So I will jump ahead in time to when I was 16. Brea's longtime boyfriend was aware of Brea helping me with my bondage needs. At first he was uncomfortable. To him bondage was foreplay to Sex. That was part of it for Brea but there was another aspect to Bondage for Brea and for me. I wonder if anyone else uses bondage as a way De-stressing or meditative channeling. Even now as old as I am I find bondage as a way of either allowing myself to quiet the world around me and allow me a way to relax.
His name was Jake and it took years for him to fully understand that bondage for Brea was something more than a arousal for sex. Yes, they would have a sexual play to their games (believe it or not I walked in on them doing sexual role play and was that embarrassing. I promise to tell that story another time. not to sure about how adult situations like that is handled on this forum.)
So I was 16 and a senior in High school ( yes, I am a nerd that was always in advance classes and basically Graduated high school at 16 and college at 19.) I was tease by the older kids and bulled because I was younger and smarter and a lot of them didn't like it. So I was nominated --as a joke for homecoming queen. I was up against captain of the cheerleading team and the popular Rich girl. So of course I was pissed off. I knew they nominated me to have fun during the week of campaigning the nominees did. I was living with Brea since Dad was in Europe working on a project. (Honestly my Dad did love me and we had a great relationship. Our hours were not quantity but it was Quality time.)
I came home to Brea's house pissed and slammed the door shut. Jake who was great chief and worked as a private chief (and later owned 3 restaurants) and it was rare when he had a Friday night off but when he did he would cook. So Jake comes from the kitchen and is like What is the matter? I of course couldn't talk I was so angry and stormed up the stairs to what was my bedroom at Brea's house and slammed the door. Turned my CD player on high.
About an hour later Brea came home in as crappy of a mood as I was in. She basically went to her room to sulk like I was. And a half hour later Jake was upset by how Brea and I had been ordered us downstairs to eat the meal he had spent last few hours making. It was a shame Brea and I had been in such bad moods because that meal was so beautiful looking. Pecan crusted cod with a sweet sauce drizzle on it. Home made noodles for butter noodles and grilled mix veggies.
He demanded to know why Brea and I were so pissed off. So as we picked at the food Brea explained that the project she suggested her company work on and she had been making the most of the work with was about to be presented to the company so instead of letting Brea present it the company would let Brea's co-worker (who started at the company 3 years after Brea.) Present the project. The company explain to Brea it wasn't to offend her but the client would receive the presentation better from a man. They gave Brea a raise for her work BUT her co-worker was made division head with the corner office. The company did also give Brea an office and a fancy title BUT she was under her co-worker.
I explained that the who Homecoming nomination was a cruel joke that the Head cheerleader and popular girl were planning to make it so the votes would make them tie as Homecoming queen. That they expected me to have no votes and be embarrassed. ( more to come.)