actual name actually attached to them? :shock: Nope! Involvement is proved then. Then the egg would really hit the fan for that poor kid!!!
Obviously of course this reason doesn't apply to me as far as my parents are concerned, but a google search of my name can and would lead to this site, just as using the username I actually use does.
Try googling Tyme115 if you don't believe me; when I googled that, I immediately found this topic !!!
In fact one other person changed their username because he discovered the ease of this and had used his real name.
Anyone who already knows you who happens to google your name can and will find your posts here - unless you have a very common name like John Smith!!! MY real name, as it happens, IS easily traceable because of a fairly unusual first and last name combination, so... unh unh for using it here!
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Re: Why?

Postby glorfindel » Wed Sep 14, 2011 9:01 am

i don't really know what happens if sombody googles my real name and i use it at this forum and i am using my real name here, and actually i don't want to find out, i'd better be safe then sorry and somebody knowing my interests

Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Wed Sep 14, 2011 1:06 pm

Well, you may have found me when you googled tyme115, but non of my friends or relatives know me by association of that name, it is strictly used for this sort of stuff. And even if there was a story on here involving a kid, as long as it wasn't sexual, it should be fine as it is all fun and games anyway to some.

Re: Why?

Postby TUfriend » Wed Sep 14, 2011 1:58 pm

Not all parents may condone stuff like this. If my mom found put, I'd be fine, but my friend wouldn't.
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Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Wed Sep 14, 2011 3:40 pm

Possibly, but does anyone know you by the name TUfriend? How would they find out?

Re: Why?

Postby fabolous1024 » Wed Sep 14, 2011 3:59 pm

I think it comes down to a basic, mostly irrational fear of being caught. I say mostly irrational because for a vast majority of the people on this site and a vast majority of the details in the stories people post on this site, not enough is out there to track you down or connect an event in a way that someone might say "hey that story is what happened to me!!! I cant believe *tugsforum member* is *real life friend*!!". And if one can, they need to be hired by the CIA.

However, there ARE people who share enough information and post stories with enough details or where the details are highly unique that they could be found out. I can't say I've read a lot of stories but one story sticks out amazingly clearly to me because of the unique circumstances. Of course, the kicker was that the poster had paid a couple guys who did private bondage sessions so everyone in the story was heavily into the 'scene' and the other people finding out the story was posted would be quite a moot point.

Re: Why?

Postby TUfriend » Wed Sep 14, 2011 5:37 pm

Actually, CIA, not needed. I was playing around on pipl.com earlier and typing in my friends names and I found one of them on a furry site. I will not talk to them about it though.
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Re: Why?

Postby Kyle » Wed Sep 14, 2011 6:43 pm

You never know what someone out there can figure out about you with just a little bit of information. That can be dangerous.

Re: Why?

Postby Jason Toddman » Wed Sep 14, 2011 8:53 pm

tyme115 wrote:Well, you may have found me when you googled tyme115, but non of my friends or relatives know me by association of that name, it is strictly used for this sort of stuff.

Yeah, I know. Like, that was my point!!! :roll: But what if you'd used your real name? Then what?
Speaking of which, why did you start this topic in the first place anyway when obviously YOU are not using your real name here? :P Like, if you think using your real name is such a hot idea... (and no, saying you're Derek from Canada isn't *that* specifc; if you'd mentioned a specific town like The Pas or London Ontario though, then maybe that'd be too much information).
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Re: Why?

Postby SamanthaBoundx » Thu Sep 15, 2011 12:52 pm

I do use my real name on the board (first name only, obviously!) - but the names of the people in my stories have all been changed.

I honestly think that using only your first name is completely harmless on here. Who is going to be able to figure out who you are just by your first name? It's when you start posting extra details about yourself - like where you live, real names of friends etc - that you might get caught out (though even then, it's rare).

Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Thu Sep 15, 2011 1:17 pm

Exactly Sam, that was my whole point.

Jason, I started the topic as a curiosity question pertaining to stories and just because my used ID is tyme115, doesn't mean I'm not using my real name. I haven't written any stories where I have had to use my name, but I am not opposed to using it. For the most part, this is a harmless site with limited sexual content. For the most part, tie up games are fun for a lot, while others are turned on by the feeling. But even if you do use your real friends names, still, they know about TUGs as they are part of them and enjoy it themselves and are probably part of this forum too. If they are worried about getting caught, I suggest they constantly erase the history so they don't get caught.

Re: Why?

Postby Jason Toddman » Thu Sep 15, 2011 1:47 pm

Perhaps, but the reason I use assumed names for the people I write about is to protect their privacy as well as mine. Just because they liked TUGs doesn't give me the right to publicize their real names and risk embarrassing them. Names of other real people should never be used without their prior consent, and even then not at all if we're talking about minors.
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Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Thu Sep 15, 2011 2:59 pm

True, but if you aren't using your real name, how is anybody going to like Sue, Bob, Nancy or Karen to you?

Re: Why?

Postby Kyle » Thu Sep 15, 2011 3:18 pm

SamanthaBoundx wrote:I do use my real name on the board (first name only, obviously!) - but the names of the people in my stories have all been changed.

I honestly think that using only your first name is completely harmless on here. Who is going to be able to figure out who you are just by your first name? It's when you start posting extra details about yourself - like where you live, real names of friends etc - that you might get caught out (though even then, it's rare).


Somebody I know from another forum once found my Facebook page knowing nothing more than my first name and where I went to college and took a guess based on my approximate age. You'd be surprised.

Re: Why?

Postby tyme115 » Thu Sep 15, 2011 3:52 pm

But there must have been some link between your user name and your e-mail. If someone I know, came across this forum and read some stories or posts and wanted to TRY and put 2 and 2 together all the power to them. If they are on this forum and are taking the time to read stories, they must be interested. Odds are, no one will dig that deep. So, what did your friend say?

Re: Why?

Postby ropendope » Thu Sep 15, 2011 7:47 pm

I dont care if people know I like bondage. Everyone already knows anyway. I have friends who have pictures of tied up girls as their profile pic on facebook. I follow Christina Carter on Twitter. My moms seen some of the pictures I have on the comp of models and my ex gf tied up... Ive tied up every female in my family at least once in my life... so Im sure they all know and wouldnt care if I was on a textual based bondage site.