i just needed to feel like i'm not. that's why 'm here. any support?

Fesselfan wrote:The only sick thing is: not accepting your own desires.
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FF
mikeybound wrote:Fesselfan wrote:The only sick thing is: not accepting your own desires.
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FF
And pedophilia. That's...that's just wrong.
Fesselfan wrote:mikeybound wrote:Fesselfan wrote:The only sick thing is: not accepting your own desires.
Cheers
FF
And pedophilia. That's...that's just wrong.
I have to -mildly- contradict here, even if I wont be popular for this.
Sexual desire is no active choice- usually, you can't choose i.e. if you like men or women. Or if you are into tie-ups. Or whatever.
So, a certain desire can't be right or wrong- it is simply there or not.
In my opinion, the focal point is the actual living out of desires. And this is what a pedophile should not do. However, it is countrerproductive if he pretends his desire is not there.
And yes- I am very glad and thankfull that I have desires that, albeit not being "normal", can be acted out with other consenting adults!
Cheers
FF
Sacrificiallove wrote:Hey, I've been into this for a while too, and I am very much confused about the whole thing myself. I question whether I'm sick, or if everyone on here is sick, or whether I just need to calm the heck down and realize this is a fetish many people like.
cellofello wrote:Sacrificiallove wrote:Hey, I've been into this for a while too, and I am very much confused about the whole thing myself. I question whether I'm sick, or if everyone on here is sick, or whether I just need to calm the heck down and realize this is a fetish many people like.
What matters is meaningful consent. Sex without consent is rape; with consent it's entirely unremarkable. Bondage without consent is assault; with consent why should it be any different than any other activity that two people enjoy together, such as ballroom dancing or tennis or (for that matter) sex?
Sacrificiallove wrote:Like, I feel sick when I watch a person who has been kidnapped agains their will and has forcefully been tied up and gagged with no hope of escaping of their own accord and I find myself getting turned on by it. I feel really freaking sick. I feel sick that I'd be turned on by something non consenual.
Fesselfan wrote:The only sick thing is: not accepting your own desires.
Cheers
FF
Rope_guy wrote:Fesselfan wrote:mikeybound wrote:Fesselfan wrote:The only sick thing is: not accepting your own desires.
Cheers
FF
And pedophilia. That's...that's just wrong.
I have to -mildly- contradict here, even if I wont be popular for this.
Sexual desire is no active choice- usually, you can't choose i.e. if you like men or women. Or if you are into tie-ups. Or whatever.
So, a certain desire can't be right or wrong- it is simply there or not.
In my opinion, the focal point is the actual living out of desires. And this is what a pedophile should not do. However, it is countrerproductive if he pretends his desire is not there.
And yes- I am very glad and thankfull that I have desires that, albeit not being "normal", can be acted out with other consenting adults!
Cheers
FF
True pedophilia (the sexual attraction of pre-adolescent children) is a mental illness that must be treated to make sure the person with it does not pose a threat to society. First of all, pre-adolescent children are NOT sexual beings, and anyone who sees them as sexual being should rightfully be seen as sick. Anyone with certain sexual desires will eventually act on those desires, so it is important that anyone who is found to have pedophilia must be required to undergo treatment if that person has not done anything wrong. If that treatment requires commitment to a mental institution, so be it, because that person will eventually act on those desires and the protection of children comes first. The same thing with people with other mental conditions that may lead to criminal activity such as psychopaths. Fortunately such people often exhibit "warning" signs before they turn to harmful behavior. For a pedophile, that is often viewing and collecting child pornography, which is an already illegal activity but easily available on the Internet. I think someone caught with a stash of child pornography and has no previous sexual offenses should be examined by psychiatrists and be placed on probation, which the treatment recommended by the psychiatrists part of the probation conditions.
On other words, anyone who has sexual desires for children MUST get professional help and treatment because eventually he will act on those desires, which will land him in a lot of trouble.
mikeybound wrote:There are people who have sex without making babies, jump out of planes for fun, and climb a mountain just to do it. Does that make them insane?
As long as it's consensual, very few things can be considered sick or wrong. This is not one of them.
It's up to all of us, as people, to find what makes us happy. If ropes and gags does it for you, do be it!
trammel wrote:
As for tie ups, I too see people bungy jumping off bridges, swimming with sharks, and swallowing swords as a challenge and can't help but wonder, what is the big deal about enjoying being tied up or tie up challenges?
mikeybound wrote:I'm just trying to figure out how anyone thought sex was wrong, period. Let alone convince so many people!