If you were tied up by someone you were attracted to, would you prefer to be tickled or kissed? Assume that was going to be the one time you were tied up for a month. And also assume you don't get both. You're either going to be tickled a lot, or kissed a lot.
Now imagine the reverse. You're the tie-er upper, and your victim is your heart's desire, all helpless and trussed up just by you, and for you. Would you prefer to kiss the victim, or give a good tickle? Again assume it's your one chance for a long time, and you only get to do one or the other. Which would you choose?
If it "depends", I would love to hear what it depends on and when you might choose one, and when you might choose the other.
I'm looking forward to your responses.