## How would you convince people to be tied up?

Post by Jay Feely » Fri Mar 04, 2011 12:57 pm

There is two parts to getting someone to allow you to tie them up.
First, you have to gain their interest in the subject.
Then, you have to convince them to be tied up
For a newcomer, it can be difficult to allow themself to be put in a vulnerable position like this.
So, how would you persuade them to let you tie them up?
You will have to subdue me to restrain me. I been a bad boy so make sure you torture me too with anything but pain.

### Re: How would you convince people to be tied up?

Post by cool2799 » Sat Mar 05, 2011 12:36 pm

you tickle them a little and they will hold you back, then you say I think I need to tie you up and teach you a lesson. done!

### Re: How would you convince people to be tied up?

Post by cool2799 » Sat Mar 05, 2011 12:38 pm

but some people just dont like it which is a shame

### Re: How would you convince people to be tied up?

Post by sarwrductan » Sat Mar 12, 2011 9:32 am

It was hard enough to get people to tie me up...but when I did succeed at it and they'd ask,"Man, Why do you let people do this to you? Why do you like this? etc" then I'd tell them," if you really want to know then let me out of my tie up and I'll tie you up" That never worked but they stopped asking me why.?????
Those who walk forward always looking back, don't see that which makes them stumble

### Re: How would you convince people to be tied up?

Post by SamanthaBoundx » Sat Mar 12, 2011 10:03 am

I haven't had much experience in tying other people up - I'm usually submissive! I've only ever tied 3 people but I really haven't had much difficulty in persuading them. Infact, in each of the cases, they have actually ASKED me to tie them (for a change from me being the sub).
I've always found it easy to introduce TUGs to people too! I must be quite lucky though, haha!

### Re: How would you convince people to be tied up?

Post by markusthe1st » Sat Mar 12, 2011 11:35 am

No simple answer on this one, because breaking the ice by asking the question could seriously alter a budding friendship or romance. I once had a girlfriend back in high school that was watching this comedy show where an actress was tied to a chair by a "friendly" burglar. We started laughing about it together, and I said, "Think it's funny, huh? I guess I'll just have to tie you up." She said stuff like, "Oh no you don't, you wouldn't." The more she "protested", the more I realized it would be okay. So I finally just grabbed some rope and did it.
So, using the TV is always a good start - you can see how they react at least. If you're already romantic, try and pin her wrists down when you're on top - take the initiative, be a little dominant. If you're standing, pin them behind her. If she writhes with a little pleasure over the feeling of being "secured", it's probably safe to introduce some real bonds.
Also, honesty upfront is always the best policy. If you get lucky, I would advise against pulling out some kind of toybag full of ropes, ball gags, whips, etc. Start out small first - it's more fun to grow together anyway.
Walk the mile first... then have the fun!

### Re: How would you convince people to be tied up?

Post by SamanthaBoundx » Sat Mar 12, 2011 11:43 am

> markusthe1st wrote:Also, honesty upfront is always the best policy. If you get lucky, I would advise against pulling out some kind of toybag full of ropes, ball gags, whips, etc. Start out small first - it's more fun to grow together anyway.

Definitely great advice there!
I think the reason why some people get turned down for TUGs is because they scare their partner/friend off before they can get into it. I've always thought that the best place to start is with absolutely tiny things that barely even constitute as bondage - like using a blindfold or as you suggested, pinning them down. Any kind of gag or restraint is liekly to put off any first timer, especially if they aren't sure that they like the idea.
After they're comfortable with little things, then you can try and move things on. I would really advise talking about that kind of thing before you do it though. If you aren't ready to talk to them about more hardcore stuff, then you don't trust them enough to be doing bondage with them in the first place.