What to take into account for first tie-up

Postby Boundgirl » Tue Apr 10, 2012 1:07 am

Hi,

when meeting up with someone for a tie-up first time (I'm the one whos going to be tied up) what is to be considered?
A basic level of trust should be there, of course, but what else?

Re: What to take into account for first tie-up

Postby cellofello » Wed Apr 11, 2012 4:31 am

I shall assume that you have already established that this is someone you trust not to be a rape-murderer. The next thing is for you to discuss beforehand what you want to do, whether you've done it before, and what your limits are. If you're trying something new, going slow is often advisable. For example, you see pictures on the web of women with their elbows tied touching behind their backs, but in reality that flexibility is not that common - and even for people who can do that, few can stand it for a long time. So if you are trying it for the first time, he should pull your elbows together slowly, with you ungagged, so you can tell him to stop - and to let you out if you feel any numbness starting. If you are going to be gagged, you need to arrange a signal to tell him there's some sort of problem.

Re: What to take into account for first tie-up

Postby xtc » Wed Apr 11, 2012 8:17 am

How about a pre-arranged phone call from a friend at a given time? (S)he will expect a reply if all is well.
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Re: What to take into account for first tie-up

Postby markusthe1st » Wed Apr 11, 2012 3:40 pm

First off, meet in a public place and bring a friend. You should be upfront about the friend and about your reason for having them along - you WANT to play and experience your fantasies, but you NEED to feel safe about it. If he has a problem with that, you shouldn't be meeting with him to play. If you can't bring a friend, take his pic with your cell and send it to someone you trust.

If you leave alone with him, your friend should know what car/tag number he's driving. Again, send this info if your friend can't be there to see it. If everything goes well with him you obviously don't need to do this every time.

If you make it to his place, be relaxed and have fun. Test him if you don't feel comfortable - ask him to adjust the knots on your wrists to see if he cares enough to respond. Set some time limits and see if he respects them. If so, you're off to a good start.

I've know women who had great experiences with meeting people, and a couple of horror stories too. Having the guy know that you have friends and connections that can find him will always keep you safe. Feel free to PM me if you want additional info - or want to hear the horror stories.
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