## Should I? PLEASE HELP

Post by lonewolfandfriends » Thu Oct 13, 2011 2:43 pm

I am thinking of proposing to Natalie as we've been together for a few (2) and a half years now was thinking of doing it on Sunday then the wedding on Friday of next week.
Should I??

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Post by TUfriend » Thu Oct 13, 2011 3:18 pm

1 week to plan for a wedding? Then again, I am only 16.
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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Thu Oct 13, 2011 4:25 pm

Oh sorry two weeks. Or maybe I'll give it 3
I dunno man in just stressing and freaking out here.

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Post by bindKelly » Thu Oct 13, 2011 5:35 pm

That would be awsome, IF you guys can live on your own, without parental types around. You need to be the boss of your own place, and ya can't do that living in someone else's place. If you can do that, and you love her and she loves you (2 years seems to scream Yes) then yeah, do it!

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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Thu Oct 13, 2011 6:25 pm

WELL IT SEEMS TO ME sorta wrong to be married in college (although im a senior) but ya we can do that i already got a pretty sweet apartment i rent for summer.

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Post by myself1931 » Fri Oct 14, 2011 8:01 pm

First off, how much thought have you given the idea of marriage? Secondly, keep in mind that she may say yes to the proposal, but no to only having 2-3 weeks to plan a wedding. Women typically don't like short notice about things like that.
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Post by Chase Ricks » Fri Oct 14, 2011 8:03 pm

I planned mine for exactly six months after proposing. lol
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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Sat Oct 15, 2011 5:53 am

After what u too just said and thanks, I am gonna plan the wedding to 2-3 months later.
I'm gonna propose tomorrow.

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Post by mcsproot » Sat Oct 15, 2011 12:02 pm

Only you can really decide if you're ready for marriage.
As for a couple of weeks to plan...bad idea.
Unless you are going to cut all ties and have an Elvis impersonator declare you husband and wife before running off to begin your life together, don't be so rushed. What if someone you want to invite can't make it at such a short notice? Also take into account the cost of the wedding and party afterwards.
The time between proposal and the actual marriage is used to give any guests plenty of notice for the date, allow ample planning and to save up money for the costs involved.
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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Sat Oct 15, 2011 5:02 pm

I think I'll wait 3-4 months.

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Post by bookl0ver » Fri Oct 21, 2011 3:45 pm

my parents have been engaged for err 14yrs
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Post by SamanthaBoundx » Sun Oct 23, 2011 1:39 pm

There's nothing wrong with being married while you're in college. I got engaged in the summer between my second and first year at university. Getting engaged isn't about how long you've been together, it's about where you are in the relationship. I know couples who've gotten engaged after a couple of months and have been together for years. I also know couples who have been together for years and years and still aren't ready to make the commitment. You know when the time is right. I'm guessing by the fact that you're asking a bunch of virtual strangers whether you should or not, you probably aren't ready. . .
But regardless - two weeks to plan the wedding? Dude? Really? That's just silly

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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Mon Oct 24, 2011 5:28 am

DID U EVEN READ WHEN I SAID THREE MONTHS!???
Sorry for the outburst.

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Post by bookl0ver » Mon Oct 24, 2011 6:51 am

take a chill pill . Heres a song 4 lonewolf
oh he's getting married in the morrr-ning didng dong the bell are gonna chiiimee! and my special
percy walks down the aisle his face a big smile here comes his bride all fat and wide here comes the vicar wearing women's knickers they say their vows their hearts pow pow and then they lean in for the kiss and he carries her away tho he really needs a piss
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Post by SamanthaBoundx » Mon Oct 24, 2011 4:26 pm

> Lonewolf wrote:DID U EVEN READ WHEN I SAID THREE MONTHS!???
> Sorry for the outburst.

Yeah, I read it. And clearly you didnt read what I said about it not being the length of time that you're with someone that makes it right to propose. You're either ready or you're not. Saying you'll wait three or four months more or less means that you clearly have some more thinking about it to do.
I know you're not sorry for the "outburst" - because if you were you would've deleted it rather than posting it with an apology. But that's cool
But you asked for advice and I was giving it to you. I know plenty of people who have messed things up in a relationship by trying to speed ahead because they thought it was "about the right time". You're young. Where's the sense in rushing it?

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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Mon Oct 24, 2011 4:30 pm

Well I am sorry I've been really stressed with people on this site, myself struggling to Lear our math and family troubles.

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Post by SamanthaBoundx » Mon Oct 24, 2011 4:33 pm

Dude, seriously, chill xD It takes a lot to get me pissy - a lot more than a few words in capital letters on a forum
Anyway, whatever you decide to do, I hope it turns out well for you

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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Mon Oct 24, 2011 4:37 pm

Thanks but it's just my$&@:($) dad won't let me. But my mom will do I'm trying reason with him. It's like trying to scale the Eiffel tower using slippery boxes.

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Post by SamanthaBoundx » Mon Oct 24, 2011 4:43 pm

He won't let you propose?
Listen, I know I said that you shouldn't rush into things just because you feel it's the right time, but the same applies the other way round - just because it's not necessarily the right time, it doesn't mean that you shouldn't if it's what the both of you truly want. And quite honestly, it's not up to your dad whether you get engaged - it's up to you. I got engaged when I was really young and a lot of people tried to talk me out of it and told me that it was too soon, but I knew I had something good going and told them all where to go! It's your life - you only live it once so you may as well live it with the person you love
And to be honest, your dad's probably making a fuss because he's worried about you and whether it's the right thing for you. As soon as he sees how happy you are (assuming of course that getting married would make you happy!) then he'll soon be won over

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Post by lonewolfandfriends » Mon Oct 24, 2011 5:21 pm

Thanks and yes we each want and r happy with marriage