*URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby TUfriend » Wed Dec 07, 2011 1:24 pm

I know this probably isn't the best place to get help about such a serious topic, but I need some advice and to get something off my chest to people who don't know me irl.

Last month, one of my friends attempted suicide but her girlfriend reported her and they got there before she did it. For the past month, she has been in therapy at a special school that's supposed to help her.

Today, my other friend told me her Facebook password and told me to look at the messages. The friend who is in the therapy school told her that when she gets out, she plans to do it right away do she won't get caught again.

I'm not supposed to know this, but since I'm her best friend, I have to stop her. Her parents forbid any boys from going to her house or talking to her between 2pm and 8pm(they don't know she has a girlfriend) so I can't really contact her without her parents knowing.

She believes that she has to do this because "[she] has sinned and therefore, must die." I'm really scared. What should I do?
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby TUfriend » Wed Dec 07, 2011 2:01 pm

And it's not me, I can show you Facebook screenshots to prove I'm not in danger.
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby xtc » Wed Dec 07, 2011 2:03 pm

I'm sorry, my friend, but neither you nor I nor, I suspect, anyone else on this site has expertise in this field. May I respectfully suggest that you inform those who need to know and let the experts handle it.

I know that, when you are young, adults know nothing but in, say, five years time, you’ll be surprised by how much they’ve learnt. Honest.

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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby Scottstud94 » Wed Dec 07, 2011 3:25 pm

That is certainly difficult. Make sure everyone knows the situation, and let those closest take care of it.

Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby pepsi24 » Wed Dec 07, 2011 6:34 pm

talk to you guidance counselor in school, let the guidance couselor know you do not want your name used but you feel someone has to know before she hurts herself or worse. They will make sure the proper people are made aware of it and your in the clear as far as others knowing u siad sonething.

Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby Jay Feely » Wed Dec 07, 2011 9:29 pm

Show me the screen shots so I can prepare a better answer for you.
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.

Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby Chase Ricks » Thu Dec 08, 2011 1:56 am

I have some experience with this sort of thing because this past summer my former stepson tried to commit suicide as well by jumping off the Perrine Bridge in Twin Falls. He is currently undergoing a lot of councelling to deal with his problems. Send me a pm if you feel like talking.
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby viking » Thu Dec 08, 2011 12:22 pm

this is a really serious thing.
a couple of years ago i stopped a friend of me who was planning to kill himself, there is nothing funny about it.

like scottstud94 and pepsi24 said make sure somebody knows this (especcially the guidance counsellor or someone that need this information) and when she gets out try to be around her as mutch as you can or have someone you can trust to pay close attention to her.

also, i saw a video once by david draiman the vocalist from the band disturbed, where he mentioned something called the national suicide prevention lifeline.
you should contact them as we are talking about profesionals about the subject.
CALL THEM!!!

i know this seems scary to you as you don't want to lose a friend. and i really hope you get the help you need to stop her before something really bad happens.
Once a scout, always a perverted pyromaniac with a fetish for knives and duct tape

Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby TUfriend » Thu Dec 08, 2011 4:28 pm

I talked with one her close friends(the one that reported her the first time) and he said I should show the pictures to guidance counselors at my school sink think I'll do that tomorrow.
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby LastOfTheAmericanGirls » Sat Dec 10, 2011 9:21 pm

I know this is a bit late, but I hope it's not too late. I do actually have experience in this. Not that I'm a certified psychologist or anything, but two of my close friends have seriously considered suicide. The best thing you can do for her is be there for her. Try to be there when they release her from care, and make sure she's not alone, whether she's with you, or her parents, or her girlfriend. If you can find out a more specific reason as to why she feels she must kill herself, such as how she "sinned", then do so, but don't press her. Just make sure she knows she's not alone, and nobody's perfect, and just be there for her. If that isn't possible because of her parents' restrictions, just tell her parents that you have reason to believe she is still considering suicide.
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby TUfriend » Sun Dec 11, 2011 9:32 pm

Thanks. Recently, she has told us that she doesn't plan on doing it anymore, but I still plan on keeping my eye on her because she still isn't happy.
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby viking » Mon Dec 12, 2011 7:23 am

you should...
a short story from my own experience.

a friend of me who had his heart broken once tried to kill himself, me and another friend discovered it right when he was in the middle of it. he tried to drug himself to death and we stopped him after he had taken a lot of pills. luckily we managed to stop him and talk him out of it.

the day before when he told us that his girlfriend broke up we told him the usual stuff about other fishes in the water and so on, and he talked about how he just wanted it to end.
knowing that he had tried to kill himself earlier, we told him to stop thinking like that and his answer was that we didn't have to worry and he was not going to kill himself. the day after we found him swallowing a lot of pills.

so if your friend still is hurting and being miserable, you should look after her just in case.
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby TUfriend » Tue Dec 13, 2011 2:09 pm

Unfortunately, I don't really have the power to do so. Her parents are strict, more so her dad, and won't let her see any boys(ironically she's lesbian) and so I can't see out side of school. But because she tried a few weeks ago, she's in a special school that's supposed to help her, but it's actually making it worse. I went to our schools guidance counselor and they said they'd take care of it and now she's stopped speaking to me(facebook, texts and phone calls).
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby Jay Feely » Tue Dec 13, 2011 7:02 pm

Once her phase is over, she will be your friend again. Its something that every person under these kind of circumstances has to go through.
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.

Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby RopemanEric » Wed Dec 14, 2011 6:42 pm

You should talk to her parents. Yeah, they might not like you, but that's not the point. you don't have to bring up that she's a lesbian. The guidance counslor is a good idea too. talk to anyone that has any power/influence whatever over her. anyone who can let her know how important she is to them.

Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby zanev » Mon Dec 19, 2011 2:14 pm

update?
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby TUfriend » Sat Dec 24, 2011 12:04 pm

Well, I went to guidence at my school and then she stopped taking to me. She posted on Facebook that her "friends are holding her back from a better place." Hopefully she'll get over it and realized I helped her in the end.
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Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby bindKelly » Sun Dec 25, 2011 5:51 am

TUfriend wrote:Well, I went to guidence at my school and then she stopped taking to me. She posted on Facebook that her "friends are holding her back from a better place." Hopefully she'll get over it and realized I helped her in the end.

Tell her, or write on her page, "well...yeah. We love you, and you're stuck here with the rest of us. Deal."
Tell her to stop thinking just of her and think of the people who need her.

Re: *URGENT*Need anonymous help.

Postby mistofoleese » Thu Jan 12, 2012 8:30 pm

Hey hows your friend doing, any better. I'm glad you went to speak to your G C any change any progress you did the right thing by bringing it to other peoples attention. sadly over the years Ive lost a few friends to this Ive even stumbled down that road but I realized what an impact my being gone would have on those around me. and well a long time a long time later here I am.
You need to let that person know that there IS someone who DOES give a damn about her and wants to help her.
Im right proud of you for seeing the signs and wanting to get help and to want to help
keep up the good work

Mist.