## How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by SolidSnickerdoodle » Sun Dec 11, 2016 3:42 am

This is a scenario that I originally thought I'd never have to face. However, thanks to pieces like 50 Shades of Grey (Cursed be thy name), ball gags in Hollywood, and pretty much anything with Charlie Sheen in it, bondage is becoming more of a relevant topic. At least more so than other fetishes.
With that being said, there's been a few times that the topic has come up in my company. 50 Shades of Grey did a spectacular job of making my parents' disdain for bondage known. Basically guaranteed that I kept that part of my life locked away. But also, with me being 19, my college friends have begun dating around as can be expected. I say this because just a few days ago one of my friends came down for a visit. He starts getting on the topic of this "crazy" ex-girlfriend that he used to have, and it turns out that she liked bondage.
This is where it gets a little interesting for me. Because here I am, in the company of a long time friend, trying to pull my absolute best poker face. It's always a little bit funny listening to non-bondage people try to wrap their heads around the fetish. He seemed so repulsed by the whole thing and tells me that he never actually took her up on it even when she asked (to which my mind replied, "YOU FOOL!"). Interestingly enough this girl went to our high school. I only talked to her a few times, but it never even remotely occurred to me that she would like bondage. Guess it just shows that you never know.
My approach to these situations thus far has been to nod, exhale, look confused, and say 'Well, hey. Whatever you're into, you're into." Not total disdain, but not praise and understanding either. I'm probably not doing her any service, or him. I suppose I could have offered something up. Something to sort of rationalize it. But I prefer to just keep that stuff to myself. Do you guys just go for it, or do you sit back quietly and observe? Bondage is no doubt becoming more common, but it doesn't exactly seem like everyone's on board.
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by tieup2008 » Sun Dec 11, 2016 4:18 am

If the subject comes up then I usually stay a bit quiet.
One ex colleague worked with someone once who said he'd tie people up who broke anything which started a conversation
Same colleague was interested to know about Halloween cuffing too!
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by GeekGirlGagged » Sun Dec 11, 2016 4:37 am

I think it really matters how bondage os brought up in the conversation. Is the speaker negative to begin with? Interested? Jokey.......?

### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by Lake Lover » Sun Dec 11, 2016 4:47 am

Since he went out of his way to bring the subject up to you, just maybe he was VERY interested in your reply. You should tell your friend that if SOMEONE you know and trust asks to tie you up, you would agree but 'keep it our little secret'. Then throw out the hook and see if he bites: "Like if you asked to tie me up, I would probably say yeah, sure, because I have been bashful and sheltered all my life and never got tied up, buy I wouldn't mind if a friend asked to tie me up."

### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by Illest » Sun Dec 11, 2016 6:27 am

Ironically, even though we've never had a session, there's been quite a few times where me or my gf make a casual joke involving taping/tying/hogtying each other at work. Doesn't help that her mom came through my line with pink duct tape to be rung up and made a sly home of "Gotta keep things interesting;"

### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by tieup2008 » Sun Dec 11, 2016 6:43 am

> GeekGirlGagged wrote:I think it really matters how bondage os brought up in the conversation. Is the speaker negative to begin with? Interested? Jokey.......?

1st conversation with my person was suggesting the idea of tying anyone up who broke anything was a good idea. Good as she'd thought her work PC had a virus and was asking when I could check the PC. So I said in the conversation that I'm all for kinky bondagr, which got a positive comment and a lol.
2nd conversation was about Halloween and what costume I was going in. Cop of course with real handcuffs and said previously someone had a go in them. She said 'Nothing like a bit of restraining' in a reply.
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by GeekGirlGagged » Sun Dec 11, 2016 8:03 am

> tieup2008 wrote:

> > GeekGirlGagged wrote:I think it really matters how bondage os brought up in the conversation. Is the speaker negative to begin with? Interested? Jokey.......?

> 1st conversation with my person was suggesting the idea of tying anyone up who broke anything was a good idea. Good as she'd thought her work PC had a virus and was asking when I could check the PC. So I said in the conversation that I'm all for kinky bondagr, which got a positive comment and a lol.
> 2nd conversation was about Halloween and what costume I was going in. Cop of course with real handcuffs and said previously someone had a go in them. She said 'Nothing like a bit of restraining' in a reply.

It wasn'tme was it?

### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by drawscore » Sun Dec 11, 2016 9:03 am

Many times, I just blew it off as a childhood adventure. If someone asked my if I'd ever been tied up, I'd just say something like "Oh, yeah! My friends did it a lot when we were kids. We played Cowboys and Indians, Cops and Robbers, and even challenged each other to get loose from one another's tie ups. I haven't done anything like that recently, but I thought it was a lot of fun when I was 10-12 years old, and there have been times when I wish I could go back and re-live those days again."
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by Jason Toddman » Sun Dec 11, 2016 9:31 am

> SolidSnickerdoodle wrote:He seemed so repulsed by the whole thing and tells me that he never actually took her up on it even when she asked (to which my mind replied, "YOU FOOL!"). Interestingly enough this girl went to our high school. I only talked to her a few times, but it never even remotely occurred to me that she would like bondage. Guess it just shows that you never know.

Sooo, has it ever occurred to you to try to get re-acquainted with her now that you know?
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by tieup2008 » Sun Dec 11, 2016 1:40 pm

> GeekGirlGagged wrote:

> > tieup2008 wrote:

> > > GeekGirlGagged wrote:I think it really matters how bondage os brought up in the conversation. Is the speaker negative to begin with? Interested? Jokey.......?

> > 1st conversation with my person was suggesting the idea of tying anyone up who broke anything was a good idea. Good as she'd thought her work PC had a virus and was asking when I could check the PC. So I said in the conversation that I'm all for kinky bondagr, which got a positive comment and a lol.
> > 2nd conversation was about Halloween and what costume I was going in. Cop of course with real handcuffs and said previously someone had a go in them. She said 'Nothing like a bit of restraining' in a reply.

> It wasn'tme was it?

No unfortunately it wasn't Could always accept a tie up as payment for fixing a laptop!
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by fratboydanny » Sun Dec 11, 2016 8:15 pm

I have only had this come up one time with a guy I went to high school with. We were catching up and the tv was on. A preview for NCIS or something showed and the preview included a guy tied up. My friend referenced bondage and we had a talk about it. I told him how I had gotten tied up after he told me he once tied a a woman he met in the bar who asked to be tied up. He mentioned another time when he and another guy we went to school with went back to a woman's place and she tried o get the two of them tied up together. He said they declined but that our other friend wound up getting tied by her a few times. I made some comment that I would not have declined...he just shook it off and made a comment basically to each his own.

### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by SolidSnickerdoodle » Sun Dec 11, 2016 10:48 pm

> Jason Toddman wrote:

> > SolidSnickerdoodle wrote:He seemed so repulsed by the whole thing and tells me that he never actually took her up on it even when she asked (to which my mind replied, "YOU FOOL!"). Interestingly enough this girl went to our high school. I only talked to her a few times, but it never even remotely occurred to me that she would like bondage. Guess it just shows that you never know.

> Sooo, has it ever occurred to you to try to get re-acquainted with her now that you know?

Haha. The thought never really crossed my mind. Like I said I only talked to her a few times, and she was usually with him most of those times. After they split she kind of dropped off the radar. Still, from what I've gathered she was kind of a bitch and ended up really screwing over my friend (no pun intended). Bros before bondage hoes as they say.
Still, it is an interesting piece of information to know. I'm not about to go around and spread that news primarily because I wouldn't want someone spilling my secret. But it is interesting. When I was in school I often wondered how many people around me liked in it secret. I wondered, if I were to look through some sort of "bondage filter", how many people around me would be highlighted? Being an establishment full of horny teenagers, I imagine it would be at least 20%, but I was never sure. Wouldn't that have been a nice tool to have?
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by truly_trussed » Sun Dec 11, 2016 11:10 pm

I've heard the estimate too that roughly 20% of the population is kinky.
For those who've graduated high school and gone on to college / university more and more places of higher education are featuring Kink Clubs. Nothing like that when I matriculated. I had to settle for the campus radio station and geography club as an extra-curricular activity. The times they are a changin'.
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### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by Jay Feely » Mon Dec 12, 2016 12:49 am

I would express I enjoy bondage
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.

### Re: How do you react when bondage is brought up in a conversation?

Post by Jason Toddman » Mon Dec 12, 2016 8:05 am

> SolidSnickerdoodle wrote:I wondered, if I were to look through some sort of "bondage filter", how many people around me would be highlighted? Being an establishment full of horny teenagers, I imagine it would be at least 20%, but I was never sure. Wouldn't that have been a nice tool to have?

I used to imagine having such an "app" when i was a kid - long before there were computers or apps. i didn't need something like that when i was in high school or college; I was very lucky that way. However I definitely wish i could have had something like that after i left college, when good TUGs partners were vary much harder (for me at least) to find.
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