## A Word of Warning to you all

Post by myself1931 » Mon Apr 14, 2014 11:31 pm

As some of you may have noticed, I've been gone from the site again, this time for quite a bit longer then usual. And in this case, I feel like I should share why, as it may help some of you down the road and prevent this from happening to others.
So, a bit of backstory. As anyone has read my stories knows, I had a few friends who seemed to be really into TUGs. Keyword there is had. So, after a injury laid me up for a while, my TUGs tapered off until last June. Now, come June I arranged to meet up with a lot of people who had been involved before and dropped many a not so subtle hint that it would likely happen again. And it did. I spent an entire day with a bunch of great friends, we had a lot of fun, and a lot of TUGs was had for all. It's the aftermath which provides the cautionary tale.
So, approximately a week after the TUGs, I got a text from one of the people saying that someones parents had complained about their child being tied up, even though she was fine with it at the time. From that tiny complaint arouse a 9 month saga of police interviews, meetings, court dates, etc. Without going into details so as to protect those involved, what eventually ended up happening was charges were laid, 4 to be exact. Needless to say, those charges were all dropped eventually, since it was obvious to everyone they were bogus.
So, here is my warning to all of you out there. When you are playing with other people, make sure they are fully open to it and consenting. Also, check with them about what may happen if others find out. You never know who's going to have a physco dad at home. I may one day post the story of that weekend for all to enjoy, but that will likely be a few years down the road.
There, you have been warned. And on a slightly happier note, I'd love to take a story request or two to get back into the stream of things.
Finally got out of that small town, I now live in Toronto. Anyone nearby feel free to hit me up.

### Re: A Word of Warning to you all

Post by tony2 » Tue Apr 15, 2014 12:46 am

Good advice however a "child" under 18 may be held incapable at law of giving his consent although a written consent "before" the games can water down its effect and may go a long way to mitigate the liability.
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### Re: A Word of Warning to you all

Post by Cpt Wiggles » Tue Apr 15, 2014 10:43 am

> myself1931 wrote: Also, check with them about what may happen if others find out. You never know who's going to have a physco dad at home.

All dad's are psycho. That's what happens mate. If I walked in on my 6 year old playing tie up games with her friends, I'd just laugh and tell them not to play too roughly. But If I walked in on my teenage daughter doing the same with a boy the most I could do would be to give him a 5 second head start.
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### Re: A Word of Warning to you all

Post by Fesselfan » Tue Apr 15, 2014 9:48 pm

As very often said here...it's a wise idea to check your local laws before doing something with minors when you are an adult (even if it's just "only" two years difference, like 19 and 17). And generally speaking- parents are legally responsible for their childs, so they can always "override" the consent of the child.
And side note- in some countries, even as adult, you cannot legally consent to being hurt (i.e. the UK), even if it's just a concussion. So, when doing bondage there you are always on thin ice, legally.
A honest word...I hope the accusations don't stick to you, dude...because, even if they have been dropped, being known as "the guy who was charged to abuse kids" is no fun, even when you are innocent.
Cheers
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