Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby teachertied » Sun Sep 15, 2013 7:51 am

For a bit of fun, a couple of friends and I decided to head to a local shopping centre and attempt to talk to a few girls.

I went up to one girl and said "Hey, I think there is a problem with my phone, it doesn't have your number in it", and then she laughed and apologized, saying she had a boyfriend. Even if she didn't, it wasn't weird at all.

However when I spoke to another girl who I will admit was a little older than me, I went up to her with one of my friends and said "This is a bit of a weird question, but if you had to which one of us would you kiss?" and she said that we were really creepy and walked off.

It is kind of playing on my conscious a little bit, I didn't mean to creep anyone out!

What are your thoughts?
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Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby jonny86 » Sun Sep 15, 2013 9:55 am

It's not creepy to talk to random girls, but it IS creepy to say what you said to that second chick. I mean, really? Kissing is an intimate thing. Why don't you go up and say "Hey, which one of us would you let see you naked?".

Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby teachertied » Sun Sep 15, 2013 9:58 am

Thanks very much :) Really it wasn't meant in a creepy way, but I can see that is definitely does sound creepy!
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Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby Chris12 » Sun Sep 15, 2013 1:17 pm

Talking to girls isn't creepy, its socialising or just a little fun at it worst.

The kissing thing was a bit of poor taste but ''Hey, I think there is a problem with my phone, it doesn't have your number in it" is actually a pretty funny pickup line :big:

Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby Jay Feely » Sun Sep 15, 2013 1:37 pm

No it's not creepy unless you make it creepy
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Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby sarobah » Sun Sep 15, 2013 5:41 pm

Generally not creepy… except the kissing question, of course.
Keep this in mind, however. Ask yourself if you would mind being approached by random strangers while going about your business. People react in different ways, so don’t get offended if they don’t respond in a way you’d like.

Once I was shopping with my mother and a young guy came up and told me I had nice legs. I looked at my mother and we both rolled our eyes. Without missing a beat, the guy turned to her and said “You’ve got nice legs too.”
He didn’t score, but I gave him half-points for trying.
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Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby teachertied » Mon Sep 16, 2013 8:29 am

Yeah, we were just having fun at the time, and I would only ever be nice to a girl :)
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Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby truly_trussed » Mon Sep 16, 2013 3:49 pm

sarobah wrote:
Once I was shopping with my mother and a young guy came up and told me I had nice legs. I looked at my mother and we both rolled our eyes. Without missing a beat, the guy turned to her and said “You’ve got nice legs too.”
He didn’t score, but I gave him half-points for trying.


I worked at a back office a long time ago and we were able to wear shorts. One of my female co-workers came up to me and said, "For a guy, you've got great legs." I was caught a little off-guard and said, "Er, Thanks! I think." Well, some guys are Breast Men, some are Butt Men, but some including me are Leg Men.
If you have great gams show 'em off. Worked for Betty Grable.

Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby Reidy » Tue Sep 17, 2013 8:12 am

Nothing creepy if you play it right. I am forever making jokey/suggestive comments to female co-workers. It doesn't seem to get me anywhere, but at the same time it hasn't landed me in a HR meeting yet either.

Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby Meh » Thu Sep 19, 2013 5:33 pm

jonny86 wrote:It's not creepy to talk to random girls, but it IS creepy to say what you said to that second chick. I mean, really? Kissing is an intimate thing. Why don't you go up and say "Hey, which one of us would you let see you naked?".



I have to completely agree. I use to be horrrrible talking with women. I would always freeze due to my chronic shyness. Eventually I learned that the reason that I came off creepy is because that is what lack of confidence will do to you. Be sure of yourself, accept your rejections with dignity. Because rejection is unfortunately a part of the game. And how you decide to react to these unfortunate occurrences is a key factor in overcoming your insecurities.

You can't let any rejection get to you. Speaking from experience, negative reactions can help you refine and reevaluate your choice in words, character, etc. but then one day you just start laughing. Because you'll realize how ridiculous it all seemed at the time. I was a horribly (yet adorable) shy, awkward, ______, etc. for a majority of my live and I felt like I was a creep a ton of times without understanding that I shouldn't feel that way. I went through tons of rejections and in the long run im thankful for it. But now I finally feel in control. Sorry to ramble and sorry my thoughts are so spread out. I'm typing this from my phone. But let me say one last thing...

You're awesome whether you know it yet or not. One day you will though!

Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby Jason Toddman » Thu Sep 19, 2013 5:36 pm

Depends on your age relative to their age. Being good-looking and fit probably helps; a suave and young good-looking athlete can probably get away with a lot more than a fat, balding, middle-aged, glasses-wearing, socially awkward, and usually unshaven nerd such as myself when it comes to attempts at socializing and pick-up lines.
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Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby Meh » Thu Sep 19, 2013 5:53 pm

Jason Toddman wrote:Depends on your age relative to their age. Being good-looking and fit probably helps; a suave and young good-looking athlete can probably get away with a lot more than a fat, balding, middle-aged, glasses-wearing, socially awkward, and usually unshaven nerd such as myself when it comes to attempts at socializing and pick-up lines.



Yea I can see where you're coming from. That's why I acknowledged that rejection is going to happen. You can't focus on your image as a result of being turned down. I mean, if its that big of a deal go for a 30 minute jog a couple of times a week. I just meant that you can't take it too personally, sulk, and become so afraid that you may come off as awkward that you eventually give up anyways. I've known some average looking guys that, despite cultural norms are dating girls generally referred to as" out of their league"

Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby mistofoleese » Thu Sep 19, 2013 6:07 pm

roped17 wrote:
Jason Toddman wrote:Depends on your age relative to their age. Being good-looking and fit probably helps; a suave and young good-looking athlete can probably get away with a lot more than a fat, balding, middle-aged, glasses-wearing, socially awkward, and usually unshaven nerd such as myself when it comes to attempts at socializing and pick-up lines.



Yea I can see where you're coming from. That's why I acknowledged that rejection is going to happen. You can't focus on your image as a result of being turned down. I mean, if its that big of a deal go for a 30 minute jog a couple of times a week. I just meant that you can't take it too personally, sulk, and become so afraid that you may come off as awkward that you eventually give up anyways. I've known some average looking guys that, despite cultural norms are dating girls generally referred to as" out of their league"



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Re: Is it creepy to talk to random girls?

Postby Meh » Thu Sep 19, 2013 6:53 pm

Yea... That's pretty right