The thoughts of bondage and it's emotional buddies

Postby Ravenkin » Tue Aug 18, 2009 9:15 am

Before I bore you with the details, I'm seeking a little advice, not about the bondage itself but the thoughts and feelings behind it; if that makes sense.

To put this the best way I can, in basic form, I understand there's three types, people who like bondage for the restriction only, people who only like the "pleasure" side and thoses who like both.

With myself, I like being tied up, (otherwise why would I be here lol) but the thing is, if I'm subjected to bondage only, without pleasure, I like to be bound for a long time, but if there's "Pleasure" involved, then as soon as I'm pleasured, I want to be untied immediately; which is really confusing me because I thought if I loved bondage then I'd enjoy the rest of the time being tied up.

Sorry if this seems somewhat, stupid, but it's having a big affect on me; myself and a girl I like, mainly because I'm in love with her but my self-diplicated bondage side of me keeps peering in aswell, which I think is causing her to think I'm only interested in that side of things and not the romance and relationship side of life.

My apologies for the rambling but if anyone has any thoughts on this I'd appreciate a response, good or bad,
thank you

Ravenkin

Re: The thoughts of bondage and it's emotional buddies

Postby ducttapegirl » Tue Aug 18, 2009 1:44 pm

I know how you feel

when i do self bondage i always get tied up and dont feel anything if that makes sence. like it isnt fun or anything but i know i like bondage because i always think about being tied up


It confuzes me lol

Re: The thoughts of bondage and it's emotional buddies

Postby Ravenkin » Tue Aug 18, 2009 6:17 pm

Hey, thanks for commenting, I'm glad it isn't just me, I was expecting comments from people wondering what the hell I was talking about lol

Re: The thoughts of bondage and it's emotional buddies

Postby Fesselfan » Thu Aug 20, 2009 12:48 am

I think I understand your writings, too.
Maybe one reason for your 'problem':
after "pleasure" (no matter if kinky or not) people often have a sharp drop down emotionally. Just cuddle together and forget about the rest of the world. That may not fit well together with being tied up :-)


Cheers

FF
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Those who understand binary numeral system, and those who don't.

Re: The thoughts of bondage and it's emotional buddies

Postby Ravenkin » Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:18 am

Fesselfan wrote:I think I understand your writings, too.
Maybe one reason for your 'problem':
after "pleasure" (no matter if kinky or not) people often have a sharp drop down emotionally. Just cuddle together and forget about the rest of the world. That may not fit well together with being tied up :-)


Cheers

FF


Thanks fesselfan, I think that might be it, I know it isn't much of a problem, its just something which concerned me

Thanks
Ravenkin