## Should I?

Post by myself1931 » Tue Nov 15, 2011 6:40 pm

I need some advice guys, and i would appreciate it if you could be serious about this.
First, some background information. I have a brother who is 15. Although he is only 2 years younger than me, the way he acts makes it seem like a decade or more separates us. You know how most people go through that selfish, everything is about me, I don't care about anyone else stage? Well, he entered that stage at 12, and has yet to grow out of it.
Lately, he has been getting into a lot of trouble, both at home and at school. While a weekly incident is normal, this is more than that. After one of the incidents at school, the police were called. So, last week he went into the school with my parents to talk to his VP, leaving me alone at home. Being the noisy person I am, i rushed up to his room. We both have briefcases that lock, and only we know the combo, no one else. However, I recently learned how to pick the lock, so I opened up his briefcase. Imagine my surprise when I see a black bikini top and bottom, skirt, lace up top, and high heels. Now, while this gave me a shock for a second, I see nothing wrong with this. He is 15, and spends a lot of time around girls finally. Plus, many people on this forum enjoy cross dressing, so I see no problem with it. Obviously, my parents don't know about it. And why would I tell them, then they might get the idea of searching my briefcase
If this had been all I found, no problem. However, looking around the briefcase, I also found a pair of ripped panties. Again, not a problem, he is a guy who spends alot of time around girls. However, the panties look like they were made for a young girl, around 11 or 12. So, this gave my some food for thought. Now, I'm not so sure whether i should tell my parents or not. After a week of thought, I am unable to decide. So, because I trust the members of this forum more than most of my friends and family, I will ask you guys. Should i tell my parents, or not?
Finally got out of that small town, I now live in Toronto. Anyone nearby feel free to hit me up.

### Re: Should I?

Post by Jack Roper » Tue Nov 15, 2011 8:35 pm

If your parents are judgmental then your brother may wind up hating you for it. Better to bring it up with him, but since he seems alienated from everyone at home perhaps you might check up on him to make sure he is not doing something stupid, like rape. Perhaps he got the panties from a girl willingly, to excite him. It would be nice to be able to discuss stuff like this with him as a true brother is normally able to do. Turn the situation around and ask yourself what you would want to happen to you with the same set of "facts." You might be surprised with your answer.
Good luck.

### Re: Should I?

Post by fanatic » Wed Nov 16, 2011 6:47 am

If your parents will really freak out, and you truly do love him, then you won't tell. I'f your parents are a BIT softer than if you really wanna yes. It depends on you, not us. Follow your heart. (Or if your interested, use it to hold it against him to make him stop this phase.)
I don't care what you think of me. It only matters what I care for. So back off.

### Re: Should I?

Post by mcsproot » Thu Nov 17, 2011 10:46 am

> fanatic wrote:If your parents will really freak out, and you truly do love him, then you won't tell. I'f your parents are a BIT softer than if you really wanna yes. It depends on you, not us. Follow your heart. (Or if your interested, use it to hold it against him to make him stop this phase.)

Why is everything not 'normal' always considered to be a 'phase'? So the guy likes crossdressing like how we like tying up games. Why is it ok to be into bondage but not crossdressing?
Or if you mean his behaviour, blackmail isn't going to sort it out. I'd wager he's gotten the wrong kind of friends, or it may be pent up frustration from having to keep this side of his life secret. Then again, everyone acts up as a teenager, just some act up more than others. The best hope is when he gets to the other side of his teens he'll mature a bit and stop this.
That aside, you should ask him about the panties. I'd guess they were ripped because he tried them on, but they were too small and they ripped. But he keeps them either because they feel nice, or he has another reason.
Unless you want an enemy for life, do not go to your parents about this unless you feel you have no other choice.
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### Re: Should I?

Post by sarwrductan » Thu Nov 17, 2011 5:21 pm

The panties could be ripped because he tried to get them on and he still has them to gag himself with?...If you talk to him you reveal you were in his briefcase Will you be willing to compromise the trust you have left between you two? You do seem to have reason to think he is acting out hostile towards others less his age or gender...Is there a reason ? If you tell the parents you reveal that you violated your brothers privacy. You reveal you and he has these briefcases (Are your parents aware they exist) Will they then want to look in yours or make you let your brother see in yours? As a teen ager with the secret of liking to be tied up in baby like clothes or girly tights things and squirming around with all the arousal it gave me There were times I'd resist prying questions and get all paranoid and defensive and 'd even deny it to those in authority over me when caught with the stuff ..."BY PUBLIC STANDARD, called acting out" and ended up my entire teen years in a psych ward of an Ohio institution. Say nothing...leave the panties sticking out of the brief case a little that he sees them then just watch, and see where it goes from there. Don't lie if he or parents ask you questions though. And yes, do follow your heart and training up
Those who walk forward always looking back, don't see that which makes them stumble

### Re: Should I?

Post by myself1931 » Thu Nov 17, 2011 6:42 pm

So, thanks for the advice guys. I'm not going to tell my parents, at least not yet. If he continues to get in trouble at school, I might. And, btw, my parents gave us the briefcases. If i do tell them, I won't tell them about the panties, just suggest they look in the briefcase. They think he is drinking in his room occasionally, so it would be a valid reason.
Finally got out of that small town, I now live in Toronto. Anyone nearby feel free to hit me up.

### Re: Should I?

Post by lonewolfandfriends » Tue Dec 27, 2011 8:12 am

update?

### Re: Should I?

Post by zanev » Fri Dec 30, 2011 2:54 pm

dont bump topics.
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