I know we have other forums for the more intimate stuff, but it's all stories in there and I wasn't sure my question would be answered, so I put it here. And as stated, it is personal and about our sex lives so I respect the fact that not everyone will be comfortable to answer it, which is fine.
To all you couples out there:
How often do you have bondage-related sex as opposed to (what my wife calls) regular sex? Like, what's the ratio? Do you have nothing but bondage sex? Maybe do it every other time? One in every 3 sexual encounters is bondage? I'm curious.
When my wife and I were first dating, I'd say it was around 50/50 between the two. At some point, she was taking a Human Sexuality course in college and informed me of certain definitions of fetishes and the like. While I forget specifics, I remember she brought up how there are certain people who need their given fetish in order to become sexually aroused, and can't do so without the aid of bondage (or certain clothes or foods or whatever the fetish may be). I didn't consider myself to be one of these people, and as such spent a long time foregoing bondage entirely to prove to myself and to her that I didn't need bondage to have sex. Then in the more recent past she brought up how we don't have many TUGs anymore. Hearing it come from her, it encouraged me to bust out the ropes much more often. But now she's saying she'd like a little more "regular" sex, so I'm trying once again to balance the scales.