## Some opinions about bondage

Post by Kiupp9 » Fri Feb 03, 2017 9:28 am

Hi guys! This is Kiupp9.
I have some opinions about bondage on my mind for quite a long while, and I would love to share with you guys about what I've thought.
From my perspectives, I rarely associate bondage with sex. Bondage is something that, although may seem and look kinky, has ALMOST (not absolutely) nothing to do with sexual activities.
50SOG kind of turned the concept of 'bondage' in a wrong way. The movie has influenced and convinced us that bondage is always represented as something sexual.
I may agree that this kink is somewhat erotic when being performed in front or on us. However, bondage applied in many other ways instead of just eroticism. From what my thoughts, bondage can be something meditative. By being bound and gagged, you shut down all your senses temporarily to focus on your soul and mind through the lack of sight, speech and movements. This will keep you undistracted from the outside world.
Bondage is like an act of sensual deprivation. Without the control of your senses and bodily actions, you are able to discover and open up your own mind freely. The meditative effects helps to keep your thoughts at peace, being undisturbed and unruffled. You have bordered yourself out from the real world and subjected yourself to your state of mind.
Overall, bondage, in my opinion, does not majority involve in kinky sex. I thought of it as something that is meditative to relieve stress and anxiety.
So next time, why not get yourself tied up comfortably and place yourself in a dark, spacious room? Gag yourself to refrain speech and blindford yourself to block your sense of sight. Put on some soothing music using earphones and keep yourself at mind for several hours.
So what are your views about the application of bondage?

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Post by Jason Toddman » Fri Feb 03, 2017 11:08 am

Imo bondage and sex are two completely separate things, but certainly are not mutually exclusive. Like chocolate and peanuts (or peanut butter), they're two great things that (at least for some people) go great together - but are perfectly good separately too.
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Post by KingMush » Fri Feb 03, 2017 2:48 pm

They go perfectly together but they're not necessarily related.
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Post by Driverman » Fri Feb 03, 2017 3:43 pm

I think it entirely depends on the individual. There are no hard and fast rules saying it is or is not sexually related. For some, it may be 100% sexual, for others not at all. I think most people fall somewhere in between.
Bondage is to each individual person whatever service it gives to them. I don't think it's possible to say that it is definitely or definitely not sexual.

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Post by Kyle » Fri Feb 03, 2017 4:01 pm

For me, bondage has always primarily been about adventure, about a challenge. I can't say I don't have a single thought about relating it to anything sexual now that I'm an adult, but that's not generally how I think about it, even today. Bondage is certainly not inherently sexual in nature.
But if I had to guess, I'd bet we here are in the minority, and that more people do primarily associate bondage with something sexual than don't. Fifty Shades of Gray didn't make people associate bondage with sex; that's always been done by a lot of people. It just brought the whole thing into the mainstream.

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Post by EricU1845 » Sat Feb 04, 2017 5:10 am

> Kyle wrote:For me, bondage has always primarily been about adventure, about a challenge.

I really love the way you said this. That's how I feel. I also can't say I don't get sexual feelings about it sometimes, but I can enjoy bondage for non sexual reasons and in non sexual ways too.

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Post by Mmph Squad » Sat Feb 04, 2017 5:38 pm

I'd say bondage is more romantic to me than sex on most occasions. Sex is that biological thing we do to spread our genes, but bondage seems more like that thing we do to establish trust in a relationship. I'm certainly biased, however that's kind of how I see it. 50 shades definitely does a serious disservice to what I call bondage.
To tie or be tied? I'm not one to care as long as there are gags!

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Post by Nexus » Sun Feb 12, 2017 12:36 pm

The sight, or even mention of a woman in bondage will always cause a sexual reaction within me. Always.

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Post by BoundJana » Sun Feb 12, 2017 5:02 pm

Well, I think it also matters how you got introduced to bondage. For me personally, bondage is something sexual, but also because when I got introduced to bondage, it was in a sexual way
What are you looking at? Finally put a gag in my mouth and play with me!

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Post by drawscore » Sun Feb 12, 2017 7:16 pm

Many years ago, my friend invited me to go deep sea fishing. I had to decline, because my girlfriend insisted that I spend Saturday with her.
Saturday morning I met my friend at the pier, and he was somewhat surprised to see me. "I thought you were going to be with your girlfriend today." he questioned.
I told him that, after breakfast, she came to me with several lengths of rope, and said "Tie me up, and do whatever you want!"
"So I spread eagled her on the bed, and here I am,"
Drawscore

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Post by Onodera » Sun Feb 26, 2017 3:35 pm

Indeed what the people are saying is right: that would depend of the people that are playing it. I do like all kind of bondage, be it related to sex or not, of course, my body would kind respond to it in a sexual way, but I am still totally on control of my feelings and I know when someone just wanna have fun with bondage without anything related to sex and when someone want something more intense.
When I think about bondage in a non-sexual way, I think exacly as you XD! Bondage indeed can be used as a way of meditation like you said, I even read something related to that some time ago ! Being bound, gagged and blindfolded would be perfect to meditation, one good way to relax someone! This is kind a really good way to "free" yourself from your obligations, and that's is one of the points that I like! I do like to imagine scenarios where a CEO or something that delas with too much lidership and tought decisions want to make a way to free himself of it, and when they are bound and gagged, they cannot do anything and he is "free" of his obligations! There is several ways to use bondage without be related to sex XD!
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